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I'm still in high-school, due to circumstances I've failed this year and I'll have to redo it. I've known I was going to fail since about two weeks ago when I discussed it with my teachers.

That was just before a big exam period, that couldn't save my grade no matter what, my parents however thought it could.

Yesterday everyone from my class got called got called to hear whether they passed or failed the year, but since I allready knew, there came no call for me.

When my parents inquired I said I received an email instead of a call.

Now they want to see that mail.

I've lied to them, and that is very wrong and I will never do it again, I feel like <banned word filter activated> for doing it. I'm going to come clean now and try to fix the situation I created with my lies.

The part where the problem comes is the fact that the closest Gurdwara is 2 hours away(by car, but since I can't drive it will take me more time to reach by bike), I can't go to Gurdwara for Pesh. What do I do now?

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I've failed due to a combination of stress, concentration issues, video games and physical tirement.

Let us adress them.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0fL-pn80s-c

1. A varied and healthy diet

Diet is very important especially with cases with Neurological Disorders are involved such as ADHD.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Al6V1EaIH2Y

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xyQY8a-ng6g

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lEXBxijQREo

If you can find organic food and afford it, that would be preferable but not necessary. Alot of people say non-GMO but I would like to see the sources to them.

Tools are available free online. For example http://custommealplanner.com/

Also available for http://custommealplanner.com/vegetarian/ and http://custommealplanner.com/vegan/

2. Exercise

Before many sikhs worked in the very warm farm fields and were burning 5000 calories each day. And altough our diet is what people see in Punjab as poor people diets, alot of them were healthy. Both men and women were built like the vikings are portrayed in the media because of the hard labour in the farms and stuff like heart diseases and diabetes/sugar was not common. Now many people work in offices like software engineers or similair and burn around 1500 calories.

Exercise is also very important for stress.

Do not overdue it with going 2 hour crossfit everyday with raw vegan diet. Start with Brisk walking 30 minutes a day.

Or join a sports club you enjoy playing. Examples can be: Soccer, Cricket, Badminton, Volleyball, hockey etc. Different sports are available in different countries.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hmFQqjMF_f0

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d0IbZ0eiEiQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s0rxcSFw8rw

PE = Physical Education.

3. Meditation

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oWd___MJ5Gg

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8UGFnpoKImE

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KmKj1_jIivE

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nqOq4v0cD9w

Use meditation as a way of dealing with stress.

4. Take breaks regularly

Short breaks between working can help you switch off. But longer breaks are important too.

How about taking the weekend off to relax? Make time for fun and for yourself even if this means that you have to schedule time away from your work. You'll hopefully come back to your work feeling fresh.

5. Sleep (and sign off Facebook, whatsapp etc.)

Sleep is always the best medicine and some people find that small 20-minute naps can help increase productivity.

As students we tend to spend too much time on social media sites and answering emails, texts and phone calls. Sociability is fun – but too much of it, and too much computer time, can lead to more stress.

Failing to switch off from work because of your electronic gadgets will only make you even more stressed.

Listen to this if you have difficulty sleeping.

http://www.sikhnet.com/gurbani/playlist/sleep-traditional

6. Quit smoking

Some people say they smoke to relax, but researchers on the European Board for Research on Nicotine and Tobacco suggest that nicotine suppresses the hormone serotonin, which fights stress. Another good reason to quit.

7. Try to see the positive side

If you missed a deadline, try to appreciate what you learned from this mistake: now you know how to plan ahead. Things might seem bad, but if you try, there is usually something positive to be learned.

8. Listen to bani

A good way is to start here.

http://www.sikhnet.com/radio

9. Time Management Skills

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VUk6LXRZMMk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0fL-pn80s-c

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c8YcKLet70E

10. Setting Goals

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PT3e1Vc5aUg

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c8YcKLet70E

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ktlTxC4QG8g

11. Procrastination

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qvcx7Y4caQE

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=arj7oStGLkU

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1FJ5dkizJTs

Sources:

Manage Your Stress - HowtoStudy.com. (n.d.). Retrieved July 22, 2016, from http://www.howtostudy.com/manage-your-stress/

Steinhoff, N. (2013). Students: 10 ways to beat stress. Retrieved July 22, 2016, from https://www.theguardian.com/education/mortarboard/2013/nov/06/students-ten-ways-to-beat-stress

Managing Stress. (n.d.). Retrieved July 22, 2016, from http://campusmindworks.org/students/self_care/managing_stress.asp

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