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They leave this Wednesday

Next weekends Can't Wait... I would recommend this to all bibia; it's and AMAZING camp.. will change your life

Waheguru ji ka khalsa Waheguru ji ke fateh It's been a long time (more than half a year!)... but its BACK.... Kamaee Camp (and Mata Sahib Kaur Kirtan Darbar) And this time it's back in Leicester.. :D From Friday 30th Oct to Sunday 1st Nov promise yourself the most intensely profitable weekend of your LIFE... For those of you that have been to kamaee camp before you will know of that indescribable ras attained by sitting in the presence of Guru Sahib's charan all day and all night; and devoting every moment to him in remembrance... Those of you that haven't you will realise such love for Waheguru; so much so it radiates from the faces of Gurmukhs that are indulged in the sweet name of our Beloved... Either way this is an absolutely perfect opportunity to GAIN profit that is of use here and here after... Also on Saturday 31st Oct there will be a kirtan, katha and dhadi darbar in the evening held in remembrance of Mata Sahib Kaur's Prakash Divas, as part of Kamaee Camp/Kaurageous. So if you wish to make your jeevan safal we'll see you there: Guru Tegh Bahadur Gurudwara 106 East Park Road Leicester LE5 4QB It's a residential camp, please bring a sleeping bag/duvet and pillow, clothes, toiletries/medication etc. It starts at 6pm on Friday 30th Oct and finishes around early afternoon on Sunday. ALL Sikh Women are welcome, please feel free to ask any questions just reply OR PM me. Please Forward this to all Singhniaa, the more sangat we can get the more laahaa/// P.S. By the way just in case... It is singhnia ONLY Waheguru ji ka khalsa Waheguru ji ke fateh!

I do the same thing lol :umm: although I haven't been diagnosed with OCD..

Waheguru ji ka khals aWaheguru ji ke fatehh I'm from Leicester paji if you would like me to make you some nitnem (44 Bania -DDT) Cds then I'd happily do that especially if you are from Lesta it would be easier for me to hand them to u rather than paji above having to post them . But I don't know about the original covers to be honest as I would be burning them onto normal CDs.

Guru Tegh Bahadur Gurudwara, 106 East Park Rd Leicester

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh Sorry Khalistani veera, I have to state a viewpoint here!... I'll allow others to add to this too... In West Yorkshire and Luton many conversions were taking place, here we are supporting attacks on our own Bhais but our 'chardhi kalaa' singhs who nowadays are not chardhi kalaa at all, weigh 7 stones and can't carry a kirpan without breaking a bone, were nowhere, it was myself and several other GurSikhs who were confronting this issue, the Singhs were perhaps too busy attacking siaaney?... DHARAM KI RAKHI? ... where was it? it wasn't there... Sikhi for people has become politics, attack can't be carried out on a barabar i dont believe that person should be grace with the name Singh and hence the reason we have such a small rate of UK youngsters coming towards Bani, these are the people who misinform them. OK I'm not going to go in to the debate of meat eating... but how come on this forum we all say Nihangs are super cool and we love their shastars yet we turn a blind eye to meat?... VERY clever aren't you? mittar PAR LIKHNA sikhla, te BANI PARLA changi mat milegi!... I don't mean to embarass you Singh Sahib, but a little common sense and logic is required in order to get through life. Don't you DARE ever... disrespect the 5 years of Gian I went through (my chacha ji and alot of my family are taksal educated so don't try and pin a political view point on me) Firstly, medical sources show us, it is impossible for Baba Deep Singh ji to carry his own head... Sikh scholars, and several professors and people who have taught me and spent their whole life within mahapurshs (who some on this forum believe more than Guru Ji, that is what you call beadbi) have explained to me that Baba Ji's neck was struck and his head was supported by his left hand whilst using his shastar to fight with his right... Our Gurus always stress in Bani that supernatural does not occur and we are to not have faith in this... Baba Deep Singh Ji was NOT decapitated... but he had received a wound which was very deep upon his neck (this within scholars and in books is very well documented also by Bhai Kartar Singh in his books upon Sikh history read further to gain gian SINGHA) Also read Maharaj Ji's page 593 and 694 which are clear indications as to the uselessness of supernatural stories which put sangat in doubt it is wrong to do this FALSE parchaar! END OF!... My Family had gone through a generation of Shaheedian... some as young as Teja Singh who many of you may know about... however I find it highly offensive that in the name of Sikhi and fools who falsely claim to be Singhs find ground within our beautiful dharam to attack an old man who is well versed and putting his views across... OK I dont agree with everything Ghagga or Jasbir Singh is saying but are you all that uneducated and worthless that you can't hold a logical debate and put forward an argument? Anyway In regards to the people who carry out these attacks, I'm a PM away... and also a couple of TRUE CHARDHI KALAA Singhs with me who are more than happy to teach other ignorants a lesson one way or another?... the offer is ALWAYS here!... I doubt anybody will follow it up when in presence! WAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA WAHEGURU JI KI FATEH Waheguru ji ka khalsa Wahegru ji ke fatehh Paaji with all due rspect what world are you living in if you think the supernatural does not exist... our history i FULL OF EVENTS. And if you're gonna shove them off as "nonexistent" then maybe you're the one who needs educating.. listen to ithihaas by pooran brahmgyani Sant Giani Gurbachan Singh ji on www.gurmatveechar.com especially on the ang of maharaj you are indicating. you may have 5 years of giaan paaji but there is no need to tell everyone its only gonna end up turning into ego, as I'm sure Mahapurakh Sant Gurbachan Singh ji have countless lifetimes of kamaee and abhiyaas to support their viakhiya. And please in future try and have some respect for my Guru, Maharaj is not a book so don't refer to maharaj's ang as "pages" Oh yeah and "medical sources tell me.." whatever man... Baba Deep Singh was a brahmgyani.. they're beyond logic.. let alone their abilities. Next you'll be saying Guru Gobind Singh ji couldn't have wrote about their past life in Bachhitar Natak, because common sense tells me that that's impossible. Just because we haven't reached that level doesn't mean others haven't.

