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  1. I'm kind of bamboozled over this, a childhood friend cut his hair because he felt he was being discriminated at work and not getting a promotion for wearing a phaag. He would be 42 and this left me a bit confused, does this really happen these days with all the wokeness going around or just a mid life crisis.
  2. I took amrit a few years ago and everything was going well until I started loosing track of my nitnem and started hanging with the wrong crowd. I still did not engage in any bujjar kurrehits such as beadabi of kesh, taking intoxicants, or kaam. However, I was not consistent with my nitnem. Last year I decided to stop wearking my kirpan since I felt like I was showing off when I wasn't really doing my nitnem, I was portraying my bana without the bani. Since then, i have changed a lot and have began to get on track, and focusing on the areas I have been lacking in. I constantly regret every tha
  3. Waheguru ji ka Khalsa Waheguru ji Ki Fateh I am a 20 year old girl living in Canada with my parents. A few years ago, we went to visit family back in India where I met my childhood bestfriend who I grew up playing with (they were our neighbors). When I came back to Canada, we started talking and became really close. When my parents found out I talk to him, they got extremely mad, threatened to kick me out of the house, and said I was gonna ruin their “izzat” in society. I don’t understand what I am doing wrong. I only lived in India for a few years of my life so how is this wrong? My dad
  4. Really Sorry for engine this topic up! I am 17 years old. I took amrit at the age of 12 because I felt very connected with the guru at the time and i knew and I still know that the main objective in this life is to become jot Vich jot with waheguru, and the first step to doing so is Amrit for a Sikh, that's why I took it at an early age because I felt like I didn't want to waste my time as we don't know we are gonna die, anyway..it was going well till I was about 14/15, at 14/15 puberty hit and I felt more prone to 5 evils, I got involved with the wrong crowd, and The effect of this was I sto
  5. plz watch the below video. does it say we shud chant matho murari?
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    Hello, I am 21, since i was 15 my life has gone downhill. I am not a baptised Sikh. I have a rare skin disease which has left my back and other parts of my body heavily scarred and difficult to even look at. I broke my leg months before my GCSE exams and was bed ridden for months, even now my knee is not completely fine. I have OCD (not the fake ocd like you see in social media) where I have horrible intrusive thoughts 24/7 and I find it difficult to even do prayers. I have done prayers for the past year every day in the morning. I used to recite chaupai sahib but now can only listen as m
  7. i am 18 years old, pursuing computer engineering in a well reputed college in mumbai. i have always had cool friends and supporting parents. but, i've never been a staunch believer in religion. i always find religion to be pointless, following what some person(s) said/wrote hundreds or thousands or years ago and having to follow their rules and the way they want us to lead our lives just doesn't seem right to me at all. i've been smoking weed since a year, and quite regularly. my grades are not affected by,and i've not been as irritable i was since a long time. i never intended to let my paren
  8. I was asked this question today when I was telling my brother about how we shouldn’t go to the Mandir and I couldn’t asnwer it.
  9. My husband is Amritdhaari Sikh and he is divorcing me after domestic violence and abuse .i still believed that my husband loved me I can't let go of the feeling of love towards him My husband is Amritdhaari Sikh and he is divorcing me after domestic violence and abuse and making false criminal charges on me just after 6 months of our marriage.. I was married here and came from India and was confined at home for 6 months..there were many daily instances of differential treatment with me and of abuse with me daily..i still believed that my husband loved me but after he put me through the mo
  10. I did post this yesterday however I am not sure whether it didn’t come through or the admins thought it was a joke or someone being silly and did not allow it. However I can assure you that albeit it sounds quite silly and quite yucky I am genuine asking this question to the cyber sangat for advise as I don’t know whether this scenario requires to be brought for peshi or not. There is two parts to this: I know this sounds silly and a little yucky but I tend to pick my nose regular as I get a build up (possibly because I have a lot of nostril hair) and many times when I pick my nose
  11. Dear Admins, Twice I have sent a post here in regards whether I need to go pesh, yes I agree it was little discriptive however I am posting in the gupt section to get some advice. Please can you tell me your reasons for not posting. I thought this was the whole point of a gupt section. I am thinking about this regular whether I have done something wrong or not and need some guidance because asking this guidance face to face is quite embarrassing. Thank you
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    Rishta problem

