PREGNANT & NOT MARRIED YET - ADVICE NEEDED

[sher_panjabi]

waheguru ji ka khalsa

waheguru ji ki fateh

a gupt person on internet has asked me advice on what to do.

This person says they are religious and have interest in Sikhi and wish to do their best to live in Guru's path.

Unfortunately, she has fell pregnant to the person she was going to marry.

She realises her mistake and regrets it. She doesn't know what to do.

She has not told her parents about the situation and she feels confused.

My advice so far is:

- Waheguru is all forgiven and all loving

- Humans make mistake - but learning from the mistake and not repeating same mistakes is what a gurmukh person does.

- Suggested that she does Ardaas in Guru Ji's sharan and takes Hukamnama

- For peace of mind/ rehabilitation/ re-conciling with the situation/ or you can see it as a Tankhaah - doing a Sehaj paat, both her and her partner can do this together - take as long as it takes... they will both get power and inspiration from this.

- TAKE AMRIT - both girl and boy should take Khande Di Pahul and become Guru Ke Sikh and ask for forgiveness and be reborn in Guru's family... then they should do Anand Kaaraj (as soon as possible really)

.... "Am i ready for Amrit?" - some people get married because they are in love, others marry someone because of dedication and hope love will grow - similarly taking amrit, keeping rehat and respecting your new janam, love will grow and you will feel inspiration, hope and happiness

Any more advice? I don't feel qualified or knowledgable enough to help this person, but i share what little i know with this person.

Thanks

Hope people help w

ith some useful advice

[Balait_da_Sher]

Unfortunately, she has fell pregnant to the person she was going to marry.

Why dont they just get married.

[Guest rsingh]

if there both sikh, I think wat Balait_da_Sher veer suggested it probabbly logical.

[sher_panjabi]

they are both sikhs.

the girl is confused and scared wot her parents will say or react.

[sher_panjabi]

Anyone know when is the earliest Amrit Sanchaar happening in the UK?

[Guest rsingh]

well first thing is shes not alone, this seems to be happening to often,

at least there both sikh,

I think the sikh community as a whole need to help youth in this position instead of chucking them out like out siders.

there are a few comming up.. with gurpurb, depends... theres prob one at some smagam or another!

[Balait_da_Sher]

Anyone know when is the earliest Amrit Sanchaar happening in the UK?

Make sure she takes amrit for the right reasons not because of her situation.

[Guest rsingh]

yeh, maybe first do ardas together and start living a gursikhi jeevan in reath.

[joga singh]

first thing is to get married to that person as soon as possible, as , if its first month of pregnancy then no one will suspect at the time of delivery.

cause there can be one month premature delivery.

so get married soon.

[Gupat Singhni]

I also think she should get married and if she going to become amritdhaari then her partner should also do the same. I believe the next amritsanchaar is in the midlands or something at one of the upcoming smagams. AKJ.ORG/UK will have more info