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Waheguru ji ka khalsa Waheguru ji ki fateh

i need your help sangat ji. I have 2 brothers and one sister and they are all gone away to university. My sister just went to university in September, where as my brothers went couple of years ago. My mom is gone to London to conduct a reserch on cacer. She is a cancer specialist and before going my mom made my dad promise that he wouldnt drink because hes an alcoholic. When she was here, he used to drink everyday and not just a little bit but alot and to make sure that he wouldnt she made him to Ardaas. ( in the past, this worked he didnt drink for 10 years) ohh and by the way i am a high school senior. For the first two weeks, he didnt drink but now he strted again, not excessively but just a little. One day it was too obvious and the next morning i asked him about it and he said forgive me and i said i am not the one who has to forgive you, its god and he didnt drink that night. But now once again, he is drinking and i found the bottle this morning and i hid it. i dont kn ow what to do because i dont want to tell my siblings or mom because they will get mad and my brothers will definitely do something irrational since i am the youngest and the baby of the house.(my brothers, sister, mom n i are really close) I dont know what to do i feel so bad and depressed..i try to paath evryday and naam simran and whenever i do that i feel good but afterwards i still feel depressed. I know now that i have taken the bottle he will confront me about it...should i just wait for him to confront me or confront him myself ? i know its not my fault that he drinks but why do i still feel guilty ? i am just so sad and lonely. I wish my family was here with me or that he would just die...i hate him..how do i not hate him ? what do i do ? i need your help i am so confused and helpless...and i feel so confused. lonely. guilty and depressed... I need help !!

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji ki Fateh

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Your father doesnt seem like bad person just with a bad habit. The best way to get your farther of drinking is to sit down and do simran together, try to take him to the temple in the evening, when its probley the most convinient time to drink you see simran is a quick fix for some people but not for all, dont worry theres light at the end of the tunnel, just needs you to Persevere.

Check this site out

www.simran.info check the mp3's under prub milnai ka chao, how to do simran according to gurbani is under "simran vidies"

Good luck and stay strong

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Your father doesnt seem like bad person just with a bad habit. The best way to get your farther of drinking is to sit down and do simran together, try to take him to the temple in the evening, when its probley the most convinient time to drink you see simran is a quick fix for some people but not for all, dont worry theres light at the end of the tunnel, just needs you to Persevere.

Check this site out

www.simran.info check the mp3's under prub milnai ka chao, how to do simran according to gurbani is under "simran vidies"

Good luck and stay strong

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