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Divorce, what is the sangats view on this. I am asking from a personal perspective. I have been divorced for 6 years now. Lately everyone seems to be saying that we should get together and put the past behind us. I have not spoken to my ex wife at all about it and I don’t know where these ideas are originating from. We have no children.

Has anyone known a Sikh arranged marriage where the couple have got together after a divorce? I thought that these things don’t exist in the Sikh culture?

It’s really messing up my head and I need to resolve this issue. What should I do?

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veer ji

i know sum1 who got divorced n den atfer sometym again got bak togeva

but thngs didnt really work out, even though dey had children...

but im not sayin dis will happen to u,

mayb if u both hav a better understanding wid each thngs u can work it out again.

but u both hav to hav it all out first about da past get thngs clear

then start again coz otherwise da past wont b so easy to let go

if u get wots on ur chest about wot happened n so duz ur ex

n den url hav to both compromise both ways.....

marriage is a very hard relationship, alot of compromising has to be dun both ways

n most of all understanding each other is a must......

gud luck wid wot eva u decide to do

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A couplet by Bhagat Raheem (a medieval age Muslim devotee of Bhagwan Shri Krishan)

Rahiman dhaaga prem ka, na toddo pichkaaye

tootay se phir yeh na jurray, jurray toh gaanth parr jaaye

Raheem, don't break the thread of love

Once broken it can't be fiex again, and if fixed, it will always have a knot

Having said that, if both sides feel its possible and necessary to get back, and are ready to make the required compromises and start fresh, go for it!

And may Gurujee guide and bless you!

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