savalakhsingh

v j k k v j k f sorry i have deleted this post because i am scared of the person its about finding out please email me at guptsinghsvalakh@gmail.com v j k k v j k f

Thank you guys singho. This has cleared my head a lot which has been disturbed for some time.

I know this thread is about something a lot serious but can i change the question slightly: I have been raised with gursikh values ever since birth, guru kirpa both my parents are gursikhs who follow maryada. So I never even had a relationship. Now I recently received a rishta from a well respected gursikh family (who weren't always into sikhi) and upon talking to the girl for some time (about 3 months), we talked about previous relationships. At this point, we're both quite attached to each other because we've been getting to know each other texting and calling quite a lot.. i know it's a bad thing but this is where my question comes in. So, it turns out this girl has not always been into Sikhi and has had multiple relationships previously (nothing s3xual, the furthest she went was kissing).. but this upset me quite a bit. Is that wrong of me? I'm trying to look past it because I know she wasn't into Sikhi back then but still I feel like it's a big step to even kiss someone.. or is that just because I have been brought up in a gursikh household that i think that? Because I asked some gore friends and none of them care, they think kissing is nothing, they don't even care if she's not a virgin because they're not themselves. So, I'm not sure if i'm overreacting or if I should actually wait for someone who's waited to take this step. I don't hate her for it, but now whenever I think of her or text her I'm reminded of this all the time and it's so frustrating. Sorry this post was a bit too personal, I may delete later but I don't know who to go to for this kind of advice.

if there are any keertan clips of this shabad please link them below sangat ji

Sangat is everywhere. Satsang is not just the company of the saints, whatever inspiration, motivation or help you need in life can come only from Guru Sahib, Akaal Purakh - who can be present in any form.. maybe it's a Saint, a gursikh, a sehaj dhari sikh or just some random stranger. With Maharaj kirpa, i believe there are a lot of gursikhs on this forum who have a lot of giaan. Why don't you start by telling us what's wrong?

ok i guess that makes sense ?

What is everyone's new years resolutions? To do with sikhi or not, let me know! Mine is: * Read a dharmic book every day * Of course - maintain amritvela * Listen to katha every day even if 2 mins

I'm not sure if it is true but maybe Guru Gobind Singh jee was showing humility in that they didn't feel they were on the same level as those whose writings are in Guru Granth Sahib jee, they said "Sabh Sikhan ko Hukam Hai, Guru Maneyo Granth" so maybe they added their writings in a whole separate Granth because they didn't want people to bow down to their writing as a sign of humility?

Liberation is essentially union with God, isn't it? That's what we are all aiming for.. to merge back with God. For me, it's not a state of mind or anything metaphorical like that, liberation to me (as a sikh) is literally to be free of this cycle of birth and death and be one with God.

I have gained a lot of confidence. I used to have so many self image issues and the need to be "perfect". After coming into Sikhi, I realise we shouldn't be trying to please other people, we need to please only one Satguru. After that mindset, everything is hukam.. Everyone is perfect - everyone has the One divine joth inside of them. After realising these things, I get angry less, (I try to have less ego as ego is the root of anger), I'm generally much much MUCH more happier. I used to be so depressed and feel sorry for myself before Maharaj showed me this path. Now, I realise that Gur mere sang sadha hai naale - God is with us everywhere. I wouldn't say I had a lot of kaam in me, but I was infatuated a lot before, now I see everyone as my brothers and sisters as I know that Maharaj has a plan for everyone. There is someone out there for me but I am not actively seeking that person out (not yet anyways). I also have no desire to wear branded stuff or have expensive things. I find joy in the simple things (i do have a few branded clothes and tech stuff but I couldn't care less if those things were taken from me as I don't need them).. so I guess I lost some sense of attachment. I love this post man, after typing this out and reflecting on how far I've come in Sikhi makes me truly content and grateful for Vaheguru for all this ? Maharaj kirpa kare keep you all in chardikala

