32 Qualities Of An Ideal Soul-bride

[Balwinder Kaur]

1. Eternal Blessings – Gur Parsaad:

This is the beginning point of the Bandgi in the divine and eternal

sense.

Without Gur Parsaad the following becomes impossible:

• Bandgi,

• control over Maya,

• the death of Haumai,

• control over Panj Doot,

• killing of the desires,

• elimination of Dubidha – illusions and delusions

• winning of the mind,

• Smadhee and Sunn Smadhee

• earning of all the divine qualities is not possible.

The bottom line is that without Gur Parsaad none of the 32 virtues of

a Sada Suhagan are not possible.

Gur Parsaad is a continuous process. Once you have realized the Gur

Parsaad and follow the Bandgi Marag then the Gur Parsaad is prayed

for on a continuous basis. It keeps you going on the Bandgi Marg.

Even after completion of the Bandgi and becoming a Sada Suhagan, Gur

Parsaad becomes a permanent part of your soul and mind. It is the

priceless diamond that walks you through the entire process of Bandgi

and takes you to the heights of spirituality. Eventually it will make

you a dealer of the Gur Parsaad. It is the Gur Parsaad that will

make you:

hir ky nwm ky ibAwpwrI ]

I am a trader in the Name of the Lord.

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2. Complete Surrender to the Guru:

This is the key to the door of God's Court (the Dargah). The Sada

Suhagan has the priceless jewel of SURRENDER carved in her crown for

ever. She gives everything she has to God (the Gur) and Guru. This

is only made possible due to the Gur Parsaad she is blessed with on a

continuous basis. The spiritual progress of our soul and mind

depends upon how much we give to the Gur and Guru. This is the most

powerful divine law which helps you in overcoming your Haumai –

ego. The more you give to the Gur and Guru the rewards are

multiplied by tens of millions and returned to you. This is how the

Gur and Guru take all your chronic mental diseases and clean you from

inside and make you a Puran Sachyara. God – The Truth (Sachyaar)

can live only in a Completely True person (Puran Sachyara).

3. Faith, Trust, Commitment and Belief in Gur, Guru and Gurbani:

This is another priceless diamond that the Sada Suhagan earns in her

crown of jewels of Braham Gyan – Divine Wisdom – Gur Matt. Bandgi

is not possible without the practice of this most important mandatory

divine law. Your spiritual gains are proportionate to your faith,

trust, commitment and belief in the Gur, Guru and Gurbani.

These attributes know no boundaries. These traits of a Sada Suhagans

are unlimited like Akal Purakh Himself. Like God Himself there is no

limits. These qualities are immeasurable and unquantifiable. The

higher the faith, trust, commitment and belief the higher is the

spiritual condition the soul bride. In fact faith, trust, commitment

and belief is the second name of Bandgi.

4. Naam Amrit

This is the Priceless Diamond (Anmolak Rattan Hira). The Gur

Parsaad – "Ik Oankaar Satnaam" as defined in Mool manter. The

journey towards becoming a Suhagan starts with the Gur Parsaad of

Naam Amrit.

5. Ek Boond Amrit

The Gur Parsaad brings this divine Amrit inside a soul and then the

soul becomes a Suhagan after wearing this jewel in her forehead:

Trikuti. The activation of this spiritual energy center in the

forehead takes the Naam Simran into the mind (surat) and converts a

Duhagan to a Suhagan. This is the second eternal gift of Gur Parsaad

that the Duhagan gets and becomes a Suhagan. This is that priceless

diamond which initiates the advent of Naam Amrit inside and starts to

clean her up from inside out.

6. Smadhee

This is the next eternally blessed gift the Suhagan receives from the

Almighty. After Naam Amrit has gone into the Surat, it then goes in

to Hirda:

ieksu isau ilv lwgI sd hI hir nwmu mMin vswvixAw ]4]

I am lovingly centered on the One Lord forever.

