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  1. I used to try and raise my children the way my parents raised me and my siblings, I was failing miserably, I was given a reality check by my mother when I was complaining to her (one of many times) about my children's behavior, she reminded me that the way they raised is was appropriate for that time and that method isn't going to work today, there's no right way of raising your children, you do what you think is best for them, you promise yourself you won't make the mistakes your parent's made with you (in your opinion that is). You don't sound like a bad parent, your son doesn't sound like a bad child but sometimes our circumstances change which put us in situations that end up like yours, you've tried your level best and left the ball in his court so now it's up to him, as long as you've told him that the door is always open you have done the right thing. If you have other children I would concentrate on them and make sure this whole thing isn't affecting them to a point where it becomes an issue.
  2. True, I remember when I was younger if you went to a wedding party it was pretty much a guarantee that there would be a fight, it generally involved alcohol and bruised egos.
  3. Maybe you should just ask her instead of relying on what others say. You are wanting to date outside of your religion and culture, as long as you know the baggage that comes with that then best of luck.
  4. What you said, it's a term of agreement. True, but have you seen the state of people running the Gurdwara's, some of them haven't got a clue about Sikhi.
  5. What he said, people need to focus on their own journey instead of trying to fault others, if they want to dress like that then that's up to them, if your offended, don't look, you can make all the assumptions you want but you don't know them or who they are, also, take a look at Indian history and what women (and men) used to wear throughout the ages.
  6. The most difficult part of parenting for me is accepting that at some point my children will do what they want, as parent's we can only guide them in a way that we feel is right, at some point we have to let go and hope we've done a half decent job. You sound as though you've done a good job of raising your lad but when they find a little independence sometimes they go off on one, your son is earning for himself to he feels he doesn't need anyone and can make his own decisions, the plus side is he's living with family. If he's going out with someone from a different religion that adds another lay of complexity, especially the religion you mentioned, one thing i will say is not to abandon him, when people try to convert you over to Islam the first thing they do is try and isolate the person and portray their family as the bad guys, he's been going out with this girl for 4 month's, you've known him his entire life, remind him of that and how much you love him, anger will only drive him further away.
  7. I remember before i got married i questioned why the man walks in front of the woman at the time of Anand Karaj, the answer i got from many people was it's nothing to do with Sikhi but more to do with culture and out way of thinking. My grandad said something along the lines of " Being in front doesn't always make you superior, look at a horse and cart, the more intelligent one is behind, when we take Guru Sahib somewhere, there is always someone in front clearing the way, that doesn't make them superior to our Guru". Completely agree with what @Redoptics has said, the Anand Karaj isn't about who's in charge, it's about connecting our souls to waheguru.
  8. Solihull is nice and you won't find a lack of Gurdwara's in the city, there's a new one opening every other month.
  9. He probably is intelligent but just not in the way we think, he's been banging the whole "NRI's support Khalistani terrorism" for year's now, it's probably ingrained into him that he has to leave a legacy, the whole "Royal family" thing is all but defunct now so he's finding a different way to leave a mark, his is to make things difficult for NRI's (look at Juggy) so none of them come to India and mention Khalistan and pump up the locals. Ravi Singh runs an aid organization, they do work in India (currently the floods in Punjab) so you have to say things to get your foot in the door. He's a product of a bygone age of Maharaja's who have a certain "I'm better than you" mentality, I've always been fascinated how maharajas would keep a dastaar and full beard yet most of them were anything but Sikh and only ever looked out for themselves and if they helped the locals they would constantly remind them of it like they were doing them a favour.
  10. The Captain really is a special kind of stupid.
  11. I used to live in Guildford and had the same issue, there were plenty of South Indians but very few Sikhs, I'd end up driving to Southall to go to the Gurdwara, I moved just outside of Oxford after that and had the same issue there. Have to tried the local Uni (probably Kent University), they usually have Sikh societies that put on events, might be worth a shot.
  12. It's a case of a few bad apples plus it's grown in size but still run the way it was when it started and there were only a few people, many groups suffer from this kind of thing and if you don't keep on top of it stuff can get out of control.
  13. I don't have an axe to grind, if they're protecting Sikhi, good stuff, but attacking your one isn't protecting your own. Anyway, cheers for the judgment fella, much appreciated, alway's nice to be judged by someone you've never met.
  14. They, SYUK, were harassing a Sikh girl by throwing things at her her on the way back from a Sikhi camp,this has nothing to do with "you people", this whole thing has nothing to do with "going to other religions", it has to do with their behaviour towards their own.
  15. Two sides of the same coin fella, whether it's intentional or random the end result is the same.
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