For those who struggle with kaam

[DarshaPyasi1984]

 

I wish i found this earlier. It would have been helpful a long time ago. For people who have problems with kaam sant ji explains what we lack. 

We need to recognize god is watching us every second. The next time you find yourself overwhelmed by lust and are about to lose control, try to apply this scenario.

So the procedure 

1. Pick a sant mahapurkh (a real sant) that you respect a lot (for me i am going to use sant jarnail singh ji khalsa) 

2.When you find yourself overwelmed about to lose control and act in lust, imagine that sant/ mahaprurkh standing behind you  watching you. 

3. Ask yourself if you would be comfortable performing this action in front sant ji if you were to meet them right now. 

4. Imagine what they would say or do if they discovered what you were doing.

That should help control your mind hopefully. You really want to convince yourself that god is always watching your actions as they are. Then eventually you gain more control over your mind because you begin developing fear of god and control your actions better.

In sukhmani sahib -

ਆਠ ਪਹਰ ਪ੍ਰਭ ਪੇਖਹੁ ਨੇਰਾ ॥

Behold God near at hand, twenty-four hours a day

ਮਿਟੈ ਅਗਿਆਨੁ ਬਿਨਸੈ ਅੰਧੇਰਾ ॥

Ignorance shall depart, and darkness shall be dispelled.

The rest is in doing more naam/ gurbani/ sewa.

Also, abandon "bad" sangat. Sangat is a big factor, especially since youth spend so much time at school with other kids. You could have the potential to be a great gursikh, but could have been ruined because of the sangat you kept. You should be able to tell the difference "good" and "bad". If it is a school enviroment, it may be hard to find good sangat, and you may have to isolate yourself because everyone around is bad sangat. In that case contact "good" sikhs and keep their sangat as much as you can afterschool, and keeping do simran/path at school quietly, while ignoring 'bad' sangat. You could probably find good sangat at your local gurduwara. This may help you feel less isolated.

Meat, alcohol, tobacco increase the strength of 5 vikaars. Avoid them!

Taking amrit will help in my opinion, but keep rehat and have faith and do ardas. Also I found this video