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IF YOU DONT QUESTION, THEN YOU CANNOT LEARN & FULLY UNDERSTAND. AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IF YOU WANT TO KNOW...ITS SOMETHING CALLED CURIOSITY...SOMETHING GOD GAVE US ALL. i would ask god: can you give me a ferrari?

guru da langar is guru da langar, it doesnt matter if it is chips and beans or dhal and roti...it is still guru ji's

it was a joke...so funny...so true...chakde

fair enough...he has got $4000. Chakde. This is the world we live in and i think you should take advantage of what you can get, especially if something like that happens. There is nothing wrong with that. It is the police guys fault. He could even donate some money to charity (though doubt he would...lol)

i agree with you totally....i am a mona, but i still have common sense not to go out clubbin, or getting drunk, etc. :D

You seem to be stuck on whether you should get married or have a girlfriend. Its pretty obvious you want to be with someone. So i think you should just get married. You have waited this long, do not ruin it by dating. Dont worry about that you have not attracted any chick to be your girlfriend. It is good you havent had a girlfriend. And i am sure you will be able to find someone. Be positive. And remember it isnt all about looks, fair enough you want someone decent, but things like being a caring, respectful, and nice person are probably more important. Why dont you tell your parents to find you a kuri?? or upload a profile onto say www.shaadi.com or some other site like that. You should get married, you are 23...lol...thats my view anyway...just relax, you will be fine.

yeh it is JustME :D yeah of course that is DEFINATLY NOT RUDE OR DISRESPECTFUL

thanks for that

I, myself couldn't stand marrying someone who has been with other men. There is nothing offensive about that. Why should you take offense of other people's choices in life, especially when their is nothing wrong about those choices. It would totally disgust me and i would never marry a girl who has had a relationship before. There is nothing disrespectful, ignorant or rude about that. You may not agree, fair enough but to say it is disrespectful and rude is going to far. NOTE: This is not intended to offend anyone. This is my personal view. :D

i see someone showing his arse...lol

i cant be bothered searching, just like you cant be bothered writing a few lines and being helpful. :D

there are other places you can meet. Meeting in a club is just stupid. Everyone is just becoming westernized and the values and culture is disappearing. Soon it will be okay to go to strip clubs, etc, etc. It slowly keeps going further. Thats my view anyway. If you cant enjoy, meet new people without going to a club...shame on you.

yeh i have heard that it is wrong to idolize their pictures. Also are pics of the guru's allowed in the gurdwara? coz many gurdwara have the pics. I heard it shouldnt be allowed?? anyone know???