I enshrine the Lord's Name within my mind. ||4||

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The Amrit starts to come inside. The inside cleaning process

starts. The eternal happiness and enjoyment starts to flow inside

the soul and mind. This is another priceless diamond the Suhagan is

blessed with in her crown. The moment Kirtan or Gurbani or Simran

starts the Suhagan goes in to Smadhee in a few minutes. The cosmic

energy and spiritual energy starts to flow inside the body. The soul

is instituted in Karam Khand; the Bandgi account opens in the

Dargah. The real Bandgi starts.

7. Sunn Smadhee

This is the next highly blessed Gur Parsaad; the state of complete

trance – deepest state of meditation. No thoughts. No

distractions. This is the next highest state of Naam simran

suMn smwiD mhw prmwrQu qIin Bvx piq nwmM ]

"The Deep Samaadhi",

"The Supreme Being",

"The Lord of the three worlds"

- these are Your Names, Lord.

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Most of the spiritual experiences are encountered in long sessions of

Sunn Smadhee. When we do Naam Simran in Smadhee and Sunn Smadhee –

first two hours are counted sitting on the earth. After that the

soul goes in to Dargah, the Simran is counted in the Dargah.

8. Inner Doors (Bajjar Kappaats) Open

These are the doors in the Astral Body (Suksham Dehi). The astral

body receives the spiritual energy through these doors:

• there are four such doors in the head – one in forehead,

two on the sides above both ears, and one in the rear above the end

point of spinal cord

• there are two doors in the palm of each hand

• there are two doors in the souls of our feet.

When a soul becomes a Suhagan, all these doors to the soul are opened

and she starts to receive the spiritual energy from these doors

inside. This spiritual energy comes in as a result of Naam Simran in

Smadhee and Sunn Smadhee in the beginning. When the person goes in

to higher stages of Naam Simran then there is a continuous flow of

spiritual energies in to the body. This spiritual energy cleans us

up completely from inside and we move very fast to the achievement of

the ultimate. Opening of these spiritual doors is a major milestone

in the Bandgi. This is another priceless jewel in the crown of a

Suhagan.

9. Golden Astral Body (Kanchan Dehi) & Purification of Soul:

When the Suhagans goes in to long deep meditation sessions in Smadhee

and Sunn Smadhee every day then her soul starts to clean up. All the

mental sicknesses start to disappear. All the holes created by these

chronic mental sicknesses in the Suksham Dehi are repaired. The

Amrit starts to collect in the Suksham Dehi and eventually the

Suksham Dehi becomes pure like 24 carrot gold. It is then completely

filled by the Naam Amrit. It is completely filled by the

spirituality and eventually the Amrit starts to overflow from the

Suksham Dehi. This condition is described in Asa Di Vaar:

hir AMimRq iBMny loiexw mnu pRyim rqMnw rwm rwjy ]

mnu rwim ksvtI lwieAw kMcnu soivMnw ]

gurmuiK rMig clUilAw myrw mnu qno iBMnw ]

jnu nwnku musik JkoilAw sBu jnmu Dnu DMnw ]1]

har a(n)mrith bhi(n)nae loeinaa man praem ratha(n)naa raam raajae ||

man raam kasavattee laaeiaa ka(n)chan sovi(n)naa ||

guramukh ra(n)g chalooliaa maeraa man thano bhi(n)naa ||

jan naanak musak jhakoliaa sabh janam dhhan dhha(n)naa ||1||

My eyes are wet with the Nectar of the Lord,

and my mind is imbued with His Love, O Lord King.

The Lord applied His touch-stone to my mind,

and found it one hundred per cent gold.

As Gurmukh, I am dyed in the deep red of the poppy,

and my mind and body are drenched with His Love.

Servant Nanak is drenched with His Fragrance;

blessed, blessed is his entire life. ||1||

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This is the saturation, super saturation and super super saturation,

never ending saturation of Naam Amrit in the entire body, which is

the most priceless diamond carved in the crown of the Sada Suhagan.

