Interesting Read About Gang Problem In Bc

[yubacitysingh]

punjabis are the hardest working community over 90% do extremely well cause the parants work 18 hours a day to get their kids everything, unfortanatly when you put in the punjabi culture of boys being favored over girls and boys getting spoiled and aprants working while boys grow up listening to gangster rap

http://www.amren.com/mtnews/archives/2005/12/cultural_issues_drugs_poverty.php good read

The tendency toward favouring boys in the culture has produced what Kandola calls Generation S—for Generation Spoiled.

“When a 19-year-old has a $50,000 car you’re asking for a death warrant,” he said. “Our research tells us that 70 per cent of the boys who are killed are either the only son or the first son.”

http://www.sikhnet.com/news/1984-and-indo-canadian-gangs

The true feminine is the Grace, the loveliness of life. The true masculine serves her and protects her Grace. This is available to all who serve the Guru.

Dark secrets and anti-social behaviour reveal the underbelly of families and communities. Young men joining the Punjabi gangs are coming from middle and upper class families that spoil them. They are known by the enforcement authorities as ‘mama’s boys’ with poor impulse control, using bravado to bolster their egos. Their gangs are not as sophisticated as the more established Asian ones, but are very violent and dangerous as their passions are played out in public venues for attention and status.

At source is a patriarchal system that prefers boys over girls, that has a double standard of expectations of boys and girls, that perpetuates the demeaning of the feminine (in men and women). Combined often with a traditional authoritarian parenting style that precludes real communication, the youth often feel alienated and misunderstood.

The false masculine is being played out in the gangs. The hunger for power, money and status to hide a deep insecurity and fear of the True Self.

This is the counter-balance to the prevalence of the false feminine in the patriarchal culture – the repression of the feminine, the violence against women. Boys are spoiled and seen as trophies in families. Girls are aborted and burned for their dowries. Mothers-in-law are bullies, widows are shunned, and elder women are depressed, girls are flirts and sell their grace to get attention and security from men.

There are also other false masculine arenas. Aggressive businessmen with no integrity. Pervading fraud in the community: taxes, immigration, and unemployment fraud. The doubtful integrity of leadership in the Gurdwaras and the mismanagement of funds. These are woven into the mainstream culture and more difficult to deal with.

Suggestions for Healing

The gangs are the end product, the focus people, of thousands of years of denial and repression of our True Nature – of all of us humans. There is no quick or simple solution. It will take effort, faith, lots of creative people and time to restore balance in our communities. By shifting the focus from the gangs (including telling boys not to join gangs!), to the communities and source of the gangs, a positive result begins right away.

Just a Few

History shows us that change comes from the few – either the dominant few or the righteous few with the courage to stand up to injustice. Indira Gandhi was a powerful political leader but had become corrupt. Sikhs, as a tiny minority, were able to disrupt this status quo. Only a few are needed, as leaders, to work on balancing themselves and their families, transform their inner demons, honour each other, stop projecting out their fear and pain, and hold the space for others to do the same.