i am not trying to offend you or anyone else, i am just expressing my view. Before there were very few people that would do stupid things, and if you look now, it is increasing so dramatically. If your saying that most of your friends don't drink fair enough. But if you did a poll on the amount of people that drink/do drugs it is substantially more than people who don't. I said there are exceptions and said majority not ALL,and you will have different opinions than me, as we have been brought up differently. Here is an article from a survey regarding Australians. by the way it was in 2002, and i think it can be only worse now. "In 2002, Roy Morgan Research conducted an Alcohol Awareness Survey for the Salvation Army. The key findings were reported as: * Binge drinking for both young males and females is significant with 35 percent of teenage males admitting to drinking in one day during the last month between 11 and 30 alcoholic drinks and 22 percent of teenage females drinking between 9 and 30 drinks. * 63 percent of young people have had their first drink by the age of fourteen – 14 percent by the age of 11 years. * People under 24 years state their reason for drinking as “to fit in on social occasions”. More women than men drink to fit in on social occasions and more men than women drink “to relax”." 14% have drinks before they are 11, and 63% by 14. You can hardly blame the kids, they follow their friends or do what they want to do or how they have been brought up. If a kid drinks before the age of 14, i would say that the parent has not taught (and in my view cared) enough. Kids wouldn't know much about how harmful it is or what it can do. Now who would you blame. Who's fault is it that kids are drinking by that age. Kids or Parents? If the kids have been brought up in a good environment, with certain values and beliefs, then obviously like yourself, they probably wont drink. But i am not saying that they are bad people because they drink. But it significantly increases the chance of being a bad person. And there are statistics to show that 50% of teenagers have had sex before they have graduated from high school. I believe that this also is a parents fault, as they have no "cared/taught" there children ENOUGH. And this is spreading to the kids who are brought up in western countries, but have Indian parents. They too are doing the sames things to fit in socially.. And i think it is because the parents do not look after their kids as they used to. I AM NOT SAYING THAT ITS EVERYONE, BUT A MAJORITY THAT IS INCREASING. "If you look at the majority of parents, i dont think they really realize the importance of being a parent and pretty much do as much as western parents do for their kids." Excuse me? ----- Does this imply that western parents don't do much for their kids? I'm sorry to say, but that's a very bad "stereotype" to be applying there, and it has no place on a Sikh forum (who regard all as equals). I didn't say western parent don't do much for their kids. You implied that yourself. i just said Indian parents these days do not realize the importance of being a parent as they ONCE did, and are slowly becoming westerners as they move to western countries, they are forgetting their beliefs, values and culture. Most of the people on this forum are the opposite, but it is a minority when compared to the Punjabi/Sikh families that have moved to western countries. Check out how the western countries are running. USA invaded Afghanistan, which was fair(maybe, there are documentaries saying how the US government set up September 9/11 attacks...who knows). Then they invaded Iraq, which has already killed tens of thousands of people and was unjust. The country spends (i do not want to know how many) billions of dollars. Yet look at all the homeless people in the USA. They could of helped them, instead with that money. Help those who suffer, instead of making more suffer. People move to western countries to have a better standard of living compared to say India for example. But that does not mean the Governments are run well. They are just run better (much better) than those in eastern countries. But they to are corrupt to an extent. I agree they are loads of positive people out their who help others (which i think is awesome) but i still think that number is decreasing. I believe that to improve you have to focus on the negatives. To learn from your mistakes and from other peoples mistakes. Many people are like i do this good thing and that good thing, so i am a good person and leave it at that. But to better yourself, you have to focus on the negatives, realize what they are, and how you can improve and then actually do it. Even the best of people can improve.

Going into clubs has got nothing to do with about being weak/strong, its just that it is not a suitable place. And those people with kesh, amrit dharis that do go they probably think they are cool or something, you should let them know, that its disgraceful that they do those kinds of things (in a nice way i mean..i just dont have that good vocab...lol). Even if it is a friends bday or whatever, WHAT KIND OF PLACE IS A CLUB TO CELEBRATE THE BDAY. THat is shameful, spend it with your family and friends at home or at a decent place at least. What kind of friend are they who invite you to the club for their bday. And what kind of person are you if you attend. Thats my view anyway.

Just becuase other sikhs date, does not mean you should. if you really want a relationship and be with someone, definitely tell your parents you want to get married and get married. That will pretty much solve the problem. Dating is not something cool or to be proud of and veing 23 years old you should denifitely know that my now. Good luck anyways.

offcourse everyone is equal, but that has got nothing to do with how much they do for their kids. Some people work harder, some people less, that does not mean they are not equal. There parents do not mind if they drink/smoke at a young age, go partying, definitely have a girlfriend/boyfriend, practically westerner parents are saying that YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU WANT BECAUSE IT IS YOUR LIFE. And jsut look at the relationships between the parents and their kids. They move out (which is fair enough, depending on the circumstances), they might visit them now and again. But they do not really look after their parents, do they? when they are about 70 and cannot look after themselves properly they put them into nursing homes, as they are to BUSY to look after them. They take the easy option. I wouldnt say they are perfect. And that does not mean we are perfect either. far from it. Offcourse the parents do stuff for their kids, because kids cannot look after themselves. Giving kids food, clothes, and love, that would be expected from any parent. Even poor people, do as much as they can for their kids. But after the kids grow up, how much do they care about there parents, and how much do the parents do for the kids. I agree some do, but the majority do not. My baba ji worked till just before 70, not for HIMSELF, but for the family. How many gore would do that, fair enough they would work, but would they work for their family, their kids, i dont think so. There is a massive difference between easterners and westerner parents, both have their advantages/disadvantages but i believe that the relationship between punjabi say son/father etc is much more then westerners. BUt many of us are becoming just like westerners if not worse. You cannot blame violence and crime, before looking at WHY that has increased. Why do kids at the age of 14 go out at midnight to do graffiti, wag classes at high school to have a smoke, take knvies to school. It is all because the parents do not look after there kids enough. And that is the around the most important age you have to look after the kids. Becuase they do not know what is wrong/right and listen to friends, learn from tv/movies. Offcourse these things will effect the children, BUT IT IS THE PARENTS JOB TO PUT THEM ON TRACK AND TEACH THEM, and that is where i believe many parents fail. But it depends on your family's values and how you are brought up. A lot of movies have good messages in them, and a lot do not. It depends what each learns from a film. I enjoy watching films and no doubt most people would. When i see a film, some things i think are completely stupid, and others you can see the importance of family, love, friendship, etc. It depends what you take away from the film. Even from the bad films, you may not take anything away, but you could of just had a really good laugh, nothing wrong with it. And if the parents show children movies with say for example half naked girls when they are 13, whose fault is it? parents or kids. My dad dreamt of having a big house, nice cars, etc, BUT THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT, if you also look after your kids and follow god's path. If you work hard enough and achieve it, then you pretty much deserve it. There is always going to be exceptions, but parents play the biggest role in what kind of person the kid becomes.