http://www.gurmatveechar.com/audio/katha/0...29--Ang-485.mp3

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Guru Gobind Singh ji also was the Lord in human form, seeing as you paaji are his prince have you also merged into the Lord?

Paaji I think rehit was upheld to quite a large degree in puratan days, more than it is today; and in fact if you look at a lot of gurmukhs who are very chardi kalaan, if you look at mahapurash and their attire like Baba Thakur Singh ji, Sant Jarnail Singh ji, Sant Jagjit Singh ji etc. or in fact look at the women in their lives, their wives their sisters; you have to agree that they do wear plain and simple clothes and it's not like they tell everyone else to wear designer clothes and shoes. What happened to keeping a humble image? "naam beej santhokh suhaagaa rakh gareebee vaes |" Let the Lord's Name be the seed, contentment the plow, and your humble dress the fence. I think paaji, by adopting humble attire and appearance, it can only help us to be more content and focussed instead on submerging ourselves in the eternal Love of Maharaj.

Oh Waheguru... I think Gursikhs, like JustME penji said, are forgetting the reason we're here. In the very end when we leave this world I think a lot of us are going to realise only then that we have spent our lives either indulging in useless activities or arguing over whether they're are right or wrong. If we keep rehit and follow Guru Maharaj's every bachan we would never have such insecurity and doubt in our minds. For those of you bibia who still wear make up and jewellery, you may deem the whole world as wrong but you can't say your Guru was wrong. Read Bavan Akhree, read ithihaas...

It's a "her" guys not a "him" lol

I think legal action should be taken if they still don't agree after further negotiation.

Bhai Mani Singh ji gatka akhara, if they mean the Leicester one, is non-existent. I think the organisers should start the akhara in Leicester first and then maybe open others across the country. Would be really good to see the akhara doing gatka again..

Any ideas? :umm:

Is there anything we can do? I tried contacting Sikhgiving... but no response :sad: http://sikhsangat.org/1469/2009/04/punjabi...battles-cancer/

http://www.thailovelines.com/FAQ/thai-wife...CFYU-3godhRBtFw

As long as anywhere directly above maharaj is not in use i.e no one walks in that area in the whole house.

