Need Help And Guidance

[kaurp]

Thanks everyone for your concern and suggestions.some people are not judging me right here so let me tell you in detail.when my husband 's family approached me he was working in an IT company,we verified that but once I got married he left the job nd started business.Now the problem is he should have told me his plans further or he could have find some way out beneficial for both.It s not that i married him for his canadian status but yes i married him bcz he was an engineer nd I think when both ppl in marriage are professionals they understand professional commitments.if he had plans earlier he could hv told me not to resign my previous job or he could have clarified things so that i could have taken my decision that way.if you are watching someone working so hard for something i think being a life partner it s your duty morally to support your spouse.it s not difficult to manage one or two months delay in starting up a business in India and by the way his business project has not been started till today,though it s been two months we are here.and then he being a man has got the right to change his country for his business but me being a woman is not even allowed to work outside his home town...it s hard to accept this behaviour nd then social pressure from everyone that you have to sacrifice in order to make this marriage worth.how can you live in peace with a person who cheated you who broke your trust.who cannot value you for what you are.

[kaurp]

Budda Singh Ji,

Decision to study at foriegn university was made once I reached there.I never knew that we are supposed to come back and he himself told me study and get licence but his behaviour was not acceptable.I was not given my basic rights which I was entitled to and it s easy to snub woman here in India when u are in country like canada you are supposed to treat women equally may be that was his insecurity that I might raise my voice someday.

Second thing regarding cheating if he had plans to make a permanent move to india he should have arranged to bring all my stf back to India..My all stuff including my daj is there in canada ,he even took my documents from me nd handed over to his friend stating it s safe with him.my gold is with him.My passport,pr card everything is with him.and if I ask for anything he says I am your husband i can take care of your stuff.

Third thing regarding earning here I am not allowed to work out of town which is important to grow.u cannot earn well in a small town before investing atleast ten years..it s not that I am greedy but in order to study further I need money as medical study is very expensive.

Finally the biggest problem my family not supporting me bcz they feel it s more important to stay with your husband and maintain this relation instead of working hard and doing something for your profession and society.

Those who think I am greedy and selfish let me tell you it took me two years of big struggle to enter into a dental college here then i studied endlessly five years there and I was a university topper and then i had four years of practice at a charitable hospital .I love my profession more than anything and this I told him before marriage.Even for charity you need money and if you have potential to learn work grow nd earn and then serve society i dont think there is anything wrong with this.

[Guest preety]

dear Simran,

it s not easy as it seems to get into anyu dental college be it here or in canada,the syllabus is entirely different for both the countries.moreover there was nobody to guide me there,i have struggled hard to compile all the stuff required for that exam and then I sacrificed everything to prepare for exam.but anyways what has happen has happen but it s not easy to stay with someone who cheated you who lies you for his own benefits.you feel insecure for future and the toughest part is nobody is ready to talk about it openly because our society dictates that a woman i s supposed to make all sacrifices and adjustments to make a marriage work. i would be very thankful if you could help me with some paath so that i am relieved of stress and negativity.

[Not2Cool2Argue]

Decision to study at foriegn university was made once I reached there.I never knew that we are supposed to come back and he himself told me study and get licence but his behaviour was not acceptable.I was not given my basic rights which I was entitled to and it s easy to snub woman here in India when u are in country like canada you are supposed to treat women equally may be that was his insecurity that I might raise my voice someday.

Second thing regarding cheating if he had plans to make a permanent move to india he should have arranged to bring all my stf back to India..My all stuff including my daj is there in canada ,he even took my documents from me nd handed over to his friend stating it s safe with him.my gold is with him.My passport,pr card everything is with him.and if I ask for anything he says I am your husband i can take care of your stuff.

Third thing regarding earning here I am not allowed to work out of town which is important to grow.u cannot earn well in a small town before investing atleast ten years..it s not that I am greedy but in order to study further I need money as medical study is very expensive.

Finally the biggest problem my family not supporting me bcz they feel it s more important to stay with your husband and maintain this relation instead of working hard and doing something for your profession and society.

Those who think I am greedy and selfish let me tell you it took me two years of big struggle to enter into a dental college here then i studied endlessly five years there and I was a university topper and then i had four years of practice at a charitable hospital .I love my profession more than anything and this I told him before marriage.Even for charity you need money and if you have potential to learn work grow nd earn and then serve society i dont think there is anything wrong with this.

Thank u for telling us the whole story. Sorry we misjudged you. Try to talk with your husband honestly. Tell him, you are very sad and it seems like he doesnt trust u enuf to let u study and get a career. Remind him that it meant a lot to u and u would be a faithful happy wife even with a job. But i dont know if he will listen...

You should do dukh bhanjani sahib paath. It is on youtube and in sundar gutka app. If u have more time, also do sukhmani sahib. There is sukhmani sahib on youtube, also singing sukhmani sahib videos too.