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Dukh Nivaran

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I was talking to my dad about getting a chola and he was totally cool with it. But my mother is always shouting saying "You're to young" and "Where are you gonna go wearing a chola." People always tell me, and are right in saying so, bani before bana. I am really getting into Bani. I do paath when ever possible but I feel to express my self fully as a Sikh I need my bana. I like to think Sikhi as a bird, a bird needs both wings equally balanced to fly right? Both wings are bani and bana. If you take one away obviously you ain't gonna fly, or in case of Sikhi not to your full extent. I need help convincing my mum. BUT HOW!? :gg:

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how old are u singho?

12 jee

chota veer, don't get me wrong, but did you receive amrit yet? the only reason i ask, is that if you look a certain way (bana- or in the case of girls, even a dastaar), people will assume that you're amritdhari, and possibly make other assumptions about you and your level of responsibility, devotion, etc.

so i'm not saying don't do it, but just be ready for people to treat you differently.

when i started wearing a dastaar (6 months before amrit), everyone was like, "oh, you took amrit" and started treating me completely differently. it was kind of weird that the way we look can make such a huge difference in the way we are treated!

anyway, i admire your enthusiasm for sikh at that age! i pray that it only grows from here. :)

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how old are u singho?

12 jee

chota veer, don't get me wrong, but did you receive amrit yet? the only reason i ask, is that if you look a certain way (bana- or in the case of girls, even a dastaar), people will assume that you're amritdhari, and possibly make other assumptions about you and your level of responsibility, devotion, etc.

so i'm not saying don't do it, but just be ready for people to treat you differently.

when i started wearing a dastaar (6 months before amrit), everyone was like, "oh, you took amrit" and started treating me completely differently. it was kind of weird that the way we look can make such a huge difference in the way we are treated!

anyway, i admire your enthusiasm for sikh at that age! i pray that it only grows from here. :)

Lol nope. Not Amritdhari yet. Only a few people in my family are Amirtdhari. As far as I know we have a nihung in our family, but, apart from him, it's just mainly like distant relatives who are old and amritdhari. I also wore a dataar to school this past week and people seem to respect me much more. Except for a mona and a Singh who always despise me :glare: .

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thats major chardi kala

i started wearing my dastar to school when I was twelve as well. keep it up

as for age, baba fateh singh wasn't exactly grown up

neither was baba zorawar singh ji

Guru Harkrishan Sahib Ji

or Baba Buddha ji when they were first given that name

if your mom continues to say you're to young bring the point that she's older than you, so by that logic, she should be wearing full bana by now as well

another thing

take amrit asap

as soon as you feel you're ready

from your previous posts, u seem up to the challenge

as you said, a bird with one wing can't fly

but a bird that hasn't hatched isn't a bird at all ;)

not yet anyways. keep wearing your bana and improving ur rehit, nitnem, etc. but remember that sometime soon, this little hawk is gonna have to learn how to fly

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aww man, ur just like me. wanna do all the "cool" stuff, yet no amrit yet. dang!

ok, well in that case, singho tussi apna nitnem khant karo pehla. first work on ur jeevan bro, then once u take amrit, then u can wear all the chola's u want!

oh, and laadi bhaji; "karkrishan" nahi maharaj, its guru "harkrishan" sahib

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