Beadbi

[wolverhamptonsingh]

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

In around three weeks time a family friend of ours is having a wedding, on the wedding day itself they aren't going to go the Gurdwara to get married but instead are going to bring Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji to their house and do the wedding at their house. I have only just found this out today and have tried to call the person in question but havent got through to them yet, now I've spoken to some people about this and they told me that your being over the top and if the Gurdwara is allowing them to do it then what is the problem, but in my view this is BEADBI plain and simple and I will make sure it won't happen, I will also try to get in contact with the Gurdwara as it is also unacceptable that they are allowing this to happen in the first place. I just wondered what the Sangat think of this situation and whether or not they agree with me.

BHUL CHUK MAAF

[HDSH]

Food for thought: would you also stop them from bringing Guru Sahib to their house if they wish to do a kirtan program?

[m4ndy]

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh.

First of all i have never heard of a sikh wedding happning at home. Your friend must have a big house if the wedding is going to take place at home. It depends because if they are amritdhari and the house is pure no meat or any other stuff that's prohibited in Sikhism then that should be fine I don't see no beadbi to happen. However if they are not Gursikhs then that's a problem. Can I ask why are they having the wedding at home?

[wolverhamptonsingh]

Food for thought: would you also stop them from bringing Guru Sahib to their house if they wish to do a kirtan program?

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

thats a very good point you make and I honestly don't have an answer for it but from my point of view I think all weddings, Kirtans which involve the reading of Guru Granth Sahib should only happen at the Gurdwara, but thats just my point of view.

Bhul Chuk Maaf

[wolverhamptonsingh]

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh.

First of all i have never heard of a sikh wedding happning at home. Your friend must have a big house if the wedding is going to take place at home. It depends because if they are amritdhari and the house is pure no meat or any other stuff that's prohibited in Sikhism then that should be fine I don't see no beadbi to happen. However if they are not Gursikhs then that's a problem. Can I ask why are they having the wedding at home?

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

They have a big house and they aren't inviting to many people, also they are not Gursikhs and there is meat and alchol stored at their house so thats why in my original post I was saying it is BEADBI

Bhul chuk maaf

[m4ndy]

Yes then it's beadbi that's no different to taking Guru Ji saroop to a club and having the wedding there it's completly the same.

Many people bring Guru ji saroop to houses but if beadbi is going to occur then no it shouldn't happen. That is my viewpoint if no beadbi will occur then it's fine, however if meat is stored and alchol then it's beadbi. It's would be like taking Guru Ji to a hotel to perform a 'sikh wedding'

[SikhRoots]

Every weekend, Gurdwaras take saroops to someones house (or even business place) for akhand paaths, sehaj paaths, sukhmani sahib paaths etc. These residences or businesses aren't checked prior to Maharaj being brought there. Some Gurdwaras who have respect and sense, do advise the families that they need to remove all sign of alcohol and meat before Maharaj gets there, but they are very few.

Sangat in UK won't react to someone having a wedding at their house for those reasons because... well, it happens every single week anyway. Not saying it's right, not at all. I think we have enough extravagant Gurdwaras in UK to be able to accommodate weddings and there shouldn't be a need to have it at someones home. Unless, of course they are illegal immigrants getting married and the Gurdwaras cannot legally do it in the Gurdwara, which happens.

So really, my suggestion to you would be to strongly advise the family against it, but if they must make sure you enforce the fact they are not to have meat and alcohol on the premises during that time. We can't change it across the UK or the world, but we can individually make a difference in our own lives and the small world around us.