All kids to shrarta, and that is a part of growing up. But there is a huge difference in what was dont say 30 years ago and what is done now. 30 years ago, would punjabi kids go out clubbing, would they get addicted to alcohol at like the age of 15, would they have girlfriends/boyfriends. Hardly anyone and look today. Have a look at general teenagers these days and just look at their attitude.This is not just with punjabis but with westerners aswell. Ask any westerner about what they think of the kids of today? There is a huge difference. Its all in how you bring your kids up. The kid offcourse is going to make mistakes on the way, do stupid things, but if they have been brought up well then it will show when they are older, and if they havent been brought up well, that will also show, like it is showing in the world today.

offcourse they are, but if the parents do not teach the kids at a young age, the kids do what they want by looking at the tv, listening to friends. Not that there is anything wrong with those things, but it is easy to learn bad things from them. Some kids go on the computer and they think "mera munda/kuri computer te parde hai". Why do kids these days get drunk when there 15, go out and party around that same age. Its all because the parents do not know what the kids get upto or dont really care(they are getting into the western parents attitude). Its happening so fast, the world is changing and its easy to see that nearly everything is turning from bad to worse. Then any parents with a brain will try and inoculate their children from some of the negative stuff unless they don't have a clue about what goes on out there, which is not unusual.

is it the childrens fault that they are so rude, and direspectful these days? Its obvious that in the world today the children are so ignorant and have attitude problems. But is it their fault. I dont think so. I think the blame should be on the parents. Because they do not bring up their kids well. They dont take enough care of them, do not see what they get up to, are not strict enough and do not communicate and spend enough time with them. Not all parents, but most. If you look at the majority of parents, i dont think they really realize the importance of being a parent and pretty much do as much as western parents do for their kids. And being children the kids (as they do not really know what is wrong and right at that time make mistakes and go with bad company). And after you fall into a habit, it is hard to get out of it. So i personally think that it is more a parents fault, not the kids.

Fair enough that they are not doing the right thing. But does that mean that they are not sikhs. Offcourse they wont be amrit dhari, but still they have the right to be called a sikh. It seems like you think you are above them. it doesnt matter if you have taken amrit or not, all people are equal. 1.I find it quite INSULTING that you refer to such people as "SINGH".BHai Taru SIngh had to sacrifice his khopree to not have his hair removed.He was a true SIngh of Guru Gobind SIngh Sahib Maharaj.How can you classify such people as Singhs then? 2.Whatever breed of humans they are, they are not Sikhs neither are they singh's of Dasam Pita jee.

what is mamnat??? lol yup :D

Try to make a proper routine. You should wake up early, do paath, do some physical exercise. It will make you tired(depends on how hard you do it) and by the end of the day you should be buggered and will fall asleep easily like before 10pm. Be strong and have no fear, do simran. I have found that when i think of good things before i go to sleep, i dream of them. Clear your mind from being scared, etc and think of positive things. It works for me.