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I'm having trouble on what to do in situations where others people's stupidity is costing them a lot, and if i let it happen im gaining a lot (at little loss to them), but if i stop it (which i kind of feel is the right thing to do), i gain nothing at then no loss to them.

 

When people be idotic, for example if i buy something and the guy says itll be here sunday (and today is friday night and they dont deliver on a sunday), and i then say ok but if its not here by sunday then unfortunately it will be too late and i cant pay you for it (this has cost them shipping costs remember but they dont seem to care, they are also asking for payment after i recieve the item).

Actually let me tell you the full story.

i met a guy who wanted to sell me something, and he said he only wants bank transfer, i said no because its not secure for me, so he said he will send me the item first. He was super shady, wouldn't send me any better pictures of the item, and told me on a tuesday night that i should recieve the item from overseas by the next day (it arrived friday, today).i offered him 15 quid for the item, but when i asked him later how much, he said 10 quid. I said ok (was this wrong, considering i offered him higher earlier and maybe he didnt read it or maybe he is just not bright at all?)

Anyway, the item came - had a fault and he said bin it ill send you another one. The item is worth £10 and shipping costs £3.20. I managed to fix the item by taking it apart and doing some stuff to it.

So anyway, now he is sending me ANOTHER item (consider this has cost him too lots of this item, im only gonna pay him £10 in the end anyway, and shipping costs £3.20 on its own), and said it will arrive by sunday. I tried to stop him (not directly though, is this wrong?) i said I urge you not to send if i wont recieve it by sunday because im in a hurry to get it. Does he not know that nobody posts things on a sunday?

On paper, im right, and im playing the game of life - hes not bright so hes missing out. But morally, is what im doing correct? I feel like i should at least reinburse him the shipping costs after all this (even though none of this is at fault of my own, i should be losing out but im still winning???) or im just so confused. Like bruh you've almost spent the cost of the item on shipping and how do u not even know that they dont post things on a sunday?? I feel really bad for him. But hes gonna get ripped of so much more by other people than me who have no morals. I wish i could save him but theres nothing i can do..

Help.

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Guest Mr Lynx

He seems like a decent seller tbh which is rare.

Also you have to remember that on some sales platforms, sellers have to be extra courteous to keep up ratings & performance.

If you feel like it then go ahead and offer to cover the postage costs or make sure to buy from this seller again in future, also take time to thank them in a message.

I find compliments always help sellers & gives them a moral boost as they probably encounter rude customers pretty often.

It doesnt seem like a big deal but do what you feel is right in your heart.

 

 

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its not about karma, its about ethics and honest trading.  be a good and honest person.  don't take advantage of other people's simplicity or trust.

i suggest you pay him the full amount for both items.  also give him some friendly advice that you feel he may get cheated from others- explain how, and then wish him well.

taking advantage of other peoples ignorance is evil

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