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  1. Guest


    Wjk wjkf I have had a problem with masturbation and porn addiction however recently I have stopped watching porn all together and havnt done for around 2 months but with masturbation I find it difficult and I seem to always get a long streak of not doing it and then a change in routine will throw me off. I really want to take amrit however this is holding me back as I don't want to break my amrit. My largest streak is 31 days so far is there any advice any one can give me as I feel embarrassed to ask the giani at my local gurdwara about this
  2. All who read the title may be thinking playing with yourself in a sexual manner. But let's understand kaam a little bit more in advance. Sangat jio, I can be an unsatisfied man at times! If I have gone with my friends to a high classified restaurant we all agree on one thing afterwards... "Next time we have to try another restaurant." Any guesses what we say next time after finding that another dine out?? "Next time we have to go for another restaurant!" Basically we can eat out in EVERY SINGLE restaurants across the whole wide world in our life time. Any guesses what will happen when ALL restaurants are dined out on? Will we be SANTOKH!? BACK TO POINT OF KAAM! Two words that I REALLY hate put together, is "Sexually unsatisfied." Two couples get married, they finally make love, then make love again... and again... NOTHING wrong there. However, once one spouse decides "I am not satisfied! I wanted more. My partner's not fulfilling all my desires I developed as a teen, My partner's sexual organs ain't big as I hoped..." THIS IS KAAM PLUS NOT BEING SANTOKH KICKING IN!" If you're unhappy with your spouse's body you are not likely to find happiness in a stranger's body (one out of many why partner's cheat on husband/ wife). Think about it. So Gurbani states to be santokhi and NOT to cheat on your partner. By being santokh half the life's problems will automatically be solved, BUT if your both lives are going by great and dandy, all love and happiness YOU'RE EVEN MOTHER AND FATHER! but never been happy with sex means the mind can become kaami, like "I wish their was another partner in my life, I wish I could cheat..." I guess we must be happy with what we have. You're a mum/ dad to 2 kids GREAT! It's a sign you made love and everything worked out well, if that didn't satisfy you, then what makes us think that another person could satisfy us?? (Just like new restaurants cannot satisfy us).
  3. Guest

    Lust kaam

    Khalsa ji, I am an amritdhari sikh who does nitnem everyday and amritwela. I am 15 and used to have problems with lust, porn, masturbation since past 2 -3 years. Recently I have stopped since past 6-7 months. I do ardas evryday. But now I am getting very strong sensations since past few days , and I am on the verge of making a mistake and giving in to my mind. I set restrictions on my safari and I do not know what to do. I keep a good sangat now which has helped me last for this long but now the thoughts are overpowering. I can feel the poison and toxic when having urges and thoughts but mind doesnt stop. Help me please!!!!!!
  4. Guest

    Masturbation I need help

    I'm an amritdhari 14 year old and I have masturbated 5 time.i really hate my self for it but in the moment my mind gives in. It somehow relieves me of my lust but I don't want to do it my mind gives in and im also forced by my mind to do it. I want to stop. Please help me pyare sangat
  5. Wjkk wjkf. I am a 17 year old amritdhari sikh and i had the urge for a couple of months to indulge in kaam. After really hard trying to fight it i gave in *edited*. I feel very guilty as maharaj said that you should look at the opposite sex as mother sister daughters etc. So please tell me if this is a bajjar kurehit and i have to do a peshi in front of the 5 pyare, or should i do ardas and ask maharaj for kirpa and forgiveness.
  6. User2837373


    Im an amritdhari and I have masturbated 3 times. I feel miserable knowing I have done this and feel like crying. When I do it I feel it relieves me of my lust and I try not to do it but my mind gives in. I feel truly sorry for this and I really want to stop. Please suggest what I should do also I am 15
  7. Guest

    Im A Besharm

    So im a late twenty something male and I have indulged in many bad things due to being overcome with lust, as have probably a lot of other males my sage. Im not amrit shakked but i have had sex before marriage included with married women and even sex with prostitutes. Now i feel very ashamed of all this and deep regret but whats done has been done. I cannot go back and change this but can make sure i make sure i dont carry on making these mistakes. What should i do. I try to meditate but my mind wanders and a lot of the time goes towards lustful thoughts. Kaam and krodh plague me the most i feel. What would the sangat advise.I know i have comitted very big sins and no doubt will have to pay for these sins in this life or the next but will the Guru forgive me? I am honestly trying to make a conscious effort to leave all this behind and leave it in the past. To try and make an effort to become a better person and a better Sikh. Any guidance or advice that the sangat can provide would be a blessing.
  8. ramghariasingh

    Love Or Lust Confused

    i had a crush on a girl but problem is that I am not sure weather i really love her. what to do i don't undetstand.
  9. wahegurubhagatsingh

    Why Is Lust So Bad?