Vaisakhi Celebrations: 12th April - Arambh Akhand Paath (Guru Tegh Bahadur Gurughar {GTBG} - 106 East Park Rd) 14th April - Bhog Akhand Paath (GTBG) 18th April - Vaisakhi Camp for 5 - 12 year olds starting at 8.30am ish (GTBG) 25th April - Vaisakhi Camp for 12+ year olds starting at 8.30am ish (GTBG) 25th April - Amrit Sanchaar starting at around 12/1pm (GTBG) 26th April - Nagar Kirtan starting around 10/11am from Guru Nanak Gurudwara (9 Holy Bones) to GTBG Hope that helps clear things up

What happened to R4G campaign? :umm:

This is Rehit maryada in accordance to Gursikhi... Also in terms of what u shud wear.. NO make up/jewellery and either a simplish suit or bana not red tho... Have fun reading 4. WEDDING CEREMONY / ANAND SANSKAR (fourth ceremony) In the past, society was divided into four caste groups and four stages of life (child, student, householder/family and spiritual/old age) for the effective functioning of all tasks The life of a celibate holy man was considered the highest lifestyle and the accepted method to reach God. The householder’s life was considered as the worst lifestyle and it was thought to be an obstacle on the path to spiritual enlightenment. It was this teaching that forced Kings like Partharee and Gopi Chand to give up their kingdoms, get their ears pierced and live in jungles. However, having done this, and wandering with a stick in one hand and a satchel over the shoulder, begging for food, they still ended up crying in anguish: rovih rwjy kMn pVwie ] Gir Gir mwgih BIiKAw jwie ] "The King cries after getting his ears pierced. He goes from house to house begging for sustenance." (SGGSJ Ang 954) By detaching yourself from ordinary life, leaving your home and surviving off wild fruits in jungles, the love of God is not achieved and even the love of sin is not removed in this way: iblwvlu ] igRhu qij bn KMf jweIAY cuin KweIAY kMdw ] Ajhu ibkwr n CofeI pwpI mnu mMdw ] "BILAAVAL: Abandoning his household, he may go to the forest, and live by picking fruit; But even so, his sinful evil mind does not renounce sin." (SGGSJ Ang 855) The Recital of Paath and Parkarma The Granthi recites the first verse of the Lava 49 and the couple are to listen to it whilst remaining seated. After completing the verse, the Granthi Singh is to place the Rumala back over Sri Guru Granth Sahib. The Ragee Singh is to perform Kirtan of the first Lav and the couple are to slowly walk around Sri Guru Granth Sahib Jee (keeping Guru Sahib to their right-hand side), after which they are to bow to Guru Sahib and be seated. The bride is to walk by herself, around Guru Sahib, without any assistance. Nobody is to stand whilst this is occurring. The bride is not to cover her face at any point. The Granthi Singh is then to recite the second Lav and the Ragees are then to sing the second Lav in the same manner as the first. This is to be repeated for the third and fourth Lavs. After the recital of each Lav it is essential that the Granthi Singh replaces the Rumala back over Sri Guru Granth Sahib Jee. If Ragee Singhs cannot be found, then the Granthi Singh is to recite each Lav, place the Rumala over Guru Sahib and then recite "Satnam, Vaheguru" whilst the couple walk/circumbabulate around Guru Sahib. The four Lavs are to be performed in this manner. Whilst the couple are walking around Guru Sahib, the Granthi Singh is not to get up and leave the throne of Guru Sahib, upon which he is doing seva. Some unintelligent/superstitious people think by the Granthi Singh remaining seated on the throne of Guru Jee, he some-how also ‘weds’ the bride. The Granthi Singh is the Minister of Guru Sahib, the bride cannot become married to him as her hand was already asked for marriage by the bridegroom and also prior to the Lavs she held the ‘Pula’ (tassel) of the bridegroom so she is committed to marrying him. The couple must walk around Sri Guru Granth Sahib Jee, many misguided people remain seated and perform the Anand Karaj in this