Barfi n Mithai

I know I know....they must think I am a perve!!

I have a story....its funny but really annoying. Basically my uni email account has a dodgy virus on it. I didn't even know but for over a year it has been sending everyone on campus dodgy messages. It does this by randomly selecting a few people each day from the uni directory which contains everyone's email address. Its really embarassing - messages read...hey, I think you might need this and it links to the get your 'manhood inches' site. I dunno how it has managed to send off my email account. I hate seeing my name and one boy got reallly annoyed because the virus sent him loads of those messages. He then sent me a nasty email saying to stop harassing him. I was so embarassed. Not only this - but the virus sends out different messages like once it said help me! and then when you open it it says I lost my phone and so I lost your number. I really need your help can you please send me your number. So many people fall for that one.

you can save pic as from the banner or u can save the ucl sikh soc logo....its http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=58128260645 and is practically the same too!

Anyways to answer the original question - Desi people don't like to use tampons. They have a big deal about them because they risk breaking the barrier. But if your comfortable with that and the whole insertion idea then do as you wish as its ure body. I reckon pads are better but this whole thing is about personal choice.

My family are one of the proper original nihangs. I was told I cannot marry into nihangs because that would be like marrying my cousins....so nihangs don't marry other nihangs. As far as I know - we have to marry non-nihangs otherwise we become too close related.

aww i love her posts too....she sounds just like lowest of the lowest singnhi.....also bir ras thts hilarious. I feel sorry for the person infront of u tho.

I think that website might not be reliable. Here is what the cadbury website says. Ingredients: Sugar, Milk Solids, Cocoa Butter, Wheat Glucose Syrup, Cocoa Mass, Vegetable Fat, Sweetened Condensed Milk, Hazelnuts, Coconut, Glace Cherries (Contains Colour (129) and Flavour), Invert Syrup, Golden Syrup, Cocoa Powder, Emulsifiers (Soya Lecithin, 471, 476), Wheat Dextrins, Pectin, Gelatine, Humectant (422), Salt, Mineral Salt (500), Flavours, Food Acids (260, 330, 331), Egg Albumen, Wheat Maltodextrin, Colours (102, 110, 123, 124, 129, 133), Preservative (202). All units may contain traces of Nuts. Milk Chocolate contains Milk Solids 27%, Cocoa Solids 26%. Dark Chocolate contains Cocoa Solids 44%. Link: http://www.cadbury.com.au/Products/Boxed-C...ngredients.aspx This is for Australian Cadbury Roses.

Interesting question. Will try to post later.

I agree with fatehe - its just a form of expression. Some people do it and some people don't. We shouldn't force people to do it or force people not to do it. How they express themselves is between them and the other person.

I was at an event where lots of random people were socialising. I decided to go up to this white couple and introduce myself....they kept looking at me with blank faces. I kept talking for a whole minute and in the back of my head I was thinking why are they staring at me like that. I actually thought they had never seen a sikh like me so I thought I would carry on being friendly and break down the barrier by chatting more. Suddenly halfway through I realised that I was saying everything in Punjabi. I stopped, paused and then said everything again but this time in perfect Queens English accent - which I think shocked them even more. I genuinely thought I was chatting in English until I listened to myself so I am not sure how it happened but it was the first and last time it happened!

Fateh Ji. God can change anything which is written. Let me give you a sakhi There were two friends who had grown together since childhood. One of the friends was always getting into trouble and the other one was as good as can be. Now both of them grew up and the trouble friend started asking the other friend about why he is so good and what it gets him. Then he went on to explain how he doesn't bother with all this praying and still he gets the same as him. So the story continues. One day they arranged to meet at a tree. The trouble maker friend was there and was wondering why the other friend had not arrived. As the trouble friend was waiting he saw something shiny in the ground near the tree. He began to dig and he found 2 gold pots. Next to the two he noticed marks for 2 more pots but no pots. This did not bother him though and he rejoiced at his discovery. When he looked around he saw his friend limping as a thorn had cut into his foot. He looked at him and couldn't stop laughing and again said how he does so much good, and how he does this seva yet he recieves a thorn whereas the trouble friend did no good and look at his find of 2 gold pots. This hurt the the good friend so he persuaded the trouble maker friend to visit a local saint who could explain this injustice. They asked the saint why one person did so much seva and got nothing and the other person who did negative got so much more. The saint listened and said to the good friend 'you think you got nothing but you got more in this life than your other friend'. He then explained that in the past life of the good friend he was a very bad theif. He has a lot of debt to repay and on this day he was supposed to be hanged however he did so much seva and good that his debt got reduced to little thorn stinging into his foot. Then he looked at the trouble maker friend and said how in his past life he did good and on this day he was to be rewarded with 4 gold pots but because he did no good in this life the other two pots were taken away. With this the trouble friend realised he has infact seen two marks next to the pots he had taken. He humbly bowed his head and both of them realised that things are not what they seem. So what I learnt from this is that anything can happen. I think sometimes we focus on what is happening and look at other etc but instead if we just do the best we can then we will be fine.

As far as I know Guru Gobind Singh Ji did not have a Janam Kundli. I believe it was only Guru Nanak Dev Ji. Anyways about why Guru Nanak Dev Ji had one - he was a baby, his family were Hindu and they did it. He did not go out and get one himself. It doesn't mean Guru Nanak Dev Ji was Hindu because he denounced the basics of Hinduism.. ie the sacred thread, deity worship, water throwing at hardawar. Your friend cannot just look at one thing. He has to look at everything. This is like saying my athesist friend is Religious because when he was born his parents went to Gurdwara to get his name.

