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You guys are wasting your time preaching to the wrong listener. She didn't come here asking how to convert her white boyfriend to Sikhi. The way I see it, she probably wants to find a way to work things out so that she can (a.) have her parents blessings in order to marry the man of her choice; (b.) not break up with him and marry the guy her family chooses for her.

If you can advise her on that, good, otherwise please read other threads, and thank you.

Lets get one thing straight. I really don't want to say "Sikhi isn't for everyone", but we have to admit that "everyone cannot dare to be a Sikh". It is not Sikhi that is her issue, it is the Punjabi culture practiced by her folks. Her priority is not to find a Sikh guy, its to be with the one she claims to have "clicked with". So I would request to treat this scenario a bit differently. Its very easy to preach and advise someone when you have no idea what they're going through (this applies to me as well). So take a moment and think before you guys type whatever you are typing. Some of you already seem to have passed the verdict on the dude just because he is white.

To be honest, the only mistake she did in her life so far was perhaps coming to this forum asking for advise.

I do apologize for the inconvenience. I didn't realize that I need to be amritdhari to post here. My mistake, should have paid attention.

Thank you Mehtab Singh

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That is not correct, but choice is yours.

:)

Not about choice. You mentioned I made the only mistake of posting here looking for advice.

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You mentioned I made the only mistake of posting here looking for advice.

Glad to see you smile!

Yes, posting here possibly wasn't the best idea. You see we have people over here who can't even stare at a Hindu for 45 seconds, but come on here posting as though they could slaughter all 800 million of them in a day. Then we have those who cannot answer the dumbest questions thrown by Muslims at them and they come here and turn scholars (God bless copy-paste).

99% of the above mentioned creatures have beards less than 0.5 inches and are yet to receive college degrees.

Now tell me, do you (32 and working) really want advise about your life from the kind of breed that breeds here? :)

What am I doing here? Promise me you won't laugh? Well I still have no clue! Entertainment you might say :D

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You guys are wasting your time preaching to the wrong listener. She didn't come here asking how to convert her white boyfriend to Sikhi. The way I see it, she probably wants to find a way to work things out so that she can (a.) have her parents blessings in order to marry the man of her choice; (b.) not break up with him and marry the guy her family chooses for her.

If you can advise her on that, good, otherwise please read other threads, and thank you.

Lets get one thing straight. I really don't want to say "Sikhi isn't for everyone", but we have to admit that "everyone cannot dare to be a Sikh". It is not Sikhi that is her issue, it is the Punjabi culture practiced by her folks. Her priority is not to find a Sikh guy, its to be with the one she claims to have "clicked with". So I would request to treat this scenario a bit differently. Its very easy to preach and advise someone when you have no idea what they're going through (this applies to me as well). So take a moment and think before you guys type whatever you are typing. Some of you already seem to have passed the verdict on the dude just because he is white.

To be honest, the only mistake she did in her life so far was perhaps coming to this forum asking for advise.

I think you have hit the nail on the head mehtab singh. some of us never gave direct advice to the op about their situation because as you said its a waste of time especially when a person has made their mind up already its the bringing sikhi into it and how they respect their religion that some people find hard to understand.

sikhi and boyfriend / girlfriends dont mix together.

Nah Veerji Nah... Man nu Marna nai ,,Man nu jitna Penda aah... Je Man hi Mar dita te Bande da Jameer b Mar javega...but first line boht great likhi... nyccoooo

Man nu marna / jitna thats what i meant veerai :smile2:

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Mehtab Singh ji I don't fall into any of the categories u mentioned, but thanks anyways for categorising us all as breeds.

If she has come to the wrong place for advise why didn't u just lock the topic when u knew that instead of us wasting our time thinking we are trying to help somebody. And as for the OP, do what u want we only can advise not decide on ur life.

As I said talk to ur family, and ur friends as they know u better. And yes Mehtab paji is right u have come to wrong place that's y I said don't make any decisions u will regret. But please paji come on we are all not as intelligent as u, some people do give good advise on here, I have received some good advice from people on here so would not class all same.

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Mehtab Singh ji I don't fall into any of the categories u mentioned, but thanks anyways for categorising us all as breeds.

If she has come to the wrong place for advise why didn't u just lock the topic when u knew that instead of us wasting our time thinking we are trying to help somebody. And as for the OP, do what u want we only can advise not decide on ur life.

As I said talk to ur family, and ur friends as they know u better. And yes Mehtab paji is right u have come to wrong place that's y I said don't make any decisions u will regret. But please paji come on we are all not as intelligent as u, some people do give good advise on here, I have received some good advice from people on here so would not class all same.

Still.... He is not serious....

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thanks anyways for categorising us all as breeds.

lol not all, but way too many, for some reason i doubt you'd fall under that category.

why didn't u just lock the topic

changaa jee, i will, right after this post

please paji come on we are all not as intelligent as u

i wish i was intelligent too...alas!

Still.... He is not serious....

leh tenu kee pata!

Oh ok thanks paji. Sorry Mehtab paji my misunderstanding.

koee gall ni jee
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