MisterrSingh

Truth. More truth than most can handle.

Complete disconnect from reality. And anyone that challenges them is lost or not "tuned in" sufficiently. Reminds me of this:

It wasn't awesome; not at all. It was a convoluted, roundabout way of masking her true intentions - that she spelled out unambiguously in her original post - by using Gurbani to present her actions in a positive light. Whilst her heart was certainly in the right place, her reasons are completely misplaced. A lack of self awareness means she can't fathom that there is an error in her ways. *** I knew the limits to her comprehension when she started her post with, "Last year was a tough year. We decided we were having an extension to be done in the house." I dread to think what would happen if she encountered genuinely stressful times, lol.

It IS a matter of male and female, because bibiya place so much stock in such experiences. Their entire - or a vast part of their - spiritual existence is predicated on other-worldly experiences in order to give their spiritual efforts a sense of validation. Males, whilst also capable of the same thought processes, don't fall into an existential despair when Guru Sahib doesn't come bursting forth into a dream or vision. You need to understand it's this apparently harmless - to some - mentality that can be extrapolated and lead to the promotion of worship of Man, hence the rise of fake holy men. The experience; the faith; the unseen is not enough for these people. They need proof, something tangible. I'm sorry, but that's not faith.

Why is it that females desire a reward for their devotion; almost daring the Lord to prove his existence to them? Are his unseen blessings not enough to sustain them? I apologise if this seems sexist, as it's not my intention, but I've noticed over the years how many of our religiously inclined bibiya (the younger ones at least) crave a miracle or a vision. What will you achieve long term by gaining such darshan? If anything, it will only make you hungry for more. So, instead of praying to Waheguru for peace of mind or an end to Churasi Lakh Joon, all efforts will be focused on pleading for a visitation. It's an ego trip. Apologies if this sounds harsh, but when it comes to us Sikhs, such demands for a holy experience are linked to ego and a lack of true faith. Is it not enough to FEEL God... He needs to be SEEN too? Darshan are given when they are deemed necessary, either to impart essential information that would otherwise never reach us, or warn us about something that is entirely preventable and something that should not be occurring (but, due to uncontrollable human nature, is going to occur). If one's faith is built on the notion of regular visitations from Sachkhand, then I'm afraid you're doing the whole religion thing completely wrong. Apologies if I've offended anyone, but this needed to be said. I expect salty retaliation, but I'm unconcerned about that.

I'll admit, it's much, much easier to live that dietary lifestyle when you've not known the alternative. But, to be fair, growing up and getting about in the world, I've had chances to eat non-veg, but it's never a decision that's appealed to me. Even if I wasn't a Sikh, I don't imagine I'd be a meat-eater. I'm not a PETA activist, but I can't quite reconcile myself with the thought of an animal dying for my taste buds. But I've never judged those who do eat meat, unlike most religious non-meat eating Sikhs who seem to think it's THE defining quality of a decent Sikh and all other qualities are secondary, which is utter nonsense. Once you train your mind to view food as fuel and not something to get excited about, the mind and body can begin to be at peace when it comes to food issues at least. As such, I eat only what I need in order to have enough energy to train hard. I avoid food that settles in the stomach and bring about lethargy, which is, unfortunately, many types of food. Fresh vegetables, some fruits, rotis made wholly of wholemeal flour, semi-skimmed milk (apologies vegans, but I need milk else my bones would've turned to dust with the issues I've had), and porridge are what I consume. I stay very, very active, so it's not as if I'm low on energy by not consuming meat. The will has to be there. If you're determined not to eat meat, you'll find alternatives no problem. If, however, you're still at the stage where the tongue overrides your decision-making, then it's a struggle. Importantly, ensure the tadkeh for your daals and sabziya are as light as you can make them. We all need a bit of grease to keep joints lubricated and to stop us from drying out internally, but not on the levels the old-timers in our community poured into food. That kind of nonsense will destroy most training and dietary efforts that are positive. The above works for me. I appreciate it may not be everyone's cup of tea.

Some of it must be genes too. I've been a vegetarian since birth, but I've always been broad shouldered, tall, and heavy-set (not fat just bulky). It seems the copious amounts of dahl and roti I've been fed since childhood really does work wonders, because I've eaten little else in my life. When I turned 30 a couple of years ago, I decided to change my physique quite considerably. I went from having an almost wrestler type look to that of a swimmer or a gymnast. It's taken just under 3 years, and a complete overhaul in nutrition (the dahl and roti are a constant and will never change, lol) and training, and I look and feel a lot more lithe and sleek. Plus, I appear a tad younger, but that's not really important.

It's a nice thought, but it's fantasy.

What's clear from this thread is how bad sangat can destroy a person's life. Bad sangat + inability to say No = recipe for disaster. Tough times.