    Why is it bad to lust after a person? Masturbation is a pleasurable experience, what is so bad about it that must be conquered spiritually?? If it hurts no one else, why is it bad?
  10. Navjyot

    Need Help With Lust

    I was blessed with amrit roughly a month ago but two to three afterwards, I started indulging in lust again. I am about 16 now and started indulging in lust at around 10 to 11.
  11. Guest


    Hello, I wanted to know how someone could control masturbation and lust. I'm currently having this problem and would like to stop.
  12. After reading through a number of masturbation and lust problems, I was reading through a website when I came across a message which could be highly helpful. http://satnaam.info/2005/12/02/2-overcoming-the-effect-of-past-lives/ Practicing what this page says should help to put you back on the right path. May Waheguru help you.
  13. first of all , this is NO joke thread or any topix like thread. This is a serious. Well I have to admit that I am a bad Sikh - I watched porn and was somehow addicted for more than 4 years now.. I know there is nothing to be proud of and I feel ashamed . But due to Maharaj I managed now to stay away from all these "lustful" things in this society. I hate this society - every where is sex - from little you are forced to see such things.. really . I guess if there werent such things - I would never fall into this "addiction" . Anyway.... Now I am clean for about 1Month - and trust me it was REALLY hard. I did everything to avoid lustful thoughts and things and seeing woman in wrong way ( its hard cause most of them even attract us guys with short pants etc.. but thats not the topic) Well now I must say I feel very strong and clean - I keep saying myself "Mann jithe jagg Jeet" and it works - but I start to notice "physical problems" , like my intestinal making trouble and my testicles are feel "heavy" , like they are full or smth - there is such a pressure and I have cramps.. I dont know why! I didnt touched myself since 1 month , why all of this is happening now??!? I thought I have overcome that shitty Kaam... and I thought i can control it ( I know i cant kill it , because its a part of human being - but I want to control it) The Problem why I am posting this here as gupt is - that I dont want to go to a doctor. The reasons: 1. I feel ashamed of me 2. Maybe there is a woman dr. and it all will go worse - I dont want that - I still not feel that i conquer that. the battle goes on you know.. 3. I would NEVER tell my parents even if I die ( punjabi ... you know) I try to handle it myself .. have you guys ANY tips? I googled alot and searched the internet but there is nothing ABOUT abstinence only about SEX.. people are mad ... they say you have to "realease " the pressure etc- but I dont want to! This is a fight between me and my Paapi mann - I am trying to get the control over FULLY. So can you guys please help me? Or any dr.. here? Thank you..
  14. Guest

    Bajar Kurehit In Dreams

    wjkkwjkf, I am a middle aged man just taken Amrit. I do nitnem daily but last night a bajar kurehit happened in my dream. I happened to be with another woman (unknown) . Guru Gobind Singh ji said not to share bed with other women, not even in dreams. What will happen to me? I am scared. I am sinned. Will Guru ever forgive me for this paap I have done? Do I have to go for peshi I am ashamed of myself.
  15. Guest

    Cant Look At Myself

    Fataeh I'm amrit shakya and female and i masturbated once only and i feel bad its not intercourse so im not sure what to do. It took three days to realise i made mistake, but i don't know if im wrong or really wrong.
  16. 13Mirch

    Shabad to beat kaam.

    Is there any Shabad to beat kaam?
  17. I have been an amritdhari since June and now I am facing a most extreme battle with myself. Please help me. 1.) Lust- I have tried very hard controlling it but it seems to be triumphing. I wake up in the mornings and sometimes my kachera is soiled. At first I thought it would be the food I eat and so cut down on my diet but this problem still continues. How to stop this? 2.) When lust is done I feel angry at myself very much. When I wake up late to do nitnem I feel very angry How do I stop this? 3.) During the weekends I try waking up but my body feels the cold and doesn't let me. How do I overcome this?

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