The Life Of Women

[Groovey]

Basically what lay Buddhists are told to follow and thought I'd share it here as i think its interesting and also is similar to Sikhism in a way.

Basically their are 4 types of women,

1 - those who become angry for slight causes, who have changeable minds, who are greedy and jealous of others happiness and who have no sympathy for the needs of others.

2 - those who grow angry over trifling affairs who are fickle and greedy but who do not feel envious of others happiness and who are sympathetic for the needs of others.

3 - those who are more broad minded and do not become angry very often, who know how to control a greedy mind but are not able to avoid feeling jealousy and who are not sympathetic for the needs of others.

4- those who are broad minded who can restrain feelings of greed and retain calmness of mind, who do not feel envious of others and who are sympathetic for the needs of others.

When a women marries she should make a promise to herself that she must honor and sreve the parents of her husband after all they have given them all the advantages they have and are wise protectors so should promise herself to serve them with appreciation and help whenever she can.

another promise is " I must be respectful of my husbands teacher ( this can be reffered to Guru Sahib) because he has given my husband sacred teachings and we could not live as human beings without the guidance of them"

" i must cultivate my mind so that i will be able to understand my husband and be able to help him in his work. I must never be indifferent to his interests, thinking they are only his affairs but not mine"

another one is to not waste the income of the husband or income of the family for selfish purposes.

The relation of husband and wife was not designed merely for their convenience. t has deeper significance than the mere association of two physical bodies in one house. Husband and wife should take advantage of the intimacies of their association to help each other training their minds in the holy teachings.

An old couple, an "ideal couple" once came to Buddha and said " we were married after we had acquainted in childhood and there has never been a cloud in our happiness. Please tell us if we can be remarried in the next life"

The Buddha replied. "if you both have exactly the same faith, if you both received the teachings in exactly the same way, if you preform charity in the same way and if you have the same wisdom, then you will have the same mind in the next birth."

The true significance of family life is the opportunity it gives for mutual encouragement and aid on the path of enlightenment.

[no_0ne]

Basically what lay Buddhists are told to follow and thought I'd share it here as i think its interesting and also is similar to Sikhism in a way.

Basically their are 4 types of women,

1 - those who become angry for slight causes, who have changeable minds, who are greedy and jealous of others happiness and who have no sympathy for the needs of others.

2 - those who grow angry over trifling affairs who are fickle and greedy but who do not feel envious of others happiness and who are sympathetic for the needs of others.

3 - those who are more broad minded and do not become angry very often, who know how to control a greedy mind but are not able to avoid feeling jealousy and who are not sympathetic for the needs of others.

4- those who are broad minded who can restrain feelings of greed and retain calmness of mind, who do not feel envious of others and who are sympathetic for the needs of others.

When a women marries she should make a promise to herself that she must honor and sreve the parents of her husband after all they have given them all the advantages they have and are wise protectors so should promise herself to serve them with appreciation and help whenever she can.

another promise is " I must be respectful of my husbands teacher ( this can be reffered to Guru Sahib) because he has given my husband sacred teachings and we could not live as human beings without the guidance of them"

" i must cultivate my mind so that i will be able to understand my husband and be able to help him in his work. I must never be indifferent to his interests, thinking they are only his affairs but not mine"

another one is to not waste the income of the husband or income of the family for selfish purposes.

What a whole load of bull. Thats got nothing to do with Sikhi. Guru Ji didn't make a list of different types of women and make seperate roles for both genders.

All the different types of women you have stated can also go for men. There is no difference. Islam also states about these different types of women. Sikhi is unique.

The relation of husband and wife was not designed merely for their convenience. t has deeper significance than the mere association of two physical bodies in one house. Husband and wife should take advantage of the intimacies of their association to help each other training their minds in the holy teachings.