    So a rishti wali had given my mother a potential match for me to go a visit, the girl ticks all the boxes in what we are looking for, she is tall, pretty, educated and her family are quite well off. I went to meet her and the family along with my mother, father and two sisters and we thought the family came across nice, the mother of the daughter was a little over bearing but we just put it down to nerves, I had some "alone" time with the girl in the front room and I got to chat a little with her, she seems down to earth and is even more pretty in real life than on the photo, I must admit
  13. You may find this strange and a little funny but just wanted some genuine guidance from mature cyber sangat. I at times pick my nose (I know sorry for yucky detail) and withit my nose hairs get pulled out - is this seen wrong for an amritdhari? Should I be more careful? What do others do or feel about this situation. My main issue is that before as a habit whilst watching something I would twearl my moustache, however for sometime I have been keep putting my finger in my nose and scraping the side of the nostril and thinking to pick my nose which then turns to feeling the long hairs
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    My 'friend' started questioning my beliefs and it did annoy me. She is a strong Christian and is homophobic and doesn't like muslims because she said it says in the Quran that Muslims are told to kill Christians, anyway my other Sikh friend said that we believe that there is one god and there are different paths. She said "how can you believe that if there are different religions and one God, We believe in one god and thats Jesus" that really annoyed me because I am already doubting religion and she is making matters worse, please help me..I don't even know what I asking but its been disturbin
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    How Do I Solve This Problem?

    Need help guyssssss! So i've been with this girl for about a year, im a baptised Sikh, she is not of Sikh faith. We;ve never physically had sex with each other or physically kissed each other on the lips etc. however we have hugged, felt each other etc. She understood that we would never cross the line of sex and kissing because it would be a bujjer kureit and would ultimately affect my Baptism. I want to know from you all whats the best way of staying away from these situations? I do feel bad that i get in these situations where it nearly leads to intercourse but we decide to stop because
  16. I've heard time and time again that's its wrong for Sikhs to take pride in something we've done or achieved since its all "given from God." But then how can we be punished for our sins? How can we take responsibility for our sins but not our good deeds?
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    Confused And Lost

    I keep making same mistakes the hair mistakes incidents are in no order and did not post all the incidents as there too many I AM lost and sorry I dont ever want my hair cut bu my mind becomes lazy sometimes and this happens READ......................................1st incident there was a pimple on my nose and I took out the pimple and afterward thought did I just break a hair and I saw on my finger there was a broken hair....................... 2nd incident I was getting clothes out of my laundry and was bent down and saw a pulling of my hair I told to my self its ok and kept trying to find
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    Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh This probably seems like a stupid question but it got me feeling really guilty. At uni we have coursework, some include take home pieces and online quizzes. For the online quizzes/tests and some coursework's we are meant to do them on our own. But me and my friends we usually do it as a group and help each other. This makes me feel really guilty, and makes me feel if i done something really bad. I know this is a stupid question, but its really annoying me and disturbing me. Everyone at in my class does this, am I doing something wrong ? But th
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    Sexual Abuse And Opinion

    Hi! I am 21 year old girl and I want to move out from my house. The reasons are my mom had a second marriage and my step-dad (never seen or know anything about my real father) raped me since the age of 7 I was not able to understand till the age of 12 what was happening all I knew was that I didn’t want him to hurt me further. Since my mom did night shifts but when she quit work one day I mustered up the courage to tell her what was happening, around the age of 11. She told me to keep quiet and the same happened again when she returned back to work. But it was worse because since I had told my
  20. who is this girl from dragons den is she sikh?
  21. Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji K Fateh I am a young, 19 year old amritdharee female. I am born and raised in a typical punjabi family, however, we all do paath and are well into learning about Sikhi. I am the only daughter in the family, I used to be the girl who was into her, makeup, hair styling(i've never cut my hair) and basically all the usual girly stuff a typical girl is interested in. From a young age I have been attending gurdwara, sikhi classes and doing kirtan on the vaja. In 2013, we had our annual dastar day, where I tied the dastar for the first time and I fell in love with i
  22. I almost have a six pack now but I am now thinking what was the point all this time? To impress the females? I am a bit confused now...
  23. How come there are 79 guests online and I have to login to view the forum? Am I under any moderation or anything please let me know ADMIN. Thank you ji
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