MisterrSingh

Stroke one's moustache menancingly, forcibly curling the ends upwards, all the while not breaking eye contact with the girl in question. Intersperse the above with the occasional one-handed beard stroke. That's usually a great way of letting a girl know she's caught the eye.

Haha, I don't remember much about my father, but what I do remember is when he use to "give me the eyes" lol, when I was perhaps not behaving in a manner he expected. That was enough for me! But, yeah, there was a line and it was never breached. I never considered my parents pendus or anything like that just because I was foreign born and they were from back home. They had wisdom and knew things about life and so much else that evey decision they made was beneficial not only short term but long term. I wasn't promoted to a deputy just because I was UK born, lol. I knew my place and that was fine by me.

I forget there's situations where Sikhs live in predominantly Muslims areas. Fair point. In a way the current crop of young parents are very hands on with their kids, which is great, but as we know that active level of involvement leaves very little room for engaging in Sikhi. I've observed kids from Sikh families who haven't been told anything about their religion, react to other Sikh kids with jooreh, etc, like how white kids use to react to us when we were kids. As a bystander that's a terribly depressing situation to observe, and an indictment on the minds of certain Sikhs my age who have, to all intents and purposes, decided religion is an irrelevance not worth bothering their kids with.

What Jkv bhenji mentioned a few pages ago about valuing girls as much as boys is essential in issues such as these. Of course, some take it to the extreme and let their children become mini dictators and actually consult the child in major household decisions (unheard of a few years ago), but that's crazy as it sends the wrong signals to a child that his or her parents are clueless. Nurture and include female children as you would males. It sounds like something not even worth mentioning.

They see such behaviour as a badge of honour, almost as the ultimate sacrifice. Sikh guys do it too, let's not knock girls exclusively. There's enough stories of Sikh guys that have abandoned their families for the "love of their life." For obvious reasons (the female being the honour of her family, etc) when a girl does it it becomes a huge spectacle.

The safe provider. There's a lot of overweight, average-looking yet wealthy Sikh guys (either independently rich due to a lucrative career or because daddy has a few businesses) that think they've struck gold when they end up marrying said type of girl. They're under all sorts of illusions.

Fear. Fear of physical reprisals or fear of being branded as prejudiced.

Every generation thinks it's the first to break the rules and rebel, pushing boundaries, and doing what nobody has done before. In actuality it's all been done before. Times change, people don't. Someone once said, "A wise man learns from history, a fool learns from experience." If Sikhs are any indication we are packed to the rafters with fools that don't want to be told. As much as if hurts, sometimes you've just got to step back and let people make mistakes. If someone refuses to understand with a loving and conciliatory approach, then let them go and make their mistakes. The pain of falling will open their eyes.

A laudable gesture and one with precedence in Sikh history. But wholly unnecessary in this modern era. There's billions of petro-dollars that could've been used to fund the construction of this mosque, originating from many hundreds of millions of Muslims who could've contributed to the project. Yet time and time again we are shown to be either completely bemukh and ignorant of our own ways, OR we go in the opposite direction and are so willing to please others we are unable to step back and look at the bigger picture. It is these kind of acts certain Muslims use to pick off stragglers from the Sikh faith and entice them to their own camp. They say, "Your lot are building mosques for us. We are one and the same." Then we wonder why our people are unable to provide an adequate rebuttal... because there is none in this type of situation! I applaud the Sikh's sharda and prem for his fellow man. Meanwhile in the gritty and occasional unpleasantness of everyday life where such gestures carry certain connotations beyond love and togetherness; where life is not a beautiful fairy-tale and we aren't dwelling in Satyug, this was completely inappropriate and wrong. Apologies if I've offended anyone.

I grew up listening to these two particular raagis in a major way, and to say I'm disappointed is a severe understatement. Incredibly sad news.

I hope you're right.

The other side is very rarely heard in these situations, in terms of why certain things happened. It's an eye opener.

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Is there still a disproportionate number of Sikhs joining the Indian armed forces?

I wouldn't be that cynical, but there must be elements that are using the genuine refugees as cover. But, yep, I do wonder why the Saudis or other wealthy Middle East countries don't open their borders and welcome their co-religionists. They probably think the west created this mess, so they should be responsible for the fallout.

The appeal of Europe and all the requisite benefits of western civilisation are no match for Qatar and, to a lesser extent, Turkey. Why would someone who has the chance to settle in Germany opt for Qatar if there was a choice? Refugees want safety from the horrors they're escaping. Their number one priority is to survive; a migrant is a lot more pragmatic.

That's fascinating and a bit strange, because I've never heard of this person or read that book, but that's quite similar to the kind of method I used. Very strange indeed.

Some Australians are... I think the official term is 'bogan.'

The link you've identified is incredibly tenuous at best. I can see the logic behind it, but many others will view it as opportunistic. By your logic the Syrian refugees should be on planes to the United States and not flocking to Europe, because it's the United States' ambitions and strategies in that part of the world that's caused this crisis. Yet they are conspicuously silent, whilst the EU picks up the tab for the U.S.' nonsense.

I ask the questions nobody has the courage to ask, lol. Sesame Street? You mean Quality Street, I hope. Could be Sesame Street with Big Bird and Cookie Monster shaped chocolates. Why am I talking about chocolate?

Yep, I think Victoria's marriage to her cousin Albert was love instead of arranged.

What brand of chocolates were they? I'm curious, lol. I think it's safe to say the discussion of important issues are kept to a minimum in committee offices. For the kids, remember... the 6ft+ deep-voiced, bearded kids.

Queen Victoria?

Ladhoo and samosay? If anything, it's pizza and chips.

Bro, I've noticed you seem to fixate on the concept (and the practice) of Gur Parsaad almost at the expense of everything else. It's strange because you're the only person I've encountered who places such a huge emphasis on it. It is extremely valid, I'm not denying that, but you seem to be under the impression it is THE only method. Gur Parsaad does not absolve one of personality responsibility; it does not negate the need to think just thoughts and perform good deeds, and then rely on Guru Sahib to forgive our transgressions just because he can. A man who rapes and murders somebody should not be forgiven by the grace of the Guru, and not face the consequences. Am I saying it can't happen? Of course, anything is possible when it comes to Guru Sahib, but not when the natural laws and the order of the universe are contradicted. That way is not of justice and karma, but one which leads to chaos and anarchy.