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@ simran345 - You soon learn who your real friends and well-wishers are when you hit rock-bottom. The best one I've heard is "We came to the door but he never opened it. He must have been sleeping." At 2.00pm in the flipping afternoon??!!? I've never slept past 8am even at my worst, and with my condition I can't lie down for more than 5 hours. It's just lip service from these people so my mother doesn't feel upset that no-one stood by us at our time of need. Nobody wants to know a person when he / she's hit hard times but when the good times start rolling then the door-bell doesn't stop ringing! The great thing is Akal Purakh is breaking all these flimsy social ties for me when (if) I do eventually get on my feet. It really is true that we have NOBODY in this world, but what we take with us in terms of kamayee. I only wish I'd learnt this a few years earlier... :blush2: :biggrin2: All I can say to those who have difficult relationships with their parents is just try to prove them wrong. Help around the house when you're not asked, do some chores when they least expect it, etc. Eventually you'll want to start doing these things by yourself and not because you're expecting praise. I find parents like to see their kids pre-occupied.

ੴ ਸਤਿਗੁਰਪ੍ਰਸਾਦਿ ॥ ਪੰਜਾਂ ਦਾ ਵਿਸਾਹ ਨਹੀਂ ਕਰਨਾ http://gurmatbodh.bl.../blog-post.html Do not trust these groups because they have left the Guru and have become Beymukhs. Doing Sangat of them one will also become a Beymukh. ੧. ਮੀਣੇ: Sri Guru Ram Daas Jee called Prithi Chand a Meena and disowned him: ਸਤਿਗੁਰ ਸਚਾ ਪਾਤਿਸਾਹੁ ਮੁਹੁ ਕਾਲੈ ਮੀਣਾ ॥੧॥ The True Guru is the True emperor and the faces of the dissemblers are blackened.(1) ਤਿਉ ਦਰਗਹਿ ਮੀਣਾ ਮਾਰੀਐ ਕਰਿ ਕੂੜੁ ਕੁਪਤਾ ॥੨॥ Thus, the dissembler out of his own hypocrisis is beaten hollow in the court of the Lord. ਖੋਟੀ ਸੰਗਤਿ ਮੀਣਿਆ ਦੁਖ ਦੇਂਦੀ ਮਿਤੈ ॥੫॥ Similarly, dissembler's company causes suffering for their friends These are the sinners that tried to kill Sri Guru Har Gobind Sahib Jee as a child, by poisoning him, by letting a snake loose in the same room as him. When Sri Guru Gobind Singh Jee Maharaaj came to the Malwa region of Punjab Prithi Chand's descendants did a Benti to Guru Jee: Maharaaj Jee, we have been separated from the Guru Ghar, how can we reunite with