On The Verge Of Leaving Sikhi, Suicidal

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[singhbj singh]

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

Waheguru ji ki fateh

Singh am no expert but if I were in your position then would do the following

1. Find reasons to live, could be wife, occupation, Seva

2. In case of wife go for an Alpha female, ball-busting type. She will take care of your unfriendly relations :-)

3. Don't worry about education & job. Marry a girl from punjab who wants to migrate. Her parents will give you funds sufficient to lease a shop & start a business. Which you & your wife can manage.

4. Don't be shy just practical !

5. There are solutions to every problem, key is to think out of the box.

I’ve been amritdhari since I was 16 ,now 23. Wherever I go ,people seem to pull my leg and get in my way of learning sikhi, no matter how hard I try to block them out.

I Know my 5 bania off by heart but haven’t got good santhyia. I use too have a good santhiya teacher from Taksal and was having private lessons from him GUPT. A group of Singhs found out I was learning from him and done everything in their power to stop these sessions. After that I’ve never seen my Ustad , they took him away. All I wanted is to pronounce bani correctly.

Ive never hurt anyway, never will. I DON’T KNOW WHY OTHER SINGHS HURT ME , ARE BROTHERS MENT TO DO THIS.

Ive got very bad dyslexia, takes me a long time to learn things. I HATE BEING DYSLEXIC

IVE BEGGED WAHEGUROOO TO REMOVE THIS DYSLEXIA EVERYDAY, IT HASN’T GONE

My relatives always say sooo much hurtful things to me, like im never going to get a wife , no1 going to marry me because of my dyslexia.

Ive failed my GSCES, A LEVELS, CANT GET A JOB

Im surrounded by so much hurtful,negative people. NO1 GIVES ME LOVE

I done 40 day sukhmani sahib, hoping everything to get better.IT DIDN’T

Im know at the point of life where i don’t care about myself no more,I JUST WANT TO DIE

I do ardas everyday to Waheguroo to kill me and kill my soul, im abomination. IT HASN’T HAPPENED

On the verge of killing myself , I cant escape these people(PEOPLE WHO MENT TO BE MY BROTHERS & SISTERS), IVE NEVER DONE ANYTHING TO HURT THEM, WHY THEY HURTING MY LIKE IM THEIR ENEMEY

A Sikh wouldn’t kill them self like this, THAT’S WHY IM LEAVING

PLEASE FORGIVE ME GURU GOBIND SINGH MAHAARAJ, IVE FAILED U

WAHEGUROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

[Kaur02]

Please dont give up. Committing Suicide will not take you to your Akal Purakh, you will want to die but instead of dying you can't go to your Akal Purakh or go through the 8.4 million lives again. Committing suicide will not let you die but keep your soul wandering. In fact, it says that in Guru Granth Sahib. My family member tried committing suicide and my aunt and mom explained that to them.

Suicide - The Sikh view:

Sikh moral thinking:

Sikhs derive their ethics largely from the teachings of their scripture, Guru Granth Sahib, and the Sikh Code of Conduct (the Rehat Maryada).

Guidance also comes from the example set by the gurus, and from the experience of the Sikh community over the last 500 years.

Suicide:

Sikhs have a high respect for life which they see as a gift from God. Most Sikhs are against suicide, as they believe that the timing of birth and death should be left in God's hands.

The Sikh Gurus rejected suicide, as it is an interference in God's plan.

Many Sikhs faced torture and ultimate death at the hands of tyrant rulers and fanatic leaders, though they could have found relief through suicide.

Suffering, they said, was part of the operation of karma, and human beings should not only accept it without complaint but act so as to make the best of the situation that karma has given them.

The Gurus regarded that man must have the moral courage to bear his suffering without lament.

He should pray for the grace of God to enable him to put up with pain in a spirit of resignation and surrender.

Birth and death are the prerogatives of God and under His command, and it is no business of man to oppose the Divine Will.