way. This is against Gurmat and should never be done. crn Amol prdCnw krn kY ] "Those feet that do Parkarma (circumambulations in a clockwise direction) of Guru Sahib Jee are priceless." (Kabit Svaye Bhai Gurdas Jee p.17) 49 A four Verse Prayer, authored by the Fourth Guru, Sri Guru Ram Das Jee Walking around Satguru Jee (circumbabulating/Parkarma) signifies the sacrificing of ones mind, body and wealth. The circumambulating is a mark of respect signifying that Guru Sahib is greater than ourselves, as we have to take many steps to walk in humility around the throne of Sri Guru Granth Sahib Jee. The couple are begging for protection and assistance and signifying that they are the servants of Guru Sahib. If Parkarma is not performed during a time of happiness, then when will it ever be done? Parkarma are not to be performed around a fire, or any god, goddesses, persons, idols etc. After the Lavs, whilst the Ragees are singing Shabads, the Granthi Singh is to mentally recite the 40 verses of Anand Sahib whilst sitting in the presence of Guru Sahib (upon Guru Jee’s throne). If there are no Ragee Singhs then the Anand Sahib is to be recited out aloud to the sangat. Teachings are to be given to the couple (about how they should proceed in their lives as a married couple, which are in accordance with Gurmat). If a person is remarrying, the same ceremony is still to be performed including Lav’s around Sri Guru Granth Sahib. A list of relatives is not to be read out. An Ardas is to be performed and a Hukamnama read, then Karah Parshad is to be distributed afterwards. On this happy occasion, the couple is to listen attentively to the Gurmat teachings given to them for successful guidance in both worldly and spiritual realms. Meritorious things that should be done by the couple are practice of good actions, practising religion, taking good vows, performing meditation etc. Only good actions that will please Satguru are to be enacted – by the doing of which our lives will become blissful. Here is a more detailed account of what can be told to the couple: 1. Actions m: 4 ] gur siqgur kw jo isKu AKwey su Blky auiT hir nwmu iDAwvY ] "FOURTH SAROOP (FORM): One who calls himself a Sikh of the Guru, the True Guru, should rise in the early morning hours and meditate on the Lord's Name." (SGGSJ Ang 305) The whole of the above Shabad is to be read out. kyvl krm Brm sy cInhu Drm krm Anurwgo ] sMgRh kro sdw ismrn ko prm pwp qij Bwgo ] "Only actions of religion are to be undertaken and those actions which put us into confusion and condemnation from God are to be refrained from. Collect the goodness by doing simran (meditation) at all times, then your mind will deter from commiting sin." (Sri Dasam Granth Ang 710) gurmuiK nwmu dwnu iesnwnu ] "The Gurmukh is blessed with the Naam/ Shabad, charity and purification." (SGGSJ Ang 942) All your sins are washed away by meditating. And, through giving charitable donations, your hard work bears fruit. Gwil Kwie ikCu hQhu dyie ] nwnk rwhu pCwxih syie ] "One who works for what he eats, and gives some of what he has to charity, Guru Jee says, He/She realises the true path."(SGGSJ Ang 1245) One tenth of your time and earnings should be given to the preaching of Sikhi, Guru’s Langar and all types of charity connected to the Guru’s House. In this way, your virtuous ambitions in life will be realised. On the other hand if nothing is given to charitable purposes then: jo bwby ky dwm n dY hY ] iqn qy gih bwbr ky lY hY ] "Those who do not give money to the house of Sri Guru Nanak Dev Jee and/or charity, they will have their money taken by thieves or in fines to the government." ( Bachitar Natak, Sri Dasam Granth, Ang 71) Not giving money for charitable purposes is on a par with being prosecuted, stealing, becoming diseased and success will not last. Therefore it is essential to donate, but it is to be given out of an honest living. kbIr jw Gr swD n syvIAih hir kI syvw nwih ] qy Gr mrht swrKy BUq bsih iqn