Anyone seen Kill Bill Vol 1? There's some "shashtar puja" going on in that film (the subplot of Hattori Hanzo, the master sword maker) in a way I never expected a mainstream Hollywood film to ever explore. I never truly understood why there's almost an awed reverence for weapons in Sikhi, but genuinely, after watching Kill Bill many, many years ago, it seems warrior races (like the Japanese) do consider them almost as if they were living things, more than just pieces of metal.

Spain has a lot of history, Big T. Just not the kind of history to get too excited about, in comparison to our own, I guess.

Ingrained cultural proclivities stretching back thousands of years will, sadly, always emerge ahead of a method of existing that requires serious introspection, concentration, and faith (Sikhi). There's no getting away from that. Sikhi is fast becoming a symbolic irrelevance to most of our people over here, that has very little practical use in day-to-day existence. Their loss.

We are reactive, never proactive. This will be our downfall in the West.

Too busy trying to accumulate enough cash to buy that 2nd or 3rd house in order to rent it out to Poles or other recent arrivals; to keep the mortgage going, of course. Plus, there's all those weddings and parties to attend, and one must wear the latest fashions at such get-togethers, lest people talk. Don't forget the luxurious car, BTW. And the bi-annual package holiday to mainland Europe... to keep the kids happy, you see.

Move on. Might I suggest you work on your anger issues, instead of devising elaborate fantasy scenarios about inflicting pain on a doddery old pensioner?

I put cricket in the same category as golf, darts, and lawn bowling. Its popularity on the sub-continent is mystifying.

Wrap up warm when it's cold. Walking is excellent. Training the kid to observe details, getting their fitness up, etc, it'll all come in use when they're older. I wish someone had taken me hiking when I was a kid, but there wasn't that vibe when I was a kid; plus there was nobody to take me, lol. Now, I truly feel at peace when I'm outdoors, somewhere leafy and a bit off-road, breathing the air. It's great.

Before I clicked on the video, I was trying to rack my brain who Surjeet Singh Austinwala was. I thought he may have been a Khalistani who moved to the United States back in the day. I'd never heard of him, but I guessed he could've been a high kamayi Singh who was capable of sorting out these Gurdwara issues. Then I click the video and it all makes sense, lol. Btw, I still have the exact same t-shirt that Austin has in the video. I was a huge Stone Cold fan as a kid; proper Austin fanboy.

What does that tell you about human nature? A belief - whatever it may be - whether it's supporting the idea of a creator, or vociferously against the concept, is the common denominator in both situations. Of course, I don't think atheists will murder anyone for the glory of Science and Rational Thought, but the aggressive way in which they promote their doctrine is quite amusing. They don't see it like that, obviously, but the similarities are there.

She's definitely not in the kitchen preparing food, that's for sure.

The Langar Games.

Lol at all the salty replies from Gursikhs who haven't had darshan (albeit in dream form) of Guru Ji, despite their best efforts, yet this alcohol-drinking, cut-haired guy gets to be in the company of Guru Sahib for a few moments. The envy is palpable! How do you people suppose the lost and rudderless are shown the light if they aren't aware the light exists? To the OP: you're being a shown way out of the dead-end that is your current life. Grasp the opportunity with both hands. You're one of the lucky few that receives such unambiguous messages. Don't let the envious few on this site put doubts into your mind that it was some random Singh you were chilling with. Don't kintu-prantu! Next time, keep such occurrences to yourself. For answers, search your soul. Only you'll know if it was real or just a random set of images. Good luck.

I agree, but the hostility towards all matters of faith from certain quarters is quite strong, so that even belief in an impartial (non-denomination) creator is viewed as a sign of unsophistication or simple-mindedness. People being what they are - more so in current times - the desire to fit in and not cause waves for something as apparently controversial as religious belief, means that many forgo the rigmarole of religion altogether, without trying to find that middle ground of believing in a force / creator, but not necessarily attaching oneself to a particular faith. It's actually one of the reasons I've observed most people dismiss Sikhi as just another religion. Some of the blame for this lies with us (we're sitting on a treasure trove of spiritual knowledge), because we won't, or we've been unable to, disseminate the core Sikh teachings to the wider world. Instead, we've allowed the likes of Islam and Hinduism - and their followers - to drag us down to their base levels, whereas Sikhi is far and away a philosophy and path that surpasses both IMO. That's not my bias speaking, but something I believe to be absolutely true.

There's a few of our lot that fall into that camp. There's a yearning for spirituality; that pull towards something bigger than us, but they get bamboozled by the organised religion aspect of it ("Do this", "Don't do this"). So, they switch off completely and make it easier on themselves by declaring themselves atheist. It's quite sad in a way.

I agree. Their ego conjures up thoughts such as, "Well, at least I'm not drinking and smoking like the rest of them" in order to placate their conscience when they sit around with their religiously inclined chums, partaking in chugliyan, and in other cases, a lot worse. But as long as there's no drinking and smoking, hey(?) As if these are the only two vices a Sikh is to concern him or herself with!