Beadbi - Help Needed - Mixed Religion Marriage At Thatht Gurdwara

[Guest Beadbi]

Help!!

I have just found out that a Mixed Religion Marriage is taking place AT

Nanaksar Thath Isher Darbar,

Mander Street (off Penn Road)
Wolverhampton
WV3 0JZ

Sunday 30/11/2014

They are defying the Council of Sikh Gurdwara's ruling.

Any help would be appreciated. This is an insult to our Guru.

If they want an intereligious marriage they should do it at a registry office.

[kharkusingh1996]

contact the UK Sikh Council and make em deal with it if they are willing to.

[buddasingh]

It is an insult to our Guru intentional or not. Couples should think about this and show respect.

However, a far greater insult seems to be couples who claim Sikhi and the groom wears a cultural turban for a day and grows a cultural beard for pictures to shave it for the piss up reception shortly afterward. Reality is of course slightly more complex. There are of course degrees of repect/disrespect from desire to be closer to indifference to Sikhi.

Is the answer to protest each of these unions in gurudwaras? No, however, the collective insult and attack on Sikhi and our Guru is far greater from that disrespectful mentality than it is from inter-religious marriages.

Yes, this is stating that the majority who identify as Sikhs are attacking Sikhi. Does this mean that they are enemies or they should be shunned? No, many are lost simply due to circumstances of their own upbrining. However, the attack on Sikhi, intentional or not, remains.

The next culprit in line is us who recognize the above issue and protest inter-religious marriages but have no issue at all with “birth/caste ‘sikhs’” hijacking Sikhi for their wedding. We allow this because we are blind to our own casteist Brahmin mentality. We consider the sikh caste to mean something, while we continue to consider non-punjabis who’ve given their heads to the Guru to be an pleasant but outsider novelty. We also allow this because we can take on a few, but sava lakh courage is only words we utter. Sava lakh at it’s core is courage in principles regardless of opposition.

We should work slowly to educate within the anand karag context so that our brother and sister who did not have the advantage of a Sikhi based education will themselves at the very least increase respect their own weddings and dictate that they want a proper beautiful langar on the floor, if a reception for an anand karage then no alchohol, if growing a beard, grow kesh and give some serious thought to commitments and recognizing it’s not a novel costume for a day.

Only if we do the above, will we not seem hypocritical about inter-religious marriages, many of which presume one party is sikh based on caste alone.

[Guest Miss Kaur]

This Gurdwara is known for accepting mixed faith wedding bookings and is run by the Sikh Channel presenter Dr Sadhu Singh. He is also the president of Council of Sikh Gurdwaras Wolverhampton.

He should be setting an example in his own Gurdwara and not promoting mixed faith marriages.