mwih ] 192 ] "Kabeer Jee says, those houses in which neither the Holy nor the Lord are served, those houses are like cremation grounds; demons dwell within them." (SGGSJ Ang 1374) By having Ishnaan, the body is cleansed and laziness is removed. Ishaan is an integral action to Sikh Life as we have to do Ishnaan in the morning before a prayer recital and many do Ishnaan before reciting any Paath (if they have been to the toilet so that their body is purified before reading50 and touching Gurbani scriptures.) A Sikh is also to continually cleanse him/herself by eradicating sinful actions by remembering the Teachings of the Guru and meditating on God at all times. 2. Religion There are two types of religion. Firstly, common religious practice which is universal for all i.e. remembering God, earning an honest living and doing seva of mankind. Secondly, are individual religions such as that of Hinduism, Islam, Christianity etc. Gursikhs also have their own religion – by taking Amrit from Panj Pyare and keeping the discipline of the five Kakkaars, abstaining from the four cardinal sins, meditating on Naam and Gurbani and seeing only Sri Guru Granth Sahib Jee as their Guru. This is the religion of Gursikhs, which is more important to them than their lives, for example Bhai Mati Das Jee, Bhai Dyal Das Jee, Bhai Mani Singh Jee, Bhai Taru Singh Jee and many others have become martyrs but they did not compromise their faith. 3. Vows and regular practices Some people go to places of pilgrimage and make vows for giving up something and make it a regular habit. One may say that from today I will not eat bananas, another may 50 Thus one may do Ishnaan many times in a day and not just the one mandatory Ishnaan in the morning say that for the next six months I will not wear shoes etc. Gursikhs should make vows and regular practices, but of the following kind: mwrU mhlw 5 Gru 4 AstpdIAw < siqgur pRswid cwdnw cWdnu AWgin pRB jIau AMqir cwdnw ]1]AwrwDnw ArwDnu nIkw hir hir nwmu ArwDnw ]2] iqAwgnw iqAwgnu nIkw kwmu kRoDu loBu iqAwgnw ]3]mwgnw mwgnu nIkw hir jsu gur qy mwgnw ]4] jwgnw jwgnu nIkw hir kIrqn mih jwgnw ]5]lwgnw lwgnu nIkw gur crxNI mnu lwgnw ]6] ieh ibiD iqsih prwpqy jw kY msqik Bwgnw ]7] khu nwnk iqsu sBu ikCu nIkw jo pRB kI srnwgnw ]8]1]4] "MAAROO, FIFTH SAROOP (FORM), FOURTH HOUSE, ASHTAPADEES: ONE UNIVERSAL CREATOR GOD. BY THE GRACE OF THE TRUE GURU:Out of all the lights which is the best light - in the courtyard of the mind? The light of the knowledge of God is supreme. || 1 || Meditation, meditation – which is the sublime meditation? Sublime is the meditation on the Name of the Lord, Har, Har. || 2 || Renunciation, renunciation – which is noble renunciation? Noble is the renunciation of sexual desire, anger and greed. || 3 || Begging, begging – what is noble begging? It is noble to beg for the action to praise the Lord, from the Guru. || 4 || Awakening, awakening – which is the supreme awakening? The supreme awakening is to sing the Lord’s praises. || 5 || Attachment, attachment – which is the sublime attachment? Sublime is the attachment of the mind to the Guru's Feet. || 6 || He alone is blessed with this way of life, upon whose forehead such destiny is recorded. || 7 || Guru Jee says, everything is sublime and noble, for one who enters the Sanctuary of God. || 8 || 1 || 4 ||." (SGGSJ Ang 1018) The Third Guru, Sri Guru Amar Das Jee uttered the following to a Pandit, naumI nymu scu jy krY ] kwm kRoDu iqRsnw aucrY] "On the ninth day of the month, make a vow to speak the Truth, and your sexual desire, anger and desire shall be vanquished." (SGGSJ Ang 1245) The above is only the first line of the Shabad, Sri Guru Amar Das went on to give further enlightenment to the Pandit to take on good actions on different days, to break superstitions associated with different days and to continuously develop spiritual and moral character. Speaking the truth and refraining from lying should be considered a vow. Gursikhs are to make a routine of reading as much Gurbani as is possible, waking up in the ambrosial hours, doing Naam Simran, being charitable, performing Ishnaan of the body and soul, ridding themselves of vices and remain within the moral constraints laid down by Gurmat. 