What I understand/have come to believe (not saying that I'm right). There's a few ways a soul comes into the world: 1) A shaheed Singh been sent to do God's work (to breathe new life into the Panth). It's been noted that around very 50 years, something big happens in the Sikh Panth which requires a tonne of Shaheed Singhs - so Gursikhs theorise that in this day and age, there are gems in the youth of the Sikh Panth who are puratan shaheed singhs come back to fulfil their job again (i.e. become shaheed once again). This is often the ideology of some "Taksali Singhs" who believe that Sant Jarnail Singh jee will "return" (i.e. take birth again to save the Sikh Panth once more). 2) Through good karams: There are often stories of really young children who were human in their past life too, who remember that life. This must mean that in their past life they did a lot of good karams to be reborn back into human and not have to go through the 8.4mil life forms. This could be the case when a baby (who is unable to generate any karams yet as his/her mind isn't developed enough) dies or when a person dies who did a lot of seva etc but was not holy enough to pray for liberation - this person might be reborn as a Sikh so they can become Khalsa and attain liberation. 3) Repeating the 8.4mil life forms cycle: This could be the case when a person is really bad in this life that they go through temporary hell (narak), then he/she is reborn into this life cycle - could be for 10 years, 100 years, or thousands of years depending on how bad their karams were. If a person was really really bad in this life, Maharaj may give him the reincarnation of a tree, or mountain (yes, mountains are considered one of the life forms in Gurbani) Please read the entire shabad, it's so enlightening. 4) Ghosts - there's also cases where there are so many spirits who have found the house of Guru Nanak. I'm sure you know how people become ghosts (it's also in gurbani - through attachment of the house/this body etc). So, these ghosts who have found Sangat and Gurdwaras do bhagti there within the sangat. I think there was a recording of a ghost speaking to a Sikh sant who was questioned why he hasn't come on earth as a human and the ghost replied that there is no mother who has good enough karams yet to give birth to me. Because the ghost did so much bhagti that he requires a womb worthy enough. So, I believe these are some of the ways you may have achieved human life. You are very very lucky you were born as a Sikh as you have the ultimate Truth (Sri Guru Granth Sahib jee) which can help you achieve liberation.

A gursikh once said to me that you have 2 minds. That is when at amritvela when we are trying to read gurbani, one mind is focused on reading it and one mind is wondering elsewhere and that's when we forget like "oh.. i've completed japji sahib already?". How to overcome this is - at amritvela when you are doing simran, do simran with your mouth (with one mind, like when you are reading from gutka sahib), and with the other mind, do mool mantar jaap in your surtee (mind). This will be really hard and almost impossible at first, but you will realise that your mind does not wonder.. because you have given both your minds 2 things to do so there is no third mind which can wonder off elsewhere. Eventually, you will get the hang of it (personally, I did it for about 9 days and on the 10th day I could do it with ease). Then, instead of doing mool mantar jaap, maybe do jaap of a shabad you want to get kanth whilst doing your amritvela simran. You can also do this as you are listening to, say, Sukhmani Sahib. With one mind, you are listening to every word, concentrating on it immensely. And with the other mind, you are doing Simran (out loud). This also applies to listening to katha or anything you want to concentrate on really, just know that you have 2 minds and you need to train them to focus - so give them both one thing to do each, don't just say "okay I want to concentrate on only this one thing" because then, the other mind will wander off. So this is a great trick to focus your mind on Vaheguru and Gurbani whilst alone. But how can we remember Vaheguru whilst with others, or when both our minds are busy with distractions? I was told by this gursikh that at least one mind should always be given the task to remember God. Say you are speaking to someone, on mind is listening, the other mind is talking - but you are not listening and talking at the same time otherwise you would be talking over your friend you are talking to. So, give one mind the task of listening, and then talking. In the background, the other mind should constantly be doing Simran or mool mantar (in your surtee - mind, not out loud). Even if you are not concentrating on the surtee simran, you are still doing it in the background. This may seem impossible atm but with time it will be natural and you will be able to remember Vaheguru with every saas (breath). You just have to keep at it, do it constantly. I hope this helps. Bhul Chuk di khimaa jee.

This is the exact case that I had too (not for myself personally but a family member). He found an amritdhari girl but she was without keski - there will have to be small compromises somewhere. I don't want this to be the case for me too so here's what I suggest (and what I am planning to do myself): In your area (or in your country), familiarise yourself with gursikhs, attend smagams, etc. Make gursikh friends. Then, ask your friends or an elder trusted gursikh to find a suitable match for you in India or wherever you want. I personally don't want someone from India as I grew up in UK. Not that I have anything against Punjabi amritdhari girls but it's for the same reason you said - our mentality is different. But most importantly, remember, only Guru Sahib is the one who can do sanjog. Constant ardas is a must. Without ardas, nothing can be achieved. Good luck bro!

WOW! Thanks for this!

I personally don't agree with it either. What can we say that Gurbani doesn't already say?