you? Guru Jee replied: If you take amrit you will be accepted back into the Guru Ghar, whoever takes amrit will be our brothers. Bhai Chaupa Singh states in his Rehatnama: ਜੋ ਗੁਰੂ ਕਾ ਸਿਖ ਹੋਵੈ, ਪੰਜਾਂ ਨਾਲ ਨਾਤਾ ਨਾ ਕਰੈ। ਵਰਤਣ ਭੀ ਨਾ ਕਰੈ- ਪਹਿਲੇ ਮੀਣੇ, ਦੂਜੇ ਰਾਮਰਾਈਏ, ਤੀਜੇ ਕੂੜੀਮਾਰ, ਚੌਥੇ ਭੱਦਣੀ (ਮੋਨੇ), ਪੰਜਵੇਂ ਮਸੰਦ। A Guru's Sikh must never associate with these 5: Meene, Raam Raaeeai, those that kill their daughters, those that cut their hair, and Masands. ੨. ਮਸੰਦ: These people collected money in the name of Guru Sahib and mis-used it for their own self-fish needs. Bhai Prahlad Singh says in his Rehatnama: ਕਾਰ ਭੇਟ ਸੁਖ ਮੰਨਤ ਕਰ, ਜੋ ਸਿਖ ਚਿਤ ਭਰਮਾਇ, ਸੋ ਸਾਕਤ ਪਾਪੀ ਸਦਾ, ਬਿਕਟ ਰੂਪ ਹੋਇ ਜਾਇ ।੧੯। ਕੁੜੀ ਮਾਰ ਮਸੰਦ ਜੋ, ਮੀਣੇ ਕਾ ਪ੍ਰਸਾਦਿ, ਲਏ ਜੁ ਇਨ ਕੇ ਹਾਥ ਕਾ, ਜਨਮ ਗਵਾਵਹਿ ਬਾਅਦ ।੨੦। Clear instructions are given here for Sikh to never associate with Masands, Meene, those that kill their daughters, even taking there food is forbidden. In the Book Rehatnamai by Piara Singh Padam these instructions are given: ਮਸੰਦਾ ਨੋ ਮੰਨਣਾ ਨਹੀ, ਗੁਰੂ ਸੰਗਤ ਕੀ ਬਹੁੜੀ ਕਰੇਗਾ। ਮਸੰਦ ਮਸੰਦੀਏ ਦੇ ਮਰਣੇ ਪਰਣੇ, ਗੁਰੂ ਕੇ ਸਿਖ ਨਾਹੀ ਬੈਠਣਾ। ਮਸੰਦ ਅਰੁ ਮਸੰਦੀਏ ਨਾਲਿ ਮਿਲਾਪੁ ਨਹੀ ਕਰਣਾ, ਹੋਰ ਵਧੀਕ ਦਿਕਤਿ ਨਾਹੀ ਕਰਣੀ, ਪਿਆਰ ਕਰਨਾ। ਜੋ ਸਿਖ ਮਿਲੈ ਸੋ ਮੇਲਿ ਲੈਣਾ। ੩ .ਧੀਰ ਮੱਲੀਏ: The older son of Baba Gurditta Jee and Sri Guru Har Rai Sahib Jee's older Brother, Dhir Mal, was jealous at the fact that Sri Guru Har Rai Sahib Jee had gotten Gurta Gaddi, and had set up his own Dera, claiming to be the Guru at Sri Kartarpur Sahib. Gursikhs kicked him out of Sri Kartarpur Sahib. Then later on he set himself as a Guru at Baba Bakale, when Sri Guru Tegh Bahadur Sahib had gotten Gurta Gaddi. Then out of jealousy he attempted to assassinate Sri Guru Tegh Bahadur Sahib Jee, by telling a Masand by the name of Sheenhe someone to shoot a gun at Guru Jee ਕਰਤ ਰਹਯੋ ਜਬਿ ਧੀਰ ਮੱਲ, ਤਬਿ ਗੁਰ ਧਰਿ ਕਛੁ ਰੋਸ। ਕਹਯੋ ਜੁ ਬਰਤੈ ਤਾਹਿਂ ਸੋਂ, ਲਗੈ ਤਿਸੈ ਸਿਖ ਦੋਸ ।।੨੩੭।। (Sri Gur Panth Parkash Bisram 26, First Part, Page 817) For this reason Sikhs do not trust, or do Sangat of those that believe in Dhir Mal. ੪ .ਰਾਮਰਾਈਏ- The older son of Sri Guru Har Rai Sahib Jee was jealous with the 8th and 9th Gurus. To please the worldly king Aurengzeb, he changed a Gurbani Tuk from : ਮਿਟੀ ਮੁਸਲਮਾਨ ਕੀ ਪੇੜੈ ਪਈ ਕੁਮ੍ਆਿਰ ॥ to "ਮਿਟੀ ਬੇਈਮਾਨ ਕੀ" For this reason Guru Sahib Jee kicked him out of the Guru Ghar (Sikh Panth) and told his Gursikhs not to associate with him. The Khalsa does not associate with these people. ਰਹਿਤ ਏਹੀ ਹੈ ਜੋ ੧. ਮਸੰਦੀਏ ੨. ਧੀਰ ਮੱਲੀਏ ੩. ਰਾਮਰਾਈਏ ੪. ਸਿਰ ਮੁੰਡਤ, ਇਹਨਾਂ ਨਾਲ ਵਰਤਣਾ ਨਹੀਂ । This is the Rehat, do no associate with these people. ( Rehat Nama Bhai Daya Singh Jee, Page 70) ੫. ਗੰਗੂ ਸ਼ਾਹੀਏ (ਹਿੰਦਾਲੀਇ )- The Masand that shot at Guru Tegh Bahadur Sahib Jee and Gangoo Shah who sold the small Sahibjadey and Mata Gujar Kaur Jee out to Vazeer Khan. The Khalsa does not associate with their lineage and family. These Five groups are not to be associated with by the Khalsa. If any of them come to the Panj Pyare and take Amrit, and accept Sri Guru Granth Sahib Jee as their Guru, then they are our Brothers. ਪੰਜਾਂ ਨਾਲ ਮੇਲ ਨਹੀਂ ਕਰਨਾ The Khalsa Does not eat or drink with these people: [/left] ੧. ਨੜੀਮਾਰ- Those that use Tobacco, smoke cigarettes, drink Alcohol and use other Intoxicants. Never eat or drink with them. ੨. ਕੁੜੀ ਮਾਰ- Those that kill their Daughters at birth. (In Modern Perspective, this would include Abortion.) ਦੋਹਰਾ ਮੀਣੇ ਔਰ ਮਸੰਦੀਏ, ਮੋਨਾ ਕੁੜੀ ਜੋ ਮਾਰ ਹੋਇ ਸਿਖ ਵਰਤਨ ਕਰਹਿ, ਅੰਤ ਕਰੇਗੁ ਖੁਆਰ Meene, Masands, those that cut their hair, and kill their daughters. If a Sikh associates with any of these he/she will be ruined. (Rehatnama Bhai Prehlaad Singh Jee) ਕੁੜੀ ਮਾਰ ਆਦਿਕ ਹੈਂ ਜੇਤੇ ਮਨ ਤੇ ਦੂਰ ਤਿਆਗੇ ਤੇਤੇ All those that kill their daughters, stay far far away from them. (Rehatnama Bhai Desa Singh Jee) ੩ .ਲੜਕੀਆਂ ਵੇਚਣ ਵਾਲੇ - Those that sell their daughters during weddings. ਸਾਈ ਪੁਤ੍ਰੀ ਜਜਮਾਨ ਕੀ ਸਾ ਤੇਰੀ ਏਤੁ ਧਾਨਿ ਖਾਧੈ ਤੇਰਾ ਜਨਮੁ ਗਇਆ॥੬ ॥ The daughter of the alms-giver is just like your own; by accepting this payment for performing the wedding ceremony, you have cursed your own life. ||6|| ਜੋ ਗੁਰੂ ਕਾ ਸਿਖ ਹੋਇ...ਕੰਨਿਆ ਦੇ ਪੈਸੇ ਨਾ ਖਾਏ The Sikh of the Guru does not use the money of his daughter (Rehatnama Bhai Chaupa Singh Jee) ੪. ਸਿਰ ਗੁੰਮ- Those that cut their hair ਸਿਰ ਗੁੰਮਨ ਕੇ ਮੁਖ ਨਹੀਂ ਲਾਗੋ ਪਾਂਚਨ ਕੋ ਸਭ ਸੰਗ ਤਿਆਗੋ Do not go near those that cut their hair Lose all association with the 5 (Those mentioned in this post) (Sri Gur Sobha, By Kavi Sainpat) ੫. ਮੋਨੇ- Those that remove all the hair from their head and face. The Khalsa does not eat or sit with these people. If anyone of these people takes amrit and becomes Rehat-Vala, then they are our brothers and sisters, then we can eat and sit with them. Khalse only sit and eat with other Khalse