4. Fasts Some fast according to movements of the moon, others on the birthdays of Krishan and Ram, others on the twelfth or fourteenth day of a lunar fortnight, some on a full moon, some on Sangrand and others on Tuesday’s. Muslims fast over Ramadan. In Gurmat keeping any of these fasts is prohibited, and only the following ‘fasts’ are permitted: QoVw svxw Kwvxw QoVw bolx gurmiq pwey [ "Sleeping little, eating little and speaking little is the way of enshrining Gurmat." (Bhai Gurdas Jee, //. 28, Pauri 15) Alp Ahwr sulp sI inMdRw dXw iCmw qn pRIiq ] "Eating and sleeping little, helping the needy, forgiving mistakes of others, being compassionate are all acts of a Sikh." (Dasam Granth Ang 709) EnI dunIAw qoVy bMDnw AMnu pwxNI QoVw KwieAw ] "They break bonds of the world (thus gaining self-realisation) and achieve this by eating and drinking little (water)." (SGGSJ Ang 467) (a) Male fast/abstinence: male youth are to make a habit of, eykw nwrI jqI hoey pr nwrI DI BYx vKwxY ] "Be faithful to your one wife, see others as your daughters and sisters, (for women be faithful to one husband and see others as your sons and brothers)." (//. 6, Pauri 8, Bhai Gurdas Jee) dyK prweIAW cMgIAW mwvW BYxW DIAW jwxY ] "Men should look at the opposite sex as mothers, sisters and daughters, (women should look at the opposite sex as fathers, brothers and sons)." (//. 29, Pauri 11, Bhai Gurdas Jee) ho pr Dn pwhn qu`il iqRXw pr mwq hmwrY ] "The wealth of another is like a stone to us, it is of no use. Other women are like our mothers." (Dasam Granth, Ang 842) pr iqRA rUpu n pyKY nyqR ] "Do not gaze upon anothers wife, in a sinful way." (SGGSJ Ang 274) jYsw sMgu ibsIAr isau hY ry qYso hI iehu pr igRhu] "Like the companionship of a poisonous snake, so is the desire for another's spouse, as the snake will poison/bite you, causing harm, in the same way having sex with another outside of marriage will cause much harm to you." (SGGSJ Ang 403) These teachings are illustrated by the story of Bhai Sant Ram Jee, a Sikh from the time of the fifth Guru, Sri Guru Arjan Dev Jee: svw gilst isr aUiTE qau nw kbUlI nwr ] "The tenth Guru, Sri Guru Gobind Singh Jee says that in the times of the fifth Guru, there was a Sikh called Sant Ram, whom worked as a bodyguard for the Emperor Jahangir. Jahangir’s daughter became attracted to this Sikh and wanted to marry him, so Jahangir told the Sikh to convert to Islam, for the marriage to go ahead. The Sikh refused and was decapitated. Jahangir then took the Sikh’s head on a platter to his daughter. His daughter edged forward to touch the face of the Sikh and his head floated a few inches away, thus not even accepting her in death." (Dasam Granth) (b) Female fast/abstinence: ibnu ipr purKu n jwxeI scy gur kY hyiq ipAwir ]6] "Other than her husband, she knows no man. She enshrines love for the True Guru, and sees all others (men aswell) as the wives of God."(SGGSJ Ang 54) Twkuru eyku sbweI nwir ] "There is one Husband Lord, and all are His brides51." (SGGSJ Ang 933) khu nwnk ijin ipRau prmysru kir jwinAw ] DMnu sqI drgh prvwinAw ] "Guru Jee says, she who looks upon Her Husband as the Lord, is blessed and has firm faith; great are those wives and they are received with honour in the Court of the Lord."(SGGSJ Ang 185) Mai Sevan, Bibi Rajni, Mai Bhag Kaur and others stories illustrate this firm faith, of serving one’s Husband as God. At the time of holding the ‘pula’ the bride is promising to: jy kru ghih ipAwrVy quDu n Cofw mUil ] "Beloved husband if you take my hand; I shall never forsake You." (SGGSJ Ang 322) Husband – if you are holding my hand in marriage then I will not leave your side until the day I die. The bridegroom promises to: hir Cofin sy durjnw pVih dojk kY sUil ] 2 ] "Just like manmukhs leave the Lord and go to hell. If I leave you I will go to hell too." (SGGSJ Ang 322) In the same way that scoundrels forget the Lord and go to hells – in the same way if I leave your innocent side then I will suffer the pain of many hells.52 51 Thus you only have one Husband to whom you should be faithful, but similarily we only have One Lord whom we should all be faithful to - Vaheguru. 