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We have been married for 5 years had 2 kids near beginning and i have never talked to my parents of any problems issues ive had with my husband. My husband has just started calling them every single time we have a fight. They have even come middle of the night because he called them saying shes not talking to me. first off i dont trust my own parents its so embarassing because then even my pabi knows about it. if there was secrecy then maybe i would ask 4 their help but i dont 4 various reasons. Anyways my parents coming just made it worse. when we finaly worked things out i requested him to not involve my parents but he hasnt stopped making me feel he has betrayed my trust. i always want to work out problems together but he doesnt talk nor does he have patience to deal with it. his easy token out is making it worse. he wants my parents to tell me i am the problem because husband himself is not willing to consider my feelings

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Is your marriage 'arranged?' He is undermining you as a woman and as an adult your ability to either handle arguments or 'fights.' The reason he is involving your elders is to show you that you are still a kid! This is a typical behavior of asian men who have no confidence in themselves. This is definitely a sign of very low self esteem on his part you both need to work on this. Has he ever told you as to why he is involving your parents? If not, ask him. I can only think of one reason and that is that they can all gang up on you and blame you for starting the fight.

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Maybe he feels you're not being nice, if you are being moody and starting the arguments. So as a desperate attempt he is going to your parents.to try to make you stop being not nice to him!

try not arguing with him and being nicer, see if it improves things...

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thats basically it with a combination of losing his patience and not wanting to give time and effort to the relationship. I am not the problem if i want to work together to figure it out. My parents judge me make it worse they have never solved any issues theyve had with me brushed it under the carpet thats why it was very hurtful for him to involve them after i requested him not to. i hope he learns for the future. he does care very much i understand he was overwhelmed and he does give up at times, but at the end we had Anand karaj. The meaning for me is that if we have any problems that only Guru Granth Sahib ji can remove our ignorance and impart wisdom.

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