Visually Impaired

[Guest Singh]

Some of you may know me from my previous topics about my sight problem. basicaly I am completley blind in one of my eyes.

Ive always struggled in social situations due to this. But have only recentley started to realise just how big my sight problem has affected me in every day to day social situations or work.

We as humans communicate 80% through body language. this is mainly in the form of body language . which is mostly related to eye movements. infact we potray our whole chracter through eye movements nods ect. especially making eye contact. ect.

when you have only one eye. you come across as a bad person. this is due to not having the ability to express yourself and show others that you are a good person throogh your eye movements.

this has been a major problem with people who think that i am bad. because of my blank stares ect..ive only started to realise why I couldnt hand being in an office fiull of people. it had nothing to do with my personality but all to do with my eyes.

when you lose an eye. its as if your half a person. i struggled so much in social situations because of it.

[Guest guest]

After reading ur post you made me realise something.

We all look, behave and act different in some way.

Wthr we look different in our physical appearances, our performances at work, school etc.

It's the people that can't accept our differences that are ignorant. If you feel you are able to carry out your work efficiently then that's all you need to know. When it comes to socialising society just wants what suits them.

It is hard but dont let that get to you.

[simran345]

Wjkk wjkf

i know Wat you mean by feeling like half a person. I feel like that everyday due to my neurological condition. Sometimes feel like i am only quarter in this world. One is not a bad person from the way one looks. Its just that society is used to the stereotypical presentation of a person. But there are people that dont judge people from the way one looks. Its not written on anybody's forehead they are good people. The ones that dont understand humanity are normally the ones that have the worst personalities and as people are not sincere.

I wouldn't want to be friends with those sort of people who have no understanding of life.

You are waheguruji's creation like everybody else and they love you the same. Dont let it affect your confidence. Do your simran,

And dont worry about people. Maybe you are like this so as others can learn that this world has different range of people rather than the norm. When they learn about your eye it will make them realise about themselves and their lives, bring about change in themselves about how they live their lives.

Good you are working and trying to socialize as some people that have disabilities like myself dont get to do much of that. Be happy

and enjoy life. I dont care Wat people think about me nowadays as nobody is mind reader and nobody is perfect.

[Guest nirgun]

See your self as a wonderful, beautiful and a blessed child of Waheguru ji

I have had to hear things from people which kind of hit me but then.........like Waheguru ji just pulls you up and there's no looking back

I'd still want to count my blessings and tell myself that there is so much more that Waheguru ji has blessed me with... we can always work on those things that we're made capable of doing and feel good about it

Other's views/ judgment and behaviors are all a part of life as we move on.. Don't let how other's look at you, what other's speak of you hold you from walking ahead!

We all have to go through some or the other hard, bitter experiences in life, all of us.. we all come out of it, pass through such times...... since we "aren't alone", we have one and only Waheguru Ji above us..... within us and like ang sang

Sometimes it is amusing when one comes across people who look at the "so called limitations" or only at the fact one has a physical/mental disablity and overlook the "person" we are

I can't put myself in your shoes (Singh Ji & Simran bhenji) but can get a feel of what you're saying.. i remind myself that when Waheguru ji kept us so safe and perfectly in our mother's womb then He alone shall get us out through this world...... Leave it to Him

GET GOING

[Guest Guest]

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

Waheguru ji ki fateh

Singh everyone has some advantages and disadvantages in life.

It could be physical, psychological, financial etc.

Key is to make good use of the merits rather than feeling bad about demerits.

I was introduced to a totally blind Singh at a fair.

He belonged to an Industrialist family and was promoting company's product.

His wife was assisting him, every now & then his kid would come around to hug him.

They all seemed happy and living a normal life.

Thing is, his family being financially well-of got him a bride from a poor background.

So the compromise worked Both Ways.

Think about that !

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

Waheguru ji ki fateh

[Guest Singh]

That’s the thing. Because we communicate so much through our eyes. When one eye has no sight in one eye. You cannot effectively communicate. This leads to many miss understandings and also people who think im intentionally being bad. By giving them a blank stare and not acknowledging them. People who wear glasses will be able to understand. As their visions from the sides is lost also.

But people usually forgive these people because they can see they have glasses on and their vision is restricted. What is worse is that I cant look someone in the eye in a comfortable manner and hold my gaze into their eyes to show that I like them or that I am interested in what they have to say. Instead I come across as a person that lacks interest in the person and doesn’t care about the person. its diffiuclt to look someone in the ye with two eyes let alone one. its very hard.

To shows that I like them or to reassure them and connect with them. People think im bad that I never look in their eyes. And think I’m ignoring them or not being a genuine person. That’s the thing with this sight problem. Im finnaly realising what a huge impact its had on my life and my ability in social situations.

You don’t get any advice on how its going to affect you in life. there’s no manual out there that’s going to give you advice on how it will affect you in everyday life. Ie in terms of socializing and interacting with people. You have to work this out for yourself.

What thing I’ve learned is that people who don’t know about my sight problem. Just think badly of me. Only those who get to know me. Get over the eye issue. But even they know deep down there is something missing inside of me. This is because we communicate through our eyes most of the time and I cannot do this I cannot show to the world that I am a good person. It’s difficult to explain to someone about this problem. Only those who are blind in one eye will truly understand what I am talking about.

Thanks for all the advice.

I just feel I am contantly being judged by people who see me as a untrustworthy person or a basicaly a bad person/ someone that has no social skills. People are very senstive to another persons eyes and gage what kind of person someone is based on their body language this mainly emcopasses eye movements. which show you understand care ect.

The strange thing is when people are on my good side they are amazed at how I suddenly change. But when they go on the side that I cant see they know somethiung is wrong but they dont know what it is.

[LifeIsBeautiful]

Hi Singh,

Feel free to message me, I have a lazy eye myself, and am blind in one eye. We can talk on msn.