Good question.
I will tell you from my experience. Was heavily involved in Kaam when growing up. Was always a Singh but grew up as a troubled kid and at one point drinking, smoking weed, checking out girls and watching porn was the norm.
But one day heard Sant Kartar Singh Bhindrawale's Katha on youtube and this changed my life. He emphasized on the mind which really made me listen. However, overtime my mental stability declined and my mom decided to take me to India. Learnt a lot from the trip but when coming back started getting into trouble with the law and was incarcerated a couple of times.
10 years later still trying to get my mind under control. Probably at the same point now before going to India but more connected to Gurbani and naam. Waking up early in the morning, reciting naam and meditating helps a lot to keep the mind under control. Going for long walks and listening to kirtan helps too.
You are pretty much awake and probably more wiser than myself. But you will slowly start to understand when you gain divine knowledge. In this game of life you probably won't entirely avoid Kaam but slowly you will understand what Guru Granth Sahib Ji is trying to say.
Please never forget Guru Granth Sahib Ji cuz sometimes it feel likes there will be very Sikhs left that will keep Guru Ji in their chit. But that's another topic.