10. Control over Panj Doot

When the Suhagan goes in to long sessions of deep meditations on a

daily basis. Then on a continuous basis thoughout the day and night

(Ajapa Jaap and Rom Rom Naam Simran), then these five thieves: Kaam,

Krodh, Lobh, Moh and Ahankaar leave the body. When the body is

relieved of these five chronic mental sicknesses the Suhagan wins

over her mind and earns another priceless jewel in her crown.

11. Control over Asa-Trishna-Mansha

When the Suhagans goes into long deep meditation sessions in Smadhee

and Sunn Smadhee every day then all the desires are gone. The

Suhagan wins over her mind and she is blessed and decorated with

another priceless jewel in her crown.

12. Control over Raj Joban Dhan Maal Roop Rus Gandh Sparsh

These are the distraction causing elements in addition to the Panj

Doot and desires, which cause the normal person to live under the

influence of Maya. But a Suhagan with the Gur Parsaad, and filling

herself with Naam Amrit by sitting in Smadhee and Sunn smadhee

relieves herself from the influence of these distractions.

Eventually she wins over Panj Doots, desires and distractions. She

overcomes mental sicknesses, wins over the Maya completely and by

virtue of this victory wins over her mind completely and becomes one

with Almighty.

13. No Dubidha

All the illusions, doubts and delusions are replaced by total

commitment, belief, faith and trust in the Gur, Guru and Gurbani. The

Suhagans and Sada Suhagans rise above all these distracting elements

and nothing can cause the unlimited bond of devotion an unconditional

love between them and the Almighty. A soul which is blessed with this

Gur Parsaad becomes Jivan Mukt.

14. Humbleness

Utmost humbleness (Nimrata) is the key to the Dargah of Akal Purakh.

The Suhagans and Sada Suhagans earn this priceless diamond in their

Hirda. Their Hirda becomes a Garibi Ves Hirda. They always remain

at the Charans of the entire creation. This keeps them always in

Chad Di kala. There is no respect and disrespect for a Sada Suhagan.

There is no effect of praise or slandering on a Sada Suhagan.

15. Kindness

Utmost kindness makes the Hirda of a Suhagan and a Sada Suhagan very

large. The kind heartedness makes them capable of helping the others

with all the spiritual powers at their disposal. The Suhagans and

Sada Suhagans take the pains of the others and give them the Amrit.

They drink the poison of their Sangat and give them the Amrit.

16. Unconditional Love with Devotion

There is no limit for these vital qualities of Suhagans and Sada

Suhagans. Sacrifice brings peace. Where there is peace there is God

Himself in His Nirgun Saroop. That is why the Almighty remains in

the Sada Suhagans in His Nirgun Saroop always and forever. This is

another very high order of Gur Parsaad that the Suhagans and Sada

Suhagans are blessed with.

17. Forgiveness

Forgiveness and kindness are complementary to each other. These are

the deep divine qualities that take a deep place in the Hirda of a

Sada Suhagan and makes her Hirda large and unbounded. Where there is

forgiveness there is no anger. Where there is no anger there is no

ego. Where there is no ego there is God Himself in His Nirgun

Saroop. This is the Gur Parsaad that is available to the Sada

Suhagans.

18. Fearless

Fearlessness is another priceless jewel in the crown of a Sada

Suhagan. She has no enemies, everyone is a friend for her. She loves

the entire creation as much as she loves the Almighty Himself. She

is beyond the fear of death. Being fearless allows her to be a

totally truthful person. She is never afraid of promoting "SAT" –

the Eternal Truth.

19. Contentment

This is another divine attribute. A completely contented state of

mind and soul. Always in Hukam. Always accepting everything as the

Will of Almighty. No desires. Completely balanced state of mind.

No greed at all. No cravings for any worldly comforts or materials.

Always absorbed in the Eternal Bliss. Peaceful, calm and full of

eternal joy and happiness.

