Marriage Insight

[EKM]

Dear Sangat,

I am passing through a very difficult phase of life, for that i need ur support.

I am married for the past three years with a one year daughter. Me and my wife both are working .Though the choice is of her's to work.

My in laws have interfered in my marriage because of which there is no trust between both of us .She has left me for her job in other city where she is living with my daughter in her parents house.She doesn't feels to be attached or seems that my in laws have poisoned her mind more against me and my parents.

I am feeling disturbed as i think that marriage is based on trust.I am having sleepless nights.

I dont want this relationship to break.How can i make her understand .Or just tell me how can i make myself strong as it seems that its a one sided effort from my side.

My parents are also passing thru difficult phase as they have threatened me agsinst false dowry cases.Also her mother told that she will not allow marriage of my younger brothers.hey say that all this was spoken becuse of situation.But i think there was nothing as such its al there ego and unnecessary discounts jus because their daughter is working

She has not visited my parents neither allowed my daughter to visit them.After so much insult they are expecting me and my parents to talk to them.

Pls guide ...

[chatanga]

whoever your vichola is, you need to get them to convey your side of the story to the others. thats prob the best way.

[sherlsurj]

the main thing here is to do whats right by the kid. i dont think this stuff is black and white. but ur daughters happiness is important too so shes the priority i believe in this situation