Sibling Rivalry

[Guest Papi]

all this makes me crazy sometimes and i feel like running away from everything. day by day i wish to be alone.

even tho i'm the younger one i can relate to that all too well. can't really do much about it tho. if you confront your parents, they'll simply deny it. i seen it happen. but i'm sure they are not doing it intentionally. so maybe if you brought it up in a nice way.... :D

[Down2Earth Soul]

its not that much painful if you are younger. but being eldest it results as shame and embarassment sometimes. at that point i wish i wasnt even born.

just a few days back my sis was making mehndi design on my hand and father came there and asked me"can YOU also make such nice designs like she does" (he knows very well that my taste is in electronic things but still he asked, and i felt as he was trying to let me down. i just wanted to scratch my skin off and bang things on floor and yell why the hell you are comparing us. i think my father needs to accept that two persons cant be that same and everyone has different qualities. sometimes it also makes me cry.

[Guest PRITAM SINGH KHALSA]

The grass is always greener on the otherside.

My parents neglect me because I am a Sikh.period. They see me about a couple hours a year now, which is fine by me, if thats what they want.

I adopted Granthi Harnam Singh Ji at a local Gurdwara as my Grandpa (both my grandpas died 20 years before I was born) and he is in India right now for a few months so I miss my Grandpa. I look as him as the father of all the Sangat and all the Sangat is my real family. If my parents want to favor my brothers and sister then that is fine because they are all older and they all moved back in with mommy, while I was t5he youngest and was kicked out when I was 18 and they werent until 22-23 and then moved right back in. They are lost in the real world, they only know what mom and dad can do to help them. They said it is too hard to live on your own. I own my house and Im supposed to be less off than them? NO, I have it millions of times better than they can show me. For one I have Sikhi which has shown me that all that is visible is false and only Naad of Gurbani is the only true thing in the creation. For two I could have lived a sinful life of argueing about favortism within my family without Sikhi or I could have had the world in the palm of my hand and in your opinion which would you have chosen?? I look at all the Sikhs with families as they are lucky that there entire family are Sikhs, and some overlook that because they arent thankful for that blessing of a loving Sikh family. I have to stop wishing and move on with my family. They give me the two faced treatment because at family gathering they talk behind my back (they are all christian all 1000 people in my family[We are scottish and my moms madien name is Scott] Scottland was named after my families ancestors) I am a Sikh, I look like a Sikh, I act like a Sikh, I talk like a Sikh, and they are prejudice about another culture. (DOnt get me wrong I like playing in all the Scottish games we do ( We really do tournaments with the family and there are like hundreds of people entered, we have trophies and all that. It is really fun. Basically huge family) They actually call each other on the phone to talk $#*! I have caught my mom many times. Its all because I am a Sikh,and for no other reason. Imagine your mom or dad which you are complaining about doing that to you, almost like if you think the sky is beautiful, and then it still isnt worth complaining about. Just let it go in one ear and out the other because only Guru is your friend , even over your family and friends. You will always have some type of hard feelings from others but never from Guru. When ever you are saying they love your brother/sister more than you then its because you dont love your brother/sister as much as you should. Family is there to support eachother and to be there for eachother, so if you have the chance to give love to your family then dont hesitate. My family is slow to adopt there own religious teachings but Im not going to make that same mistake. My family hates it when I only show love because they want me to crack, then they can feel better because right now being humble is a threat to my mom :D crazy world

[wjkk wjkf]

I get what ur saying sis, I get the exact same problems at home...i just try as best as i can to ignore it and dont let it ocme between me and my siblings...me being the eldest of 4. It can be hard but Papi Ji ias right parents expect you to lead as best as you can; sometimes they do or say things withouth thinking but dont think abut it too much, do some simran or listen to some kirtan or if you're really vexed...punch a pillow? lol

[Down2Earth Soul]

your right sis, i shouldnt be bothered by such things. even i try to ignore at times and feel being much responsible also doesnt harm. but when it comes to comparing i feel like i cant help it. i have deep faith in God and consider Him as my true friend and guardian. whenever im low it comes to my mind that nobody on this earth is mine, not even my parents and siblings i just belong to God.

[Lionchild]

has anyone of you ever faced this problem ?? :D

please share

When i was living (for a short time) with my relatives, we often got into fights, well kind of playful fights. I think it is natural for this to happen, especially if you have like 8 brothers and sisters like in my family :D