Fateh ji I am so sorry to hear of your problem. Firstly you should try and get a blood test to make sure it is not a medical reason. It could be something like hypothyroidism (there are others too). Hypothyroidism is basically where your whole body slows down and you become slow, tired, lack energy and hardly eat but put on weight. Ofcouse you could be borderline. A blood sample will test for this so visit the drs just to get it checked out. Hope you feel better soon.

I am very vocal person. I did that too! But please forgive me if it sounded like I advocated such behaviour...instead that story reminded me of the comedy in this boy's situation. I agree with everyone who is saying get over it...

This thread is jokes. I have to tell you a real story. Basically a good friend of mine had liked a girl for a very long time. It was a really cute story. He told me how he saw her every day, how she smiled, how she walked....literally everything. I asked him if he had spoken to her..then he said no. I then wondered if she already had someone and then he said he was sure she didn't because he had been watching her for over a year and basically he had never seen her with a guy. At this point I was shocked it had been a yr and he was doing nothing! Magically the next day I saw her at gurdwara and started chatting to her. I had no intention of mingling with things but I managed to found out that she already had someone! I felt really sorry when I broke the sad news to my friend. So basically you've never spoken to her....you might find out she has someone....so it might just be a waste of time....and then you might not like her....so who knows....Just thought I would share some mishaps.

After you get that room...can you...ummm...distribute some of your 'Coconut' Barfis to the sangat here?!... Gee thank you... :BL:

Everyone here needs to read a sociology book. It explains how we decide what is norm, how we are shaped....do we even have a gender? Who decides what our roles are? Does a 6 year old kid know they are male or female....where do they learn this from....why do some people not feel feminine or masculine....what does media, social expectations have to play in this? Its very deep but extremely thought provoking....combine that with behaviours, conditioning and learned behaviour studies...it basically becomes very interesting. The end conclusion is that there is no female or male. Speaking from a Sikhi perspective everything is an illusion as we live in an outer shell aka as our bodies. Our soul however has no gender. We are neither female nor male...how we live our life is up to us. Be the captain of your own ship! Also in regards to the original quote. The worst form of inequality, Aristotle argued, is to try to make unequal things equal. He held instead that "equals ought to have equality" and recalled the retort of the lions, in the fable of Antisthenes...where hares argueed they could do the job of lions...but hares do not have claws etc so what he was referring to was to equality gone wild...he did not however every advocate discrimination which is in the context that the original poster has used the phrase. To expand further aristotle's quote was saying do not say things are equal if it is to the discrimination of another. For instance women olympic runners can run faster than the men on sikhsangat. Similarly some of the world's best cooks are men and can cook better than most of the world's women. So equality is not making everything the same....some women are going to be better than some men and some men are going to be better than some women. Everything is based on individuals. Its your own determination and ambition...along with of course the blessings of the Almighty which decide who and what you become. Do not discriminate against someone based on their gender.

Ok, which room is available and what is the price?

Is it the whole house or just a room?

When reading this thread I felt very disappointed that this thing has also plagued our amritdhari singhs and kaurs....I know it can happen to anyone but suddenly it seems very common amongst amritdharis. I have heard many stories and seen amritdharis with gf, amritdharis checking each other out etc....very disappointing that amrithdari's are getting affected too. I think the amritdhari boy should say no clearly so that the girl understands because from what you have said your kinda leading her on by sitting on the fence. I am pretty sure if you make it clear that the feelings are not mutual she will get over it. But if she cannot get over it then you have to stop talking to her. It's for her own good.

dada datta ek hai sabh ko devan haar D is for the Dear Lord Vaheguru Who is the Sole Provider for the whole creation dendeh taut naa avei agant bhareh bhandar There is no limit to His giving, His countless stores are filled to overflowing jis da ditta khavnaa tis keiyeh shabaash From Whom we receive our nourishment let us all celebrate Him nanak hukam na chalei naal khasam chaleh ardaas O Nanak no one can issue commands to the Dear Lord Master Vaheguru; Let us offer prayers instead iko datta mangiye sabh kich paleh paeh Seek One Sole Provider. You will be blessed with everything and your wishes will be fulfilled man dhan sass giraas prabh iko ik dhiyaeh Meditate on the One Soul Vaheguru with mind, body, breath and morsel nanak naam chardi kalla O Dear Almighty God may Your Name be exalted through Guru Nanak tereh bhaneh sarbaat da bhalla May all prosper according to Your will

I agree with MrSingh and the original poster. This whole post explains why families moan when they have no boys. Its not because they hate girls but instead they cannot force them to stay just because they will need looking after. I personally feel your fiance is being unfair. He has other siblings to live with his parents whereas you parents have no one. The whole ghar jamai thing is also baseless in todays society. In the olden days the men worked to earn money. Considering most of us were farmers or were in similar 'hand me down' family business then essentially the boy lived near his work and since the girl did not work it made sense for her to move to the boys areas. In my understanding the whole thing was based on logic and ease. It was not that girls must go to the boys but it was about who will be most inconvenienced. So the girl moving to the boys house was convenient as it meant the boy did not have to uproot the whole business etc. But like all things society changes, girls earn money too and we no longer have hand me down businesses. Also about the Guru's....some Guru's did live with the girls in laws...ie Guru Nanak Dev Ji who went to his wife's pind to get work! So this 'expectation' has no religious basis. It wasn't even cultural. it was on logic but now it has become cultural. A solution probably would be to have both yours and his parents living in same house...

awww we have a samosa too! I cannot wait for someone to join as ladoo or mishari. We also need someone to join as saag and lassi. :D