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I remember those old days. I think what happened is that in the face of a tidal wave of historical accounts of things like jhatka and the use of sukha, including from internal Sikh sources, the old conservative stances simply couldn't be maintained anymore?       The emergence of khojis who would study and sometimes even translate puratan texts instead of blindly following what was told by conservative, uninformed elders actually helped make our community a bit more open minded. I think a more grown up, contextualised understanding of CP in Dasam Granth also played a part.  We could maybe see it as the slow fragmentation of hegemony of the colonial era Singh Sabha type thinking?  

I remember when mentioning Jhatka would get you warnings.

If you're unsatisfied by the marriage you probably should get divorced, nothing is worth losing your mental health over.

I get Ranjeet's and Ipledgeblue's point, and take it on board. I'd still see for myself though.  That being said, that Kau89r8 sister still urgently needs to find something that healthily resonates with her on the Sikhi front, and find alternative perspectives from skewed social media sources. Some people seem more susceptible to being indoctrinated by social media than others, and that's dangerous in this day and age.