52 This has all got to be taken in context. Thus if your Husband is an alcoholic and abusive then obviously he is not the image of God, but if He is a Gursikh and practising Sikhi then he should be served as God. There is space for compromise but all compromise and agreement is to be based upon Gurmat, only Gurmat practices are to be adhered to. 5. Meditation/Worship koaU buqwn kO pUjq hY psu koaU imRqwn kO pUjn DwieE ] kUr ikRAw auriJE sB hI jgu sRI Bgvwn ko Bydu n pwieE ] "Some worship idols and some worship the dead. The world is entangled in false actions with no one realising the true Lord." (Dasam Granth Ang 15) In the Hindu religion, the worship of statues was started by Narad Munee Jee. ihMdU mUly BUly AKutI jWhI ] nwrid kihAw is pUj krWhI ] "The Hindus have forgotten the Primal Lord; they are going the wrong way and have forsaken the true path. They pray according to the teachings of Narad Jee, performing idol worship." (SGGSJ Ang 556) Muslims also worship a stone in Mecca. In the same way if people pray to demi-gods and goddesses nothing is gained. dyvI dyvw pUjIAY BweI ikAw mwgau ikAw dyih ] "Why worship gods and goddesses, O Siblings of Destiny? What can we ask of them? What can they give us?" (SGGSJ Ang 637) Gursikhs have permission to: pUjhu rwmu eyku hI dyvw ] swcw nwvxu gur kI syvw ] "Worship the One Divine Lord. The true cleansing bath (which will eradicate our sins) is service (seva) of the Guru." (SGGSJ Ang 484) pUjw kIcY nwmu iDwAeIAY ibnu nwvY pUj n hoie ] "Perform worship and adoration by meditating on the Naam, the Name of the Lord; Without Naam, there is no worship and adoration." (SGGSJ Ang 489) siqguru pUjau sdw sdw mnwvau ] AYsI syv drgh suKu pwvau ]3] "Worship the True Guru at all times and make Him happy. By such service, I find peace in the Court of the Lord." (SGGSJ Ang 1158) jwgq joq jpY insbwsur eyk ibnw mn nYk n AwnY ] pUrn pRym pRqIq sjY bRq gor mVI mt BUl n mwnY ] "Pray to God - day and night do not think of any other, enshrining pure love and faith. Fasting and praying to tombstones/graves are not to be adhered to even by mistake." In Gurmat, the Timeless One is worshiped, discourse is of the Shabad (i.e. always thinking of or remembering Gurbani) and the vision is of the Khalsa. The bride and groom should have unbounded love and harmony so that they will achieve worldly and spiritual success. A union based simply on worldly concerns cannot be called a true union. Dn ipru eyih n AwKIAin bhin iekTy hoie ] "They are not said to be husband and wife, who merely sit together." (SGGSJ Ang 788) The couple can only be regarded as being in union if: eyk joiq duie mUrqI Dn ipru khIAY soie ] 3 ] "They alone are called husband and wife, who have one light in two bodies." (SGGSJ Ang 788) Compromise and decisions are to be made in the following manner: dohrw: isK isKxI iml bhihM crcw krihM Apwr ] Bjn isKwvihM puqR kau hir Bj bwrM bwr ] "Sikh Husband and Wife congregate and discuss the boundless God. Teaching their children how to meditate by repeating His Name." (Rehatnama Bhai Sahib Singh Jee, p.160) pauVI ] iesqRI purKY Aiq nyhu bih mMdu pkwieAw ] idsdw sBu ikCu clsI myry pRB BwieAw] ikau rhIAY iQru jig ko kFhu aupwieAw ] gur pUry kI cwkrI iQru kMDu sbwieAw ] nwnk bKis imlwieAnu hir nwim smwieAw ] 33 ] "PAUREE: The husband and wife are very much in love; sitting together, they make evil plans. All that is seen shall pass away. This is the Will of my God. How can anyone remain in this world forever? What can be done to prepare for the inevitable death? Serving