I know, even in cultures where people are allowed to test the waters beforehand, this can become a problem at a later stage.
Some restraint is strongly advised in older Sikh texts. Not outright abstinence but limiting it to a certain amount of times in a week type of thing. I think they had an inkling of how excess can drain a man's testosterone maybe?
Yes! You get what i mean.
But is that view which is so pragmatic and was prevelent until recently, is it wrong?
Is it againest Gurmat?
To be honest tho, the argument that what if it was ur sister who was married to the gay person....does sway me a bit...
Also although arranged marriages are considered gurmat. Where one accepts hukam and doesnt complain abt the spouse they ended up with. But its really hard to do.
And our thinking has changed alot. We have adopted all the western mentality about love, marriage, gay ppl.
But i wonder if the western view is more enlightened. Its easier to go abt having a marriage with love/lust.
"Sikhism" doesnt really have answers to this stuff. The culture of the time that was prevalent in gurus time. Do we continue following it?
Yes but there is no way to make sure that the compatibility is right. And in terms of spirituality, shouldnt we work on controlling our mind/urges...