An old couple, an "ideal couple" once came to Buddha and said " we were married after we had acquainted in childhood and there has never been a cloud in our happiness. Please tell us if we can be remarried in the next life"

The Buddha replied. "if you both have exactly the same faith, if you both received the teachings in exactly the same way, if you preform charity in the same way and if you have the same wisdom, then you will have the same mind in the next birth."

The true significance of family life is the opportunity it gives for mutual encouragement and aid on the path of enlightenment.

Thats fine, I agree with that ^^ but as sikhs we shouldn't be concerned about our next life since we should try and make this our last life and should be more concerned about our relation with Vaheguru.

[Groovey]

There are many different types of women in a wordly sense yes and MEN to if it'll make you happy.

When a women marries she should make a promise to herself that she must honor and sreve the parents of her husband after all they have given them all the advantages they have and are wise protectors so should promise herself to serve them with appreciation and help whenever she can.

Well alot of Sikh , Punjabi women do this whether they make it a promise or not

I must be respectful of my husbands teacher because he has given my husband sacred teachings and we could not live as human beings without the guidance of them

I can see where you might disagree here as a couple should ideally have the same teacher, but with inter racial marriages etc.. this is not always the case.

i must cultivate my mind so that i will be able to understand my husband and be able to help him in his work. I must never be indifferent to his interests, thinking they are only his affairs but not mine

Whats wrong with a women helping her husand of course a man should help the women to and take intrest in each others affairs.

[MPKaur]

Basically what lay Buddhists are told to follow and thought I'd share it here as i think its interesting and also is similar to Sikhism in a way.

Basically their are 4 types of women,

1 - those who become angry for slight causes, who have changeable minds, who are greedy and jealous of others happiness and who have no sympathy for the needs of others.

2 - those who grow angry over trifling affairs who are fickle and greedy but who do not feel envious of others happiness and who are sympathetic for the needs of others.

3 - those who are more broad minded and do not become angry very often, who know how to control a greedy mind but are not able to avoid feeling jealousy and who are not sympathetic for the needs of others.

4- those who are broad minded who can restrain feelings of greed and retain calmness of mind, who do not feel envious of others and who are sympathetic for the needs of others.

When a women marries she should make a promise to herself that she must honor and sreve the parents of her husband after all they have given them all the advantages they have and are wise protectors so should promise herself to serve them with appreciation and help whenever she can.

another promise is " I must be respectful of my husbands teacher ( this can be reffered to Guru Sahib) because he has given my husband sacred teachings and we could not live as human beings without the guidance of them"

" i must cultivate my mind so that i will be able to understand my husband and be able to help him in his work. I must never be indifferent to his interests, thinking they are only his affairs but not mine"

another one is to not waste the income of the husband or income of the family for selfish purposes.

What a whole load of bull. Thats got nothing to do with Sikhi. Guru Ji didn't make a list of different types of women and make seperate roles for both genders.

All the different types of women you have stated can also go for men. There is no difference. Islam also states about these different types of women. Sikhi is unique.

The relation of husband and wife was not designed merely for their convenience. t has deeper significance than the mere association of two physical bodies in one house. Husband and wife should take advantage of the intimacies of their association to help each other training their minds in the holy teachings.

An old couple, an "ideal couple" once came to Buddha and said " we were married after we had acquainted in childhood and there has never been a cloud in our happiness. Please tell us if we can be remarried in the next life"

The Buddha replied. "if you both have exactly the same faith, if you both received the teachings in exactly the same way, if you preform charity in the same way and if you have the same wisdom, then you will have the same mind in the next birth."

The true significance of family life is the opportunity it gives for mutual encouragement and aid on the path of enlightenment.

Thats fine, I agree with that ^^ but as sikhs we shouldn't be concerned about our next life since we should try and make this our last life and should be more concerned about our relation with Vaheguru.

Thank you No One Ji :TH:

I think it's too simplistic to categorize women or men into 4 categories. Why waste time doing that? what's the point? Funny how 3 out of 4 categories are not so flattering...