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Dear Sangat Jee,

Im sorry to bother you again i don't know what it is at the moment but i cant' seem to stay in CK. I have taken a cyber-hukamnama and it was one of the best ever, meant so much to me it brought a tear to my eye. I am sick of being pressurised into maya and my parents keep expecting me to behave like a gora teen should. I am pressurised into relationships, go out partying with friends and just enjoy myself more. I don't want that, i just want the saadh sangat and my guru. Being mid way through my teens its increasingly difficult to balance this double life. I love my family don't get me wrong but since being banned from gurdwara for over a year etc etc im at my witts end as i am not getting the full advantage of this precious life. I know if i break out of this shell im going to be shunned as discussed previously.

Please may you help me,

Your slave forever, Khalsa 123

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Dear Sangat Jee,

Im sorry to bother you again i don't know what it is at the moment but i cant' seem to stay in CK. I have taken a cyber-hukamnama and it was one of the best ever, meant so much to me it brought a tear to my eye. I am sick of being pressurised into maya and my parents keep expecting me to behave like a gora teen should. I am pressurised into relationships, go out partying with friends and just enjoy myself more. I don't want that, i just want the saadh sangat and my guru. Being mid way through my teens its increasingly difficult to balance this double life. I love my family don't get me wrong but since being banned from gurdwara for over a year etc etc im at my witts end as i am not getting the full advantage of this precious life. I know if i break out of this shell im going to be shunned as discussed previously.

Please may you help me,

Your slave forever, Khalsa 123

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ke Fateh

Pha Ji Im sorry to here that your family still do not alow you to go gurdwara

but remember jio it is guru ji testing us

yes you should listen to your parents and speak nicly with them

however i suggest if somehow you can try to get guru jis darshen each day by going gurdwara each day even if it means just for one min

if you dont give up and keep on trying

guru ji is just testing our faith

faith is very important

at amritvilla wake up when your parents are asleep and try to recite naam simran and if you can try to recite your nitnem

or if you know your parnts will notice you then stay in bed but kep on wispering Va-he-gu-ru with all the love you can

and jio try to do as much seva and be as kind as you can to your parents that will help alot

if your parents do tell you off do not loose your cool just wait for them to Finnish shouting (keep on thinking of vaheguru in your head all the time) and then as calmly s you can apolagise to them even tho you didnt do anything wrong

accept this as a test of faith from guru ji

do not give up

trust me this can help alot

never forget vaheguru

recite vaheguru ji with as much love as you can from the heart

try to feel it from your heart always keep a ipod or mp3 with you people will think your listning to music when realy your listning to simran

never stop listning to simran even when your asleep (lock your room door so your parents dont know :) )

but do NOT lie to them

if they ask then tell them

and if you get punished accept it as a gift from the great lord

sorry

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ke Fateh

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Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ke Fateh

I think Todays Hukamnama relates to this very well

RAAG SOOHEE, ASHTAPADEES, FOURTH MEHL, SECOND HOUSE:

ONE UNIVERSAL CREATOR GOD. BY THE GRACE OF THE TRUE GURU:

If only someone would come, and lead me to meet my Darling Beloved; I would sell myself to him. || 1 || I long for the Blessed Vision of the Lords Darshan. When the Lord shows Mercy unto me, then I meet the True Guru; I meditate on the Name of the Lord, Har, Har. || 1 || Pause || If You will bless me with happiness, then I will worship and adore You. Even in pain, I will meditate on You. || 2 || Even if You give me hunger, I will still feel satisfied; I am joyful, even in the midst of sorrow. || 3 || I would cut my mind and body apart into pieces, and offer them all to You; I would burn myself in fire. || 4 || I wave the fan over You, and carry water for You; whatever You give me, I take. || 5 || Poor Nanak has fallen at the Lords Door; please, O Lord, unite me with Yourself, by Your Glorious Greatness. || 6 || Taking out my eyes, I place them at Your Feet; after travelling over the entire earth, I have come to understand this. || 7 || If You seat me near You, then I worship and adore You. Even if You beat me and drive me out, I will still meditate on You. || 8 || If people praise me, the praise is Yours. Even if they slander me, I will not leave You. || 9 || If You are on my side, then anyone can say anything. But if I were to forget You, then I would die. || 10 || I am a sacrifice, a sacrifice to my Guru; falling at His Feet, I surrender to the Saintly Guru. || 11 || Poor Nanak has gone insane, longing for the Blessed Vision of the Lords Darshan. || 12 || Even in violent storms and torrential rain, I go out to catch a glimpse of my Guru. || 13 || Even though the oceans and the salty seas are very vast, the GurSikh will cross over it to get to his Guru. || 14 || Just as the mortal dies without water, so does the Sikh die without the Guru. || 15 || Just as the earth looks beautiful when the rain falls, so does the Sikh blossom forth meeting the Guru. || 16 || I long to be the servant of Your servants; I call upon You reverently in prayer. || 17 || Nanak offers this prayer to the Lord, that he may meet the Guru, and find peace. || 18 || You Yourself are the Guru, and You Yourself are the chaylaa, the disciple; through the Guru, I meditate on You. || 19 || Those who serve You, become You. You preserve the honor of Your servants. || 20 || O Lord, Your devotional worship is a treasure over-flowing. One who loves You, is blessed with it. || 21 || That humble being alone receives it, unto whom You bestow it. All other clever tricks are fruitless. || 22 || Remembering, remembering, remembering my Guru in meditation, my sleeping mind is awakened. || 23 || Poor Nanak begs for this one blessing, that he may become the slave of the slaves of the Lord. || 24 || Even if the Guru rebukes me, He still seems very sweet to me. And if He actually forgives me, that is the Gurus greatness. || 25 || That which Gurmukh speaks is certified and approved. Whatever the self-willed manmukh says is not accepted. || 26 || Even in the cold, the frost and the snow, the GurSikh still goes out to see his Guru. || 27 || All day and night, I gaze upon my Guru; I install the Gurus Feet in my eyes. || 28 || I make so many efforts for the sake of the Guru; only that which pleases the Guru is accepted and approved. || 29 || Night and day, I worship the Gurus Feet in adoration; have Mercy upon me, O my Lord and Master. || 30 || The Guru is Nanaks body and soul; meeting the Guru, he is satisfied and satiated. || 31 || Nanaks God is perfectly permeating and all-pervading. Here and there and everywhere, the Lord of the Universe. || 32 || 1 ||

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ke Fateh

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