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  2. puzzled

    Throwing flowers on wedding

    i absolutely hate that how can they throw flowers over irrelevant mortals in the presence of Guru sahib this really drives me up the wall this is why i dnt go to weddings anymore because i know i will get frustrated because of these fckrs bet you its the females that came up with this idea
  3. puzzled

    Doli spectacle

    well perhaps you can move out and buy your own place and then when you get married your husband can move into your place in a doli so you dont feel like your being passed from one man to another? plenty of solutions you know As for what traditionally happened, Guru Nanak Dev ji and the wedding bharaat went to Batala, Mata Sulakhinis home town. Their anand karaj happened there and according to tradition there was a lot of celebration. some say that "koris/kodis" marriage songs that sisters sing to their brother started from Guru jis anand karaj. In the old days in Punjab when a boy used to get married girls from the village used to sing songs about Guru Nanak Dev Jis marriage, Guru Nanak Dev ji then took Mata ji from Batala to his home town. In the old days the boy and bharaat used to go to brides village and thats where the anand karaj used to happen. As for my wife crying im gnna tell her not to cry i think its pathetic and stupid when they do that nothing worse than someone wailing and weeping in your ear. no need for that whole star plus drama acting
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  5. puzzled

    Maya Vatnaa?

    Lol it's just an old harmless tradition no harm in it. haldi is beneficial actually .people in india have been using it for 1000 of yrs. Goreh have only started using it now What I dont like is stupidity like alcohol and shameless behaviour that is exhibited at these weddings now days As for the announcements that's just stupid
  6. Guest

    Maya Vatnaa?

    To the brave Singh's and Kaur's, My first question is that i've gone to many weddings and never understood the relevance of a "maya vatna" or "mayan". They sing songs and apply haldi or whatever to the skin but isn't maya a sin, so <banned word filter activated> are they doing? My second question is often I hear at akand paaths and weddings that this person did "dus pound haajare kithee" forgive my spelling. But whats the point in announcing how much someone has donated? Is it a competition? are they trying to buy their way into such kand? I just don't understand Thanks in advance.
  7. Guest

    Anxiety

    Meds and counseling haven’t helped
  8. Guest

    Doli spectacle

    My goodness! It was only a joke. I doubt they actually had relations - everyone was watching. Why not blame the girl in the first place for opening the window to her husband? Let's address the real spectacle of the doli- the fact that the woman is treated like an object owned by men to be transferred from her father to her husband. All the ritual crying when modern technology and transport means she'll see her parents all the time after marriage. Not to mention the superstitious rice throwing. What does gurbani say about that?
  9. Guest

    Cranberries

    Nice to see Sikhs get good press for once. And for farming too!
  10. Akal Warrior

    Extreme Fear/Scared

    Yes.. You need to seek professional help immediately. Don't wait for this to go away. Get help right away. The stuff you're talking about is common in the phycological world. Try different forms of mental health treatments until you find one that works (cognitive behaviour therapy, counselling etc)
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  12. Throwing flowers on bride and groom at anand karaj ???
  13. this is some amazing stuff! how cool is that i would love to do that i really like snakes i think they are one of the most beautiful animals. i held a big python around my shoulders in India very beautiful animal
  14. RajKaregaKhalsa1

    Gurbani on meat

    ।ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂ ਜੀ ਕਾ ਖ਼ਾਲਸਾ ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂ ਜੀ ਕੀ ਫ਼ਤਹਿ। Please read this article by Bhai Manvir singh ji. Very insightful and clears up a lot of confusion. http://manvirsingh.blogspot.com/2015/11/different-views-on-meat-reflections-on.html?m=1 ਜਉ ਸਭ ਮਹਿ ਏਕੁ ਖੁਦਾਇ ਕਹਤ ਹਉ ਤਉ ਕਿਉ ਮੁਰਗੀ ਮਾਰੈ ||੧|| “You say that the One Lord is in all, so why do you kill chickens? ||1||” (Prabhaatee Kabeer Ji, Ang 1350) Hukamnama of Guru Hargobind Ji found at Sri Harmandir Sahib, Patna Sahib (published in Hukamname, edited by Gandha Singh), which states:
  15. MrDoaba

    Doli spectacle

    @jkvlondon point taken. I can imagine that tbh. I've already conceded that in hindsight it was a silly thing to do, and I concede again that if I was there actually witnessing it, it most likely would be a different story. Tbh I have seen some cringe or super cheesy sh!t at Amritdhari Doli's. Though not like this. There will always remain a formality between them. I was referring particularly to the fake@ss things - the munde wale taking advantage of the girls side which still goes on albeit not as it did in the days of old. Even the seemingly strong minded folks back down when it comes to their kurms highly unreasonable behaviour. All I'm saying is that ik duje naal pyaar naal milna chaida, jidha bhen bharavan naal mili da. No side should act like the others aafsar and should have the right to speak out. Come to think of it, I was once at a wedding where the munde wale actually literally threw the women at the door out the way and barged in - I was there too because I was a little kid. It was not pleasant and dangerous af. Needless to say we demanded maafi and payment later.
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  17. Guest

    Wearing Kirpan To Court (uk)

    Went in today to Royal Court of Justice Strand London. Kirpan under my shirt no problems with security just say you have a kirpan .
  18. SikhSeeker

    Indra and Gangu

    This is really intriguing was he really the gangu in his past life? Anyone got any more info on that
  19. ipledgeblue

    Punjabi Wedding fight - wolverhampton

    just heard the accents, not I am definitely convinced about the waste-hole areas. Good thing is most of the women are dressed respectfully, except the tall one behind the girls asking for money.
  20. Singhkhalsa19842020