20. Continuous Simran (Ajapa Jaap, Rom Rom)

These are higher stages of Naam Simran that the Suhagans and Sada

Suhagans are eternally blessed with. This is a Gur Parsaad of a very

high spiritual order available to them. Their entire body pulses

with the Naam Simran. They are always filled with the Naam Amrit on

a continuous basis, they are always in state of Smadhee.

21. Atum Rus Amrit (Param Jyot Puran Parkash Nirgun Saroop)

Atum Ras is the highest Amrit available to the Sada Suhagans:

Braham Gyani Sagal Ki Reena

Atam Rus Braham Gyani Cheena;

Atam Rus Jeh Janye So Hi Khalas Dev;

This is the purest form of God's Nirgun Saroop that the Sada Suhagan

remains absorbed in on a continuous basis and for ever. There is no

description for this Amrit, it can only be experienced and felt and

seen with spiritual eye. This is the highest level Gur Parsaad

available to the Sada Suhagans.

22. Dassam Duaar

This is the spiritual door situated in the upper portion of the human

skull (soft spot in a baby). When it opens it connects the Suhagan

to Akal Purakh in a continuous basis. This continuously keeps on

bringing Amrit into the body:

Dassam Duaara Agam Apara Param Purakh Ki Ghati

This Gur Parsaad is available to the Suhagans and Sada Suhagans on a

continuous basis.

The divine wisdom stars to pour into our brain once the Dassam Duaar

opens. The Gurbani starts to come inside after the Dassam Duaar

opens. The functionality of the brain starts to increase with the

opening of the Dassam Duaar.

23. Anhad Naad Shabad

Anhad Shabad Dassam Duaar Vajjyeaa

Taa Amrit Naam Chuaayea Thaa

After the Dassam Duaar is open there is a continuous connection

formed between a Suhagan and Akal Purakh. There is a continuous flow

of Amrit from the Dassam Duaar to the body. And at the same time

there is divine music that starts to sound in the Dassam Duaar. This

divine music is the Amrit and continuous divine Kirtan coming

directly from Akal Purakh. It is heard in the form of music being

played by five different musical instruments.

Some of the Sada Suhagans are blessed to be able to listen to it as

Kirtan and to write it and play it in this world. This is what six

of the Guru Masters did and the 15 Bhagats in Gurbani. They sung

those divine verses from God and then wrote them down. That was

compiled in what now is commonly known as Shri Guru Granth Sahib.

This is another high level of Gur Parsaad available to the Sada

Suhagans.

24. Sat Sarovar (Seven Lakes Of Amrit)

These are seven centers of spiritual energy within human body. These

are located at:

• forehead,

• throat,

• middle of the chest towards the spine,

• belly button,

• above the sexual organ,

• bottom of the spine (Kundlini) and

• one more on the spine

They are activated by the Naam Amrit. Once that happens then there

is an internal generation of the spiritual energy in the human body.

This Gur Parsaad is available to the Suhagans and Sada Suhagns.

25. Braham Gyan

This is the complete divine knowledge about Paar Braham Parmesar

required for completing the Bandgi. You need complete divine

knowledge (Puran Gyan) for completing the journey (Puran Bandgi).

Brahm Gian is also known as

• the Tatt Gyan (the divine knowledge about the essence of

the Akal Purakh),

• the Param Tatt (essence of the Supreme);

• the infinite,

• the Eternal Truth,

• the Amrit,

• Param Jyot,

• Puran Parkash,

• Nirgun Saroop

This very high level of Gur Parsaad is available to the Sada

Suhagans. All the diamonds and jewels of divine knowledge are

available and carved in to the crown to the Sada Suhagans.

26. Winning of Mind, winning of Maya, Trihu Gun Tey Parey

This is the hardest part of the Bandgi to win completely over Maya.

Bandgi is basically winning a war against Maya. A Suhagan becomes a

Sada Suhagan when she wins this fight with the Maya and goes beyond

the three qualities of Maya. Then she becomes one with Akal Purakh.

