kcmidlands

Then expects not to be criticised, if you can't be honest with yourself what do you expect from others.

You know, after reading this thread (and a few other's you started about your married life and before that) I really have no idea why you got married, i could go on and dissect everything you've said but it's apparent that you really don't care and all you want is attention and for people to feel sorry for your plight. I will say this though, i understand you looking out for your parents, not wanting your wife to cause them grief, we all want that a son's but our parents aren't going to be around forever, when they've gone your going to be stuck with a wife who you've pretty much gone to war with.

This, nail on head.

When everyone who has posted on this topic pretty much disagree's with your stance you should take that as a hint, but you are right, it's your kid, it's up to you what you do, as you've mentioned, it's your "right" as a Father but everything catches up with us eventually, you're no different, instead of posting your life story on the internet you should be supporting your wife instead of blaming her, you should be educating yourself and then you'll realise how common viral fever's are in pregnancy and how easily they are treated. Nothing but love for your wife i see.

So much vitriol and anger from someone so young, did your friends not ask you to play football with them after school, is that why your so bitter.....

"Smarty Pants", what are you, 10 years old or something, looking at your spelling i'd say you were closer to 5.

It isn't easy for me to say, just because a child is born without any defects doesn't mean you won't face other difficulties with them in the future. A child isn't an object that you can dump because they don't fit you perfect version of the world, my elder sister's son has Autism, she never dumped him, she never looked at him as if he was a financial burden, I'm sorry man, but you so full of <banned word filter activated> it's unbelievable, you ask people not to judge you then you go and post all your issues on a public forum, crying more tears than your wife, give me a break, go and speak to women you have lost their children during a pregnancy or at the moment of birth.

As a father of 4 wonderful children i have no words to describe how selfish and self centered you are with what you've just posted, if this is the attitude you have at the moment what kind of parent are you going to be. Everything you posted is so ill informed it's beyond a joke, go and ask your parent how hey would have reacted if you had some sort of birth defect, how very "Sikh" of you to want to dump your child if it has birth defects. The fact that you have to ask if it's wrong of you to think this way sum's up what kind of human being you are, how your parents haven;t slapped you half way to the moon is beyond me.

I don't think having a team of people going out and capturing this kind of thing is the answer, who will govern them and at what point do we accept that their version of Sikhi is right and what they are in essence trying to censor is wrong, it becomes a mess after a while.

Any Video with David Icke immediately sends alarm bells ringing with me, he has made an absolute fortune spreading some absurd stories (have a read of his "The Reptilian Elite" theory). Ignoring the debate about the health risks around 5G mentioned in the first video, for me, there's a simple solution, switch off from social media, it's like a disease with no cure, I see people walking around in the morning on the way to work with their eyes transfixed on their phones blissfully unaware of what's going on in the real world.

Yeah, it was this wasn't it:

It doesn't make it right though, using your dodgy money to fund a religious venture (be it a film or something else) with the hope that you'll be absolved for your sin's under the guise of seva that is. The thing is sometimes when people do this it can come back and do more damage to them and more importantly the cause they gave the money to. Mine is a personal opinion, stuff like this doesn't sit well with me, for other's it may be more palatable.

Exactly, I don't care what he does with his money in his own time but if he wants to do good for Sikhi then any money that goes in the pot has to be scrutinized.

I think if you're going to use your wealth to support a religious purpose then you need to show where the money's coming from, the amount of time I've seen people launder money through Gurdware is ridiculous.

I agree with you in principle, we do tend to have a hot-headed mentality but I think he would have been assaulted by the police, either way, it's just the mentality of the police in India. When a basic police officer has no chance of promotion and is paid peanuts he's going to do everything he can to top up his salary, unfortunately, in India, it's done by extorting money from the average joe on the street, when the average joe disagrees then this kind of thing happens (all too often), either way, it's police brutality.

I used to go to the same secondary school as him (he was the year ahead of me), his younger sister was in my class. His parent's ran a chip shop by the school, they were a normal family, he disappeared for a while and then came back a multi-millionaire, to this day i find it amazing that he never talks about his younger years in all his interviews or how he made his money, i could tell some stories but i'm not like that, I've got nothing personal against the guy but to say that all the stuff he does is above board would be a little rich.

Having a baby doesn't mean married couples don't split up, I've got no idea how old you are but you sound like a teenage brat with half the stuff you've written, the other half sounds like you've been watching too many Star Plus drama's. If you, for one moment, thought you were gay then you should have been man enough to own up to it and delay any wedding but instead you seem to blame everyone else for your own mess, typical snowflake generation. Your going to have a child, man up and grow up, that woman's your wife, if nothing else the laavan must mean something to you, stop blaming other people for your crap.

I've been married for 17 years, i know (in my experience) what women can be like but in the same breath i know men are just as bad, i live a life where, if there is an argument i will always now choose the higher ground and walk away, it's taken me this side of 15 years to get to that point in my marriage. My annoyance come's when i read countless times on this forum that women need to be told there place and need to be "domesticated" for want of a better word, do we live in the dark ages or something, Sikhi is at the forefront of equal right's (or so i thought).

We alway's have an option fella, just that you've chosen one that involves hurting everyone around you because your not willing to be honest about things. And what about your misdeeds, where in Sikhi is it written or accepted to spout the kind of misogynistic crap that i read on these forums all the time, it's a surprise half of you lot are actually married, if someone spoke about your sister's like that would you accept it, but it's okay for you to come online and spill all you family problems out, your not looking for advice fella your looking for support and for people to re-enforce you way of thinking. I think Dharam Raaj is the least of your problems at them moment.

There was a special on BBC news (Out World report) about Sikh's in Afghanistan, it was heartbreaking watching how they had been persecuted and the kind of stuff they go through. As far as the money's concerned, it seems like it's going to be a cash grab from all Sikh organizations and jathebania from around the world, be interesting to see how much Peter Virdee put's up himself. There was a thread last week on twitter about Sikh's in Pakistan and how they are treated, there a link below to one of the article's in the twitter thread (it's an old article so I hope things have changed over the years) https://www.dawn.com/news/1025160

I read this the other day and couldn't believe what I read, surely the money would be better spent in other way's, I'm all for the promotion and up-keep of religious places. And Peter Virdee, does so much for charity but his Instagram feed tells a whole different story of ego and private number plates, nothing personal against the guy but he never does anything out of the goodness of his heart, there's alway's a PR angle.

I'd like to say this is a surprise but it isn't, like I've already said, the level of incompetence is unbelievable.

How much of the mainstream Indian media covered it, they only started late yesterday and today. The BBC covering something like this wouldn't have helped one bit, even if an international team did go over there they would have a battle on their hands getting past all the glory hunters and Dera member.

As with everything in India it'll just get forgotten about, a 2-year-old child is dead because of the ineptitude of the authorities there and everyone seeking their 5 minutes of fame, it's absolutely disgusting and make's me sick to my core. This whole thing just show's how ill-equipped they are when something like this happens, all the celeb's tweeting and posting on Instagram to "Pray for", they just need to go and check their privilege, praying wasn't going to save him, the correct manpower was.

Racist much.