the Perfect Guru, the body is purified. Guru Jee says, the Lord merges them into Himself; whom are absorbed in the Naam." (SGGSJ Ang 1250) The couple should discuss their actions with one another before doing anything. The bride is to respect her in-laws as if they were her own parents and the bridegroom is to do the same with his in-laws maintaining their love and a good relationship. All actions are to be discussed by the couple and they are to remain strictly in adherence with Gurmat. Then Satguru Jee will keep all their affairs on an upward spiral. mweI mwgq qRY loBwvih ] "You call her mother, but are lured by the three senses, the mind, the eyes and the ears. The mind wants sexual contact with a woman, the eyes want to see an attractive woman and the ears want to hear the sweet words of a woman."(SGGSJ Ang 903) The person still remains entangled in sin. Many ‘holy men’ have gone and lived in jungles, yet they regretted doing so and Satguru says: iesu ByKY Qwvhu igrho Blw ijQhu ko vrswie ] "Instead of wearing these beggars’ robes, it is better to be a householder, and give to others." (SGGSJ Ang 587) Going to live in the jungles would be of use if God Himself lived in the jungle. God is to be attained within yourself, by tuning into the Shabad, so what need is there to go anywhere else? This is why Bhagat Farid has said living in jungles is a waste of time: PrIdw jMglu jMglu ikAw Bvih viNx kMfw moVyih ] vsI rbu ihAwlIAY jMglu ikAw FUFyih ]19] "Fareed Jee says, Why do you wander from jungle to jungle, crashing through the thorny trees? The Lord abides in the heart; why are you looking for Him in the jungle?" (SGGSJ Ang 1378) DnwsrI mhlw 9 ] kwhy ry bn Kojn jweI ] srb invwsI sdw Alypw qohI sMig smweI ]1 ] rhwau ] puhp miD ijau bwsu bsqu hY mukr mwih jYsy CweI ] qYsy hI hir bsy inrMqir Gt hI Kojhu BweI]1] "DHANAASAREE, NINTH SAROOP (FORM): Why do you go looking for Him in the forest? Although He is unattached, He dwells everywhere. He is always with you as your companion. Pause. Like the fragrance which remains in the flower, And like the reflection in the mirror, the Lord dwells deep within; Search for Him within your own heart, O Siblings of Destiny." (SGGSJ Ang 684) The destruction of ego is to be achieved by immersing your heart in Naam, then God is attained. haumY nwvY nwil ivroDu hY duie n vsih iek Twie ] "Ego is opposed to the Name of the Lord; The two cannot dwell in the same place." (SGGSJ Ang 560) A question was posed to Sri Guru Nanak Dev Jee, why doesn’t Naam become imbued in our hearts? Guru Jee replied: rsu suienw rsu rupw kwmiNx rsu prml kI vwsu ] "You have a love for making gold jewellery, you have a love for making silver dishes, you have a love for lusting after the opposite sex and a love for putting sandalwood fragrance on." (SGGSJ Ang 15) When all exterior tastes, desires and attachments have been extinguished, then Vaheguru’s Naam will become imbued in your heart and reveal itself. Vaheguru will become self-revealed at this point. The aim is to stay detached from worldly passions and to imbue Naam into the mind, not to wonder uselessly in jungles. This is why Satguru Jee says: Gr bwrI hoie vriqAw Gr bwrI isK pYrIN pwieAw ] "A Sikh is to be a householder, if the Sikh is a true Sikh (i.e. a Brahmgyani) and one meets such a Sikh, One is to surrender at the feet of such a Sikh and do their seva in humility." (Bhai Gurdas Jee //. 6, Pauri 2) The Gurus stayed detached from worldly passions whilst living the life of householders and preached the same message to their Sikhs: jogu n BgvI kpVI jogu n mYly vyis] nwnk Gir bYiTAw jogu pweIAY siqgur kY aupdyis ] "Self-realisation is not obtained by wearing saffron robes; Nor is it obtained by wearing dirty robes. Guru Jee says, By following the Teachings of the True Guru at home you achieve self-realisation." (SGGSJ Ang 1421) nwnk siqguir ByitAY pUrI hovY jugiq ] hsMidAw KylMidAw pYnMidAw KwvMidAw ivcy hovY mukiq ] "Guru Jee says, meeting the True