    Gurbani on meat

    Your right about the 2 lines i don't agree with skipping the 2 lines from Chaupai Sahib too. Even though i follow the Sikh Rehat Maryada and respect it i choose to do all of Kabyo Baach Benti. Thats my choice Sikh Rehat Maryada is the minimum required. If you wanna do more Bani thats Great. Chardi kala. Thats your choice. If you want to avoid halal. Your choice If you want to avoid meat altogether. Thats fine too Lets not attach dietary guidelines with sikhism. Even Guru Nanak Dev Ji Maharaj says in a very long pankti that Fools argue over this. Saag has life too. So does the micro organisms we breath. But we don't cover our mouths like jains. And we are not hindus who avoid eggs. Even though unfertilized eggs are vegetarian. Thats a different topic. This is Not SGPC maryada This is Akal Takht maryada Watch this link Bhai Jagraj Singh Lets not divide the panth with different maraydas. Your dietary options will not bring you closer to Waheguru. Jap Naam.
  21. GurjantGnostic

    Confused about gurbani

    Guru Granth Sahib Ji is the living Guru. You been debating a Rhadasoami, however that's spelled, or something?
  22. Guest

    Our sikh youth

    These are some of the most sexist posts I have ever read. Some of you “singhs” are discussing in your misogynistic mentalities. May Guru Sahib Jee protect the women and girls in your lives. Also - regarding the comments on the situation in California of the teen pregnancy: It is not the daughter’s fault one bit - she is and was a child during all these events. She was raped and abused by her maternal uncle and her parents chose to protect their worthless honor and ego instead of protecting their innocent child. The daughter is a victim of her uncle AND parents. The adults in her life deserve worse than just jail and death, but Guru Sahib Jee will take care of that.
  23. Guest

    Help with son

    Update I met with my son in a neutral location about 3 weeks ago so we could run a couple of errands in the morning, then go for lunch at a place he suggested, watch a film together and then after a chat I’d drop him round his grandparents. I said I’d be round for 11am, be ready please. I arrive and he comes down at 12.30pm by which time brunch is ready and we eat with his grandparents. In the car he announces to skip lunch (obviously), doesn’t want to watch a film, rather be dropped back after the errand so he can study. I said ok spare me an hour for a quiet drink. During the chat I promise practically the earth. Come home and we will draw a line over past events and I’ll even help you resign your unhappy job and we’ll look together to find a new vocation. Let’s resume your driving lessons, get you started back at the gym and let’s sign up fo some online learning to supplement your career prospects. Ultimately let’s learn from this (us as parents) by being more understanding to your needs and become a whole family again. Don’t worry about money I’ll put a set amount in your account until you find a full time job and get you some savings towards your future. Refusal. Said nothing will change if he comes back. I said he is being unreasonable by not giving us a chance. I dropped him back off round his grandparents and to say I was shaking with rage is an understatement after in the car on the way back to my family home. I explained to his mother and of course got upset again. I don’t know whether it was the combination of my naivety prior that he would reason and the manner of his indifference to what I was proposing or disbelief. So a few weeks pass and during this time: Refuses to give up the Bengali girl despite paying lip service to grandparents; Resigns from job anyway but have no new job in place and is still unemployed; See an email from a college that he has enrolled but hasn’t attended a single class in 4 weeks; Goes out at 2am and comes back at 5am despite kind protests from grandparents; Failed his theory test by coming back at 12am the night before to grandfathers dismay; Goes out 5-6 times per week so burning through cash; Returned home for a single night (at grandparents persistence) and is cold towards his mother but friendly towards siblings. We as parents act like nothing happened. I receive a 2nd hand message that he wishes never to return home with us. I explode with anger at the messenger and apologise the next day. So now I’m having unpleasant thoughts to beating him to a pulp, to hoping the friends and girlfriend screw him over so a life lesson is learnt. His mother and grandparents are afraid he’ll walk, turn to crime and drugs and never see him again which is the reason why nothing has been said about his antics since. I pop simran on to bathe again in the glow of love, kindness and care that Maharaj teaches us that makes me forget the anger. I rationalise that it’s one less offspring to worry about now and to assist the other 2. I don’t think he will ever return so have let him go in my mind. I’m here if a call comes but as life moves on I can’t say I didn’t try.
  24. jkvlondon

    Doli spectacle

    people will ask kurdiwale koi hor munda nahin labba eh lafunga kiton mileya si ? plus if there are younger sisters in the house it could create wrong impression in people's mind about how much bad behaviour they as a family will put up with from mundevale just to get their daughters married i.e. put them on the back foot. This is the first time this 'son' is visiting his new parents didn't Guru ji say to respect them as much as possible in fact more than one's own since they are giving you their most treasured child? There is formality of manners which is actually showing compassion and consideration to others' feelings, we are not meant to spoil another's chances or life through our words and actions that is antigurmat. the guy/girl who tries show up their inlaws is NOT following sikhiya of Guru ji but doing their own manmat to feed their egoes. What is wrong with him standing and negotiating or do as my kid bro did and say 'hold on Mum Dad; I'm coming , look Guys her folks are calling me '... and just shove the few notes he had in his pocket into their hands ...and go in the front door? would you honestly have been happy if that had happened to your sis , Mum and Dad? If the guy can't show respect to his bride's mother and father in front of their whole family when is he ever going to?
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  26. Not2Cool2Argue

    Extreme Fear/Scared

    Paranoia could be sign of mental illness so do see a therapist, doctor or counselor Keep doing paath as well
  27. Guest

    Extreme Fear/Scared

    Thanks for the advice and support.
  28. puzzled

    Punjabi Wedding fight - wolverhampton

    i think its hilarious everyone was laughing at it at work she's dressed like a slag if a woman in my family dressed like that god help her ....
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