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I live in Canada, but I am not a Sikh. I was wondering if it is a good to allow my 9-year-old nephew Dylan to go to a Sikh boarding school called the Gursikh Academy Bahadurgarh which is located in Patiala India? The reason for this is because his best friend Bhupinder Singh is attending this school and he misses my nephew. Bhupinder’s parents asked if I could send my nephew to this school to join his friend Bhupinder and they offered to pay my nephew’s plane ticket and tuition if he goes. But my problem is that this particular Sikh boarding school is very strict that requires all students regardless of background to follow the Sikh code of conduct and abstain from cutting their hair. I am not sure if my nephew would able to handle that.

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On 11/30/2022 at 1:45 PM, Guest Avigilon said:

I live in Canada, but I am not a Sikh. I was wondering if it is a good to allow my 9-year-old nephew Dylan to go to a Sikh boarding school called the Gursikh Academy Bahadurgarh which is located in Patiala India? The reason for this is because his best friend Bhupinder Singh is attending this school and he misses my nephew. Bhupinder’s parents asked if I could send my nephew to this school to join his friend Bhupinder and they offered to pay my nephew’s plane ticket and tuition if he goes. But my problem is that this particular Sikh boarding school is very strict that requires all students regardless of background to follow the Sikh code of conduct and abstain from cutting their hair. I am not sure if my nephew would able to handle that.

Ask your nephew. Also mention that he would not understand the teachers or other kids as they will speak panjabi.  Food will be different.  Might even get travelers diarrhea. Ans there is also more mosquitos and chances of dengue and malaria.

So I would ask your nephew and his parents.  And also see if Dylan is resilient and of a hardy constitution.  

Would Dylan not miss his parents or his friends in Canada? Or become homesick? 

It would be great if Dylan went and learned panjabi and got to travel at such a young age and c experience a different religion and culture and land.

But would he be able to handle it? Just ask him do you want an adventure? And tell him adventures are not fun but are exciting. There is danger and trouble and terrible odds. But it's never boring.  Look in books adventures are usually  disease getting lost almost dying and fighting wild animals to dangerous ppl etx

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I have sole custody of my nephew as my sister is going through issues at the moment and is unable to take care of him  My nephew is quite intelligent and picked up French very fast in school.  Dylan is a loner and does not have many friends. I did ask Dylan if he wanted to go over there as an exchange student and he said he was fine by it. But I warned him that the school prohibits students from cutting their hair, even on school breaks. 

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On 11/30/2022 at 6:45 PM, Guest Avigilon said:

I live in Canada, but I am not a Sikh. I was wondering if it is a good to allow my 9-year-old nephew Dylan to go to a Sikh boarding school called the Gursikh Academy Bahadurgarh which is located in Patiala India? The reason for this is because his best friend Bhupinder Singh is attending this school and he misses my nephew. Bhupinder’s parents asked if I could send my nephew to this school to join his friend Bhupinder and they offered to pay my nephew’s plane ticket and tuition if he goes. But my problem is that this particular Sikh boarding school is very strict that requires all students regardless of background to follow the Sikh code of conduct and abstain from cutting their hair. I am not sure if my nephew would able to handle that.

hi, I know someone from the USA in a similar situation. Please get in touch with me via private message, so I can get them in touch with you.

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On 11/30/2022 at 6:45 PM, Guest Avigilon said:

I live in Canada, but I am not a Sikh. I was wondering if it is a good to allow my 9-year-old nephew Dylan to go to a Sikh boarding school called the Gursikh Academy Bahadurgarh which is located in Patiala India? The reason for this is because his best friend Bhupinder Singh is attending this school and he misses my nephew. Bhupinder’s parents asked if I could send my nephew to this school to join his friend Bhupinder and they offered to pay my nephew’s plane ticket and tuition if he goes. But my problem is that this particular Sikh boarding school is very strict that requires all students regardless of background to follow the Sikh code of conduct and abstain from cutting their hair. I am not sure if my nephew would able to handle that.

NO!!! DONT DO IT

how can you be so foolish as to even consider this?  

Keep your nephew near you in Canada.  Send him to a good Canadian school near you.  Who cares if he misses his friend.  Seriously.  That other boy will probably come back to Canada at some point.

As a sikh, I would NEVER EVER send my child to any boarding school in India, whether it is a sikh school or some other school.  NO WAY.

Can someone other family member look after your nephew?  No offence, but you sound too naive to look after him.

 

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