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hi all

just wondering if you guys and girls could help me. i know this is a very sensitive topic area but suggestions are very urgently needed.

i am 21 and at university. i have a mixture of different types of friends - both sikhi inclined and otherwise. one of my mates has told me that she is pregnant - out of wed-lock of course and it was the result of a one night stand. she is now considering an abortion.

what should i tell her to do? please advise

thank you

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hi all

just wondering if you guys and girls could help me. i know this is a very sensitive topic area but suggestions are very urgently needed.

i am 21 and at university. i have a mixture of different types of friends - both sikhi inclined and otherwise. one of my mates has told me that she is pregnant - out of wed-lock of course and it was the result of a one night stand. she is now considering an abortion.

what should i tell her to do? please advise

thank you

For her to have an abortion is wrong by Sikhi. She messed up and if she thinks this child is a mistake then she don't know the value of life.

If she was a rape victim or some other case it would be a different stand in Sikhi, but for her case, for fools like her there is no place for abortion.

What one sow is what one reaps

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Tho I do not support the whole idea of abortion, I would advice that ur friend abort the child.

its just to much on her part.... the problems she'll face, humiliation and then after having the baby... all the responsibilities that come with the kid.

and plus since this was a "one night stand" the father of the child prolly wont be willing to support her and the child, so ye... abortion.

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I get a feeling that you might be from the UK...

Visit this site:

http://www.careconfidential.com/

Read it throughly. See if it can help.

Do read this part: Peoples Stories

Not to make you feel bad or anything but this is not God's will. Hukam is given for the well being of others. Maharaj Ji gives it to all. Only some listen. This is her own will which is now turned into God's will. She chose it for herself. Her next step, she will also choose for herself. I pray for it to be wiser than her previous choices that she made for herself.

Her parents, I do feel concerned about. And since, they too are a part of this so called system we call 'the society', they will be hurt dearly... unless their ego doesn't play a part. Which is rare. May God bless them with patience and the will power to bear this emotional trauma.

And May Maharaj Ji bless you for being concerned about others. :)

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