kaur_khalistani_lioness

waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh! i can't really give u(orgnl poster) advice sorry jio othr thn that if advice by amazing sangat over here doesnt help u....i suggest seek a therapists or someone who can help walk u through ur thought process and clear the underlying issues. its a matter of ur life and hers...two families..., and then ur children(future life). trying not to go off topic here ...forgve me if i do. "same old" u gave a great advice like othrs but one thing which made me bit uneasy was what i am quoting above, case 2. make any excuse? have u ever had someone lie to u? or gave u an excuse which u knew was just a big fat lie...and that person didnt have the gut to tell the truth or what was on their mind? how many times did u knw it was just a lame excuse or a lie? when it comes to relationships, those kind of things should be avoided. all they do is create this ugly negative feelings inside of us, because its easy to figure it out when a person is just making an excuse. our consciousness(inside) know. if u deceiving someone, just know u are doing that to urself more thn the other person(might sound naive but inside feelings of ours are that way).it happns because we fail to see the same light in thm and think we cleaver! just be honest, and tell the reality of things, how u view things and why u think its not gonna work out instead of making an excuse. that is worse thn a slap on the other persons face.ur honesty is only going to help the other person face the truth and hopefully they'll try to move on and change themselves for better. i understand it's just an example, but still its an advice u giving knowing very well that the girl doesnt seem like that kind of a person. she is in love with him, and have no feelings for that other guy. clearly u know what u are talking about...and my feeling is u were bit careless when it came to this nd wrote that down. hope evrything works out. may guru sahib guide u in this tough situation, and bless u with love and peace bhul chuk muaf karni akal sahai waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh!

what is one's "real life"?

wjkk wjkf! i knew it before opening this thread ...lol if the headin got' "cute" in it(posted by mehtab singh) ...must hve somthin to do with da kids! hahaha yes i think its time for him to get married nd hve his own

wjkk wjkf!!! u made me happy! (not because i dont have a job ... but because i have met few people out of billions who think that way and realized the truth) and IN NO WAY AM I SAYING, when i ask u to read what i found and read which portraits smiler beliefs as mine(cant find the other one i read few months back), that one shouldn't work etc. it is one of the pillars of sikhi we just need to be VERY careful that we dont let ourselves be defined by our jobs!(what if u lose it then what?) hopefully this will help..cuz it helped me. i used to be one of those who would judge someone on what their education was or what JOB THEY held. thank u waheguru for giving me experiences to be h___ here is the rest of it http://ezinearticles.com/?Your-Job-Doesnt-...;&id=463591 may akal purakh help us see the akal's jyot in all (im trying ..and struggling...maybe someday his glance of grace will... by feeling sorry for me at my state) oh and to the gursikh who started this thread...im not trying to offend u...my apologies if i do forgive me jio. just hoping that we sikhs dont get into this trap which guru sahib is trying to get us out of. again bhul chuk muaff karni and sorry for my lack of good writing skills. waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh!

hahaha thats "wikid"!!! something i needed to read

where did u find it?

http://video.google.co.uk/videoplay?docid=...30&hl=en-GB

cuz it is AIRA not Arra (in some regions thats how they pronounce it though)...depends where u live

wjkk wjkf! "man tou jot saroop hai appna mool pacchaan har ji tere naal hai ...." and many moor tuks refer back to that we are the light....waheguru lives in us right? that means onces that light is recognized...we realize hukum and the pain and suffering is all "gone"(?) until then we run around feelin all the anguish, disappointments, pains etc etc is there a controversy? i dont see it at the moment!(u did confuse me and boggled my mind for a bit and made me thing hmm there are two themes..i dont see um now. we need to get into the dept of things by sittin with guru sahiban nd gurmukhs/or any spiritual being who has realized the universal truth) its the ego when their is ego...thn there is no god...thus all the mayavi stuff bothrs the ego. bhul chuk muaff karni the hardest thing is even though we all know it ...still we suffer...its all known but not REALIZED and felt yet..jus gallaan hi ney(mere talk) to understand who we really. warrior has explained it well...nd so has bijla singh may guru sahib does kirpa on us...and help us become what we really are let me know if it clears ur thought or if u are trying to get at something by posing questions but u already have the answer. the thing is time to time ..we forget and then it comes back to us wat the truth is. ah may guru sahib always keep us close to his charan. akal sahai! wjkk wjkf!

Singhsta wjkkwjkf! how r u at the moment after all the good advice from sangat? what is going on in the mind?

educated about what? lol why do so many things make us go "hmmmmmmmm"? lolzz techno man stop being a smart*** lol(jus felt like sayin it and dont feel lik deletin it)

i would say read what u asked (1st post) and now read what u wrote yesterday=) guru sahib says that a lot of time that we can't grasp the vastness of vaheguru..."tera anth na payiya" r we trying to find his anth? about contradictions ... when u read gurbani it seems like it is contradicting ...but it doesn't as is said by many. it is our interpretations of it. the reason i asked u to post the shabds is that we need to read first few shabds and the last few shabds to understand what is being taught to us(to our mind) so we can understand and walk on the spiritual path. it's been 10 years? is that what u have been searching for? y? is the confusion...>> if everything is within hukum, then how/why do we 'suffere' according to/through our actions?

i believe u when u say u have tried everything. we all try to help our parents or relatives who are in that state. it is very hard to make someone stop doing something they been doing it for years. we know it's an addiction/disease, thus he(or anyone) can't just stop in one day. it is hard to go cold turkey when it comes to alcoholism. there are places that can help...but the person has to be willing as well. maybe find out if there is a place where u can go and learn to deal with an alcoholic parent? i have read about it few years back that there are such organizations ...depending on where u live. about marriage...i think there are many parents (father-in-laws) etc who drink...(even in some cases mom-in-laws) so why u worried about that? it is about u not about anyone else.first thing is u need to stop worrying about how ur dad's going to effect ur marriage...and concentrate on ur inner-self. yes it is stressful and hard to not think about whats going on in the family, but think about teh things u have to offer to ur wife and ur life=) about wishing that ur dad was dead...would it solve anything? keep urself away and do what u need to do in life.(do ardas) ur concern is valid..im not sayig what u worrying about is something punjabi families dont look into, but there are many who look at the groom to be or bride to be and not their family. u need to stop worrying and think about if u are worthy of a "decent" family thinking of u becoming their princes' husband. hope this helps jio bhul chuk muaff karni! waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh

^^^ why not read the whole shabd or post it here and discuss the confusion?=) thats what sangat is for...."Hoe eikathr milahu maerae bhaaee dhubidhhaa dhoor karahu liv laae || Come and join together, O my Siblings of Destiny; dispel your sense of duality and let yourselves be lovingly absorbed in the Lord" (this i just heard from one of my veer jis) and right now what u have is duality...which is necessary. i do too sometime. just something that is natural and upsetting...but leads us to the truth=) theologians and philosophers have been discussing this thought of "free-will" for such a long time...and i dont think either end has come to any conclusion(s) lol(unless they have now...odda menu pta ni ji ) seriously stop talking abstractly and lets discuss what guru sahib is really saying (the shabds that are confusing u) bhul chuk muaff karni wjkk wjkf!

http://www.businessweek.com/ap/financialnews/D8V40FBO1.htm

of course it will happen...AAIIIVAIE-HE bolli janday randay tusi....chungi gall plz or dont say nythin at all lol but yea i agree with the above... bout printin bani