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surely it can be an expensive lesson. my opinion: there are two ways of leaning thing. first learn from others experiences or mistakes, second you learn from your experiences or mistakes. most parents actually try to guide their children with their experience so they don't suffer in young age but its the "teen age" where we don't listen much and fall into the difficult situation.

totally agree singh Saab ji

wjkk wjkf bai ji first of all I don't believe in caste system BUT I live in a society which believe in the caste system (sadly) and hopefully soon we will get over this issue in the future with Guru Ji's blessings. but for now we just have to deal with it and find the best possible solution for it. I understand and feel sorry for your friend, however they both knew at the first place that they were different caste and it will be an issue for them, so why didn't they tell their parents earlier? of course after one and half year of relationship they will suffer if they have to go apart or at least one of them as in your friend's case! NOTE: Solution:- in my opinion, have a clear regular communication between you and your parents instead of an argument. listen to the parents because they have been through this age. slowly make them understand with the examples from Guru Ji's bani and lifestyle. I wouldn't just fall into the relationship and leave it to the last minute to worry about it. I would just deal with it before starting relationship with someone.

wjkk wjkf ji I admire your reply to our veer ji who is in difficult situation. I totally agree to it. just one thing I want to mention here, we all go through a difficult time at some point or some of us on many occasions. Just Keep doing ardaas every day. getting attention from many is a trap, it only feels good to fulfil all those desires at the time but it brings 10 times more "Dukh" takes away your piece of mind which many people face in their life and doesn't make you any special, every lusty desire in a young life is a direct call to many troubles mentally, financially and socially . you can either learn hard way via experiencing them or listen to the Guru and have a smooth life. staying with guru is special. you're only 17, very young age to be wise but you will realise this when you are over 25. my request is please hang in there and Stay connected to the Guru Maharaj ji. wjkk wjkf ji

yes I am over 30 now, I only started searching for a life partner from last 9-10 months approx. spoke to few girls regarding this but haven't been lucky yet to find the right one. because there were few issues like moving overseas problem and not having similar beliefs etc. everything takes times I guess. I do get a quite few proposals for the arrange marriage but its not very convincing to me. i would like to get to know someone before I share my life with someone. you don't get much chance in arrange marriage, everything is so quick and pushy. moreover, this covid thing is around and not sure how long it will last. its just easy if I find someone here. and I am sure with Waheguru's Kirpa t will happen soon. something I have some scenarios or questions I just ask sangat for their views. its really helpful this forum. wjkk wjkf ji

Hanji, there's a lot of sangat here but mostly really young ones.

mostly 3ho people are hippies and they converted themselves into sikhi. they still do their hippie things even in the presence of Guru ji.

wjkk wjkf ji I appreciate your views. arranged marriages aren't the same as they were before, middle person (relative, vichola or friend) only introduce you to someone but will not give you that guarantee thing. and the real problem is that they want quick results or answers yes or no! I don't feel down or anything, but this is my priority at the moment and I am keenly working on it with Waheguru's blessings.

wjkk wjkf ji thank you for your views.

wjkk wjkf ji I would like to request sangat to give me their views about arrange marriage, where you get introduce to a girl and you never met her before in your life, 1.how to trust her so quick 2. if she is Amritdhari then at least I can trust my Guru and do ardaas to take first step 3. but if not Amritdhari and wiling to take Amrit just to get marry, its still not fair. 4. if just in case she had any past then how to ask and get truthful answer 5. how can I assure that if she had a past and she will not carry it into marriage life (because you hear a lot of stories these days) 6. can Sikhs get married and live under common law? few more things I will add on later thanks

sure ji and you all are invited in advance for my future wedding. not sure all the sangat (vichola/vicholan) with get the Vichola ring but.

well said! the purpose of having Sikhi in our life is to shape up with Sikhi, not to shape Sikhi to fulfil our desires.

Sikhi "code of conduct" obey guru's hukam "not cutting any hair'. there are many reason to it as well (keeping it natural, or part of our rehat maryada being a Sikh or many scientific reasons.) we can use any which ever suits us the best.. but the bottom line is "Obey Guru's Hukam"

Bhen ji "the assumption maker guy" seems very active downvoting those who are not agree with him. we all are allowed to have our opinions here.

"Koi kisi ko raj na de hai, jo le hai nij bal se le hai"

my view- the Land where we are sitting or living now, who knows what was there 200 years back. so there's no issue buying that church unless people are really superstitious. Rotation cycle.

according to me there are various reasons :- basically for the health reasons, Not only taksali but many others don't drink tea too, for example:- my doctor told me that he doesn't drink tea or coffee at all. because he thinks that he doesn't want his brain to get addicted to it. he still feels active in the morning starting his day without tea or coffee. most of us who are addicted to tea or coffee, we need tea first thing in the morning to start our day. secondly when they process it they add colour n stuff so it gives you a good colour of chai when you make it. feeding colour everyday into your body is bad too.

wjkk wjkf Double standard. a guy can use social media and see someone's stuff on insta secretly then its ok for him but if a girl using social media then they think she is spoilt or addicted. if a Sikh guy marrying a white girl then its ok but if a Sikh woman marrying white guy then they still think she is gone out of parents hands. that actually makes them hypocritical.

so you secretly like her? according to me, addiction of social media in our society is a huge problems. in reality most of us are addicted to our phones and social media however the only difference is, some people keep it secret just like yourself and watch other people's stuff on social media via scrolling up and down, the others put every single details of their life on instagram. if you really know and like the girl and her family then just talk to her and find a way. ask her about this issue, I don't think its very smart to let her go without communicating with her.

focus on your Uni and career. take your time in this situation, don't rush into things! then make a wise decision!

totally agree with you bro!

that's yuk mate!?

that means I care for you guys!:)

watch at 2.26sc sorry if any one finding it offensive. just for a laugh

I tried to ask similar question here but only got limited suggestions like try local gurughar or matrimonial websites etc. young generation also bit unsure of getting married, maybe lack of ability to take responsibilities in a married life.