I heard Bhai Vir Singh jee's Asht Guru Chamatkaar is a must read!! Have downloaded that here it is for anyone wanting to read: Sri_Asht_Guru_Chamatkar_(Part_3)-Bhai_Vir_Singh_Punjabi.pdf Sri__Asht_Gur_Chamtkar_(Part_1_&_2)-Bhai_Vir_Singh_Punjabi.pdf

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Everyone on this thread is thrashing this woman, (rightly so, you did not have good intentions going into the marriage and maharaj gave you a lesson by getting married to someone with a mental problem). But let's focus on what you can do now. You can go back to him, apologise to him and his family, start reading paath and try to be a good wife and help him on his journey. Don't be so selfish as to just think about your needs. Or, you can marry another man for his money or big house and the cycle will repeat. I guarantee you will not find happiness chasing materialistic things and wealth.

so you are saying one ang of maharaj is less than the rest of maharaj? that's not true. even if maharaj only consist of "ik onkar" shabad, maharaj would still be complete with oneness. Any shabad of gurbani is the complete Guru. There is a sakhi that one time Guru Sahib asked his sikhs before sitting on his horse "who can recite all of Guru Granth Sahib to me by the time I sit on my horse" I forgot which sikh said it, but one sikh came forward and said "I'll try Maharaj". That Sikh said "Ik Onkar" only and by the time Maharaj sat on their horse they had a smile on their face and knew that this person had realised the true meaning of "mool mantar" (root mantra of everything). So i personally found it rude you are saying when we are standing in front of maharaj, we are standing in front of 0.0007% of our Guru as that is incorrect. Bhul Chuk Maaf karni, not meaning to sound rude or hurt anyones feelings.

We should get darshan of our Guru (physical saroop). It is a shame to see youths putting down their gutka sahibs and picking up their digitalised gurbani. It's good to some extent, but there is no words to describe the anand felt when reading from a physical gutka sahib. Similarly, there is no equal joy of physically going to the gurdwara and surrendering to your guru. It's all about sharda (love), you first have to think about going to get Guru ji's darshan. Then you have to dress appropriately, then you have to get out of your house, walk/drive to the gurdwara, take your shoes off, wash your hands, etc. All of this is because of sharda - it builds even more sharda in the mind. If we just sit at home all day staring at pdfs of Sri Guru Granth Sahib jee, there is no sharda building up as we think this is easily accessible to us, we can read whenever we want. Like in the puratan times, people were forced to kanth (memorise) gurbani because there was no printing press companies to mass produce gutka sahibs, it took so much effort, months of writing gurbani to form a pothi sahib. That's why most people just had all of Sri Guru Granth Sahib jee kanth. Now, because of the information age these things are all available to us on the press of a button, we are not making effort to visit guru sahib or kanth gurbani. It's nothing like gurdwara politics or anything. you go to the gurdwara only for your own self - no one else. You go for guru ji's darshan. It's not like the gurdwara committee is stopping you from going to the gurdwara. So why can't you go? If you really can't go then consider bringing Guru Sahib home, that way you will surely do darshan of guru sahib everyday, your house will become a gurdwara! Bhai Sukha Singh jee says we should get darshan of our guru DAILY TWICE. ਮੈ ਬਿਨੁ ਗੁਰ ਦੇਖੇ ਨੀਦ ਨ ਆਵੈ ॥ Without seeing my Guru, sleep does not come. If you cannot do darshan twice a day, at least once a day. Imagine Guru Gobind Singh jee was here - would you spend even one day without seeing Guru Sahib? Now how many times do we spend without seeing Guru Granth Sahib ji?

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

VJKKVJFK So when a kathavachik like bhai Sukha Singh starts a katha they always begin with "sri nanak pad pankaj bandan.." manglacharan. Does anyone have the translation for this? ?

vjkkvjkf! I am very sorry for what has happened to you, always keeping you in my ardas sister. Firstly, I agree with S1ngh that it is not right to look for a partner who is not into sikhi - go for a gurmukh. Firstly, find happiness within your own self and focus on your Sikhi, start doing nitnem, ardas and amritvela every day. Then you can start looking for someone who is like you and also does nitnem, and has pakka amritvela. Most likely, that person will be a gurmukh and will follow guru sahib. If you are going for outer appearance then you will never be happy because one day your partner will be old and frail and you will no longer be attracted to him because of his looks. But if you go for his heart and fall in love with him, then no matter how he will look on the outside, his heart will always stay the same. There are many gurmukhs who don't care about how many divorces you have had, or what your past is, they only care about the future and how you will better their gursikhi jeevan. In Guru Sahib's times, most singhs used to get married to the girls they would rescue (after the girls had taken amrit and become singhnia of course). These girls would be abused and worse by mughals and hindus but the khalsa doesn't care for the past. Always do ardas before committing to anyone. Talk to a respected elder gursikh wherever you live and im sure they will help you find a gurmukh singh who treats you right and will help you in sikhi as well as gristi. here read this article which highlights what qualities a gurmukh husband should have: http://www.gurmatbibek.com/contents.php?id=67 VJKKVJKF! Good luck penji

here is cosmic symphony, i wasn't able to find a free pdf of ascending spirits but i'll make a pdf of it soon and post it on this thread in the next week ? Cosmic-Symphony-English.pdf