She merges in to the Paar Braham Parmesar, into His Nirgun Saroop.

This is again a very high level of Gur Parsaad the Sada Suhagans are

blessed with and by virtue of this Gur Parsaad the Maya becomes a

servant of Sada Suhagans.

27. Ek Drisht – Single Vision

A Sada Suhagan is blessed with the Gur Parsaad of single vision.

This means that all are equal for her. There is no duality in her

vision. She sees every body with a single vision. There is no

discrimination in her vision. For a Sada Suhagan there is no

difference between worldly sorrow and happiness. There is no

difference between sand and gold for her. There is no difference for

her between her own family and the entire world, she belongs to the

entire creation.

28. Nirvair – No Anmosity

A Sada Suhagan is blessed with the Gur Parsaad of having no animosity

with anybody. She has no enemies, she has no hatred for anybody, no

feeling of revenge. She loves all as much as she loves the Almighty.

29. Param Padvi (Supreme Status)

A Sada Suhagan is eternally blessed with this highest spiritual

position in the Dargah of Akal Purakh. She stays in Hukam and

follows the Hukam on a continuous basis. All her deeds, actions and

service is in Puran Hukam of Akal Purakh. After being blessed by

Akal Purakh with the Param Padvi she becomes the Giver of Amrit,

giver Of Naam and the Giver of Gur Parsaad. She becomes a Puran

Sant and a Puran Braham Gyani. Then her job becomes to disseminate

Braham Gyan. To distribute the Amrit to the Sangat and lead them on

to the Bandgi Marg to Sach Khand.

30. Soft and Sweet Spoken – Mith Bolra

Sada Suhagans are all very sweet spoken. All their words are Amrit

Vachans (each word is full of Amrit and people go into smadhi just

listening to them). They never hurt anybody's heart. They will

always absorb the sorrows of the others and give them Amrit.

31. Doing Good To Others (Parupkaari), Living totally for

others (Maha Parupkaari)

A Sada Suhagan's job is to help others become like her by giving

them Gur Parsaad and motivating them to move on the bandgi Marg to

Sach Khand. They do this by

• blessing others with the Gur Parsaadi Naam "Ik Oankaar

Satnaam",

• giving them Amrit

• helping them earn all the Gur Parsaads as described earlier

and

• bringing them Jivan Mukti.

Uniting a person with Naam thus giving them Jivan Mukti is the

greatest selfless deed one can do. That is called Maha Parupkaar:

Dhan Dhan Dhan Jan Aayeaa

Jis Parsaad Sabh Jagat Tarayeaa

Parupkar (Philanthropy) is

• Diminishing the sorrows of others,

• diminishing their mental sicknesses,

• helping them win over their minds,

• winning over Maya,

• giving Naam, Bandgi, Seva and

• Jivan Mukti is the highest level of the service of

humanity.

Philanthrapy is the job of a Sada Suhagan

32. Completely Truthful

The Sada Suhagans always See, Speak, Hear, Deliver and Serve the

Eternal Truth. They always remains absorbed in the Eternal Truth.

Delivering and serving the Eternal Truth is the highest service to

mankind.

The Mahima (description), the divine qualities and the spiritual

powers of the Sada Suhagan are beyond description. This was just an

attempt to give a glimpse of some of the divine qualities of a Sada

Suhagan. These qualities can only be felt and experienced when we

move on this Bandgi Marg and get blessed with these kinds of divine

qualities through Gur Parsaad. If you are destined and pre ordained

for achieving these qualities you will make it for sure. But don't

sit idlly, start your efforts now. Start praying for Gur Parsaad.

Start surrendering to the Guru. Develop faith, trust,

commitment and belief in Guru and Gurbani.

Start doing Naam Simran and you will make it happen to you.

Dassan Dass

[Dhan Teri Sikhi]

Waheguru

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vaheguru

did you write this?

If not who's the author, is it a translation of something else?