Care for others:

Much of Sikh moral teaching is devoted to caring for others who are less fortunate.

This suggests that the Sikh reaction to situations where people think about suicide would be to provide such good care that suicide becomes an unattractive option.

Conclusion:

The Gurus rejected suicide, as we do not have the right to give or take life. Birth and death are the mercy of our dear creator.

Sikhism (as already said) believes that life is a gift from God, but it also teaches that we have a duty to use life in a responsible way.

Thus, it is amply clear that there is no place for suicide in Sikhism. After all suffering is a part of the human condition and has a place in God's scheme. Suffering also prompts man to turn his thoughts to God.

What can you do if you are feeling suicidal?

The beginning of the way out is to let someone else in. This is very hard to do because, if you feel so desperate that suicide seems to be the only solution, you are likely very frightened and ashamed. There is no reason to be ashamed of feeling suicidal and no reason to feel ashamed for seeking help. You are not alone; many people have felt suicidal when facing difficult times and have survived, usually returning to quite normal lives.

Take the risk of telling your feelings to someone you know and trust: a relative, friend, social service worker, or a member of the clergy for your religion. There are many ways to cope and get support. The sense of desperation and the wish to die will not go away at once, but it will pass. Regaining your will to live is more important than anything else at the moment.

Some things that you can do are:

call a crisis telephone support line,
draw on the support of family and friends,
talk to your family doctor; he/she can refer you to services in the community, including counselling and hospital services,
set up frequent appointments with a mental health professional, and request telephone support between appointments, · get involved in self-help groups,
talk every day to at least one person you trust about how you are feeling,
think about seeking help from the emergency department of a local hospital,
talk to someone who has 'been there" about what it was like and how he/she coped,
avoid making major decisions which you may later regret.

Do you need more help?

If you or someone you know is feeling suicidal and you need more information about resources in your area, contact a community organization, ........... which can help you find additional support.

With Divine Love & Blessings of Waheguru Ji, may you all enjoy: peace, love, light (enlightenment), health & happiness in life !

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[simran345]

Very good post kaur02 sis. Very practical and good explanations.

[Guest singh]

I appreacite the support, brothers and sisters.

Its first time since I've heard such kind words.

I don't know how but in my area lot of people seem to know who i am and some have approached my parents.

My parents have had a long word with me and people who came.

I am going to give it second try in life as a Khalsa.

Im still feeling down but people who came to my house said they will help me come round that but will take step at a time.

Your words ment a lot, I wish I could hug you guys , its nice to know people out there care, you have reminded me i have massive Khalsa family.

Love you guys and thank you for caring.

[simran345]

ThAnkuji paji for gettin back to us. Good ur giving it another go. U see when u fall u have to get up again and again. U are a brave and strong man, and well done for getting the courage to ask for help. So gud to hear they will help u, it will take time sehje sehje, slowly step at a time, there's no rush so don't worry.

Yes there are some very helpful and caring people on this site who have helped me also, see ur not alone paji.

May Waheguru bless u.

[Questioner]

I'm so glad to hear that paaji. I hope these people will support you and be there for you.

Don't forget that we're all here too. Always here if you want to talk!

[kuldipk123]

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[gsingh9]

I appreacite the support, brothers and sisters.

Its first time since I've heard such kind words.

I don't know how but in my area lot of people seem to know who i am and some have approached my parents.

My parents have had a long word with me and people who came.

I am going to give it second try in life as a Khalsa.

Im still feeling down but people who came to my house said they will help me come round that but will take step at a time.

Your words ment a lot, I wish I could hug you guys , its nice to know people out there care, you have reminded me i have massive Khalsa family.

Love you guys and thank you for caring.

Bro make an account if you can, and join the sangat on here.

Just how nice and helpful people on here are cheers me up, and makes me grateful to be a sikh.

[hsingh8963]

Make an account my friend IF YOU EVER EVER EVER NEED ANYTHING post one this site.

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