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Khalsa ji, I am an amritdhari sikh who does nitnem everyday and amritwela. I am 15 and used to have problems with lust, porn, masturbation since past 2 -3 years. Recently I have stopped  since past 6-7 months. I do ardas evryday.  But now I am getting very strong sensations since past few days  , and I am on the verge of making a mistake and giving in to my mind. I set restrictions on my safari and I do not know what to do. I keep a good sangat now which has helped me last for this long but now the thoughts are overpowering. I can feel the poison and toxic when having urges and thoughts but mind doesnt stop. Help me please!!!!!!

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Keep your mind busy if not on God then other things besides lust... puratan Singh's used to have a policy that if the mind is left free and unattended it will DEFINITELY cause problems (that's why mental health problems were uncommon in Punjab). I recommend finding a hobby and just going at it, maybe even finding a video game or something.. but anything to take your mind off of Kaam. Just keep the mind occupied and tired. 

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The 5 evils are a group you will have to fight till the day you die, (or Mukt, whichever comes first). Understand the disparity between what you want to achieve and what your current state is, and try finding what makes you falter, (which is usually boredom and loneliness for most people.) The battle will never ever be easy, but once you have won, the 5 evils will never win again. I'd say change the battlefield from keep Kaamic thoughts out, to bringing righteous thoughts in, it will be much easier that way. I believe from my personal experience the 5 evils only have power that we give them, if our mind says they don't exist they are gone without much of a fight.

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4 hours ago, Guest Singh said:

Khalsa ji, I am an amritdhari sikh who does nitnem everyday and amritwela. I am 15 and used to have problems with lust, porn, masturbation since past 2 -3 years. Recently I have stopped  since past 6-7 months. I do ardas evryday.  But now I am getting very strong sensations since past few days  , and I am on the verge of making a mistake and giving in to my mind. I set restrictions on my safari and I do not know what to do. I keep a good sangat now which has helped me last for this long but now the thoughts are overpowering. I can feel the poison and toxic when having urges and thoughts but mind doesnt stop. Help me please!!!!!!

Brother Guest Singh Jee,

just by desiring or wishing, one can never ever erradicate kam or any of the 5 chors from within.

One can suppress  them for a while as you have done.

And that is like keeping a snake in a covered basket, anytime one removes the tap, the snake will bite you. There is always danger of being stung sooner or later by kaam or other 4 evils as well.

The real job is, in giving an antidote to those 5 vikaars, to nullify their poison.

Once their poison is wiped out, they will never even bother in trying to sting you, because by then, even they have become cool and calm, that poison within them, which used to burn them with the urge to sting the jeevas, is finished.

And that antidote brother, is none other then Wahiguru´s Nam simran.

Dhan Dhan Satguru Arjun Dev tells us:

Prabh ka simran, man kee mael jae.

The 5 vikaars are the filth of the mind, but if we do His chintan, His simran, the filth of the vikaars, will be wiped away; not only that, but, we shall be filled with His Jot.

God bless you

Sat Sree Akal.

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