it is from rehitnama i htink but ill double check or maybe bhai nand laal ji dont hank me its the gurus words

there are 4 things that we canot do. and its what guru gobind singh ji says. 1. eat any kind of meat (because sikhs do not distinguish the type of meat just because u kill it in a certian way. i.e. halaal / chatka) so killing somthing in one way, and not another way, does not make that meat holy. 2. take any kind of mind altering will altering substance, aka, intoxicants, drugs.. we must control our mind. and learn how to, ourselves. 3. cut any hair whatsoever on our body or anyone elses as these are spiritual antennas for naam vibration. and they will vibrate if u try! 4. and do haraam. these are the 4 things that we cannot do. the 5th optional one is dying hair, or the body. as in tatooz etc. haraam is lots of things. mainly adultry, but inclusive of sexual relations before one is ready. i.e. b4 marrage. these are the main things. other things that if u keep on doing, that will brek ur amrit, is as follows... so... haram is also, making sum one elses heart upside down (khraab) i.e. hurting sum 1. ; speaking bad to somone and shouting, as this breaks the love you hav for god (says gurbani). and anything else. thas bad.. haraam litterally means the things u cannot do / shouldnt do.. (its more the things that you >cannot< do.) hope this helps!

I am wearing this tshirt to work which I have been trying to squeeze into since 2008 hahaha. I am losing weight, but I am not weighing myself, just going by the feeling. My diet is improving each day, I have given up juices and drink water instead. I bought 1L bottle of spring water and once that was finished, I just refill it at work. Apart from that, I make sure I eat fruit throughout the afternoon so my lunch is pretty reasonable. Not too light and not too heavy. I think, the healthy lifestyle does take some getting used to it, I am still at the early stages but I like it Oh and If I want to eat something unhealthy, I just have very little of it for taste. Like found this Ladoo in the fridge, I had a quarter of it, instead of having one or two like before. So If I want to eat things like Ladoos, cakes, I just have very small portion now.

JUSTICE DELAYED IS JUSTICE DENIED.

mithia than nahi parupkaara- False is the body which does not do good to others khalsa soe nirthan ko paalay khalsa soe dust ko ghaalay They alone are Khalsa who take care of the meek and they alone are khalsa who destroy all the evil forces in this world against opression- Kabīr jorī kī▫e julam hai kahṯā nā▫o halāl. Kabeer, to use force is tyranny, even if you call it legal. Ḏafṯar lekẖā māʼngī▫ai ṯab ho▫igo ka▫un havāl. ||187|| When your account is called for in the Court of the Lord, what will your condition be then? ||187|| AND THE FAMOUS soora so pechaniye jo ladai deen ki heit purja purja ghat maray kabhoo na shaday khet They alone are real heros who fight for the meek (poor/ect) they may be cut apart piece to piece but they never leave the battlefield (give up) here deen has two roots farsi and sanskrit in farsi it means religon and in arabic as well but in sanskrit (according to the rules of grammer this line has the sankit root) deen means the poor and meek as in deenan ki pritpal kare nit mohe deen kirpa nidh thakur ect,,,,,,, when babar was invading india and Guru Nanak Dev ji says that all the poor women whose beauty had becoem their worst enemy( there cause for rape) they were being raped and princes were being starved Guru ji noted that all the women called on their patron saint or baba and cried for the sants and Guru ji asked where the saints are and was appalled and taught that in times of holocaust and human rights violations it is selfish to sit quietly with your mala guru ji said kotee hoo pir varaj rahiye ja meer suniya thiaya - thoushands of spiritual learders were called when the king attacked (miri and piri are used here for the first time) Do not ever even utter a harsh word your lord lives in all. Do not break a single heart these are all precious jewels.The minds of all are precious jewels to harm them is no good at all. If you desire your beloved than do not break anyones heart.

Translation: Yes coz, 5 chors are all linked so if you get one then others soon follow. :angry2: What makes me angry is this love and bloke with box of chocolates. I hate chor, all are linked so if you get one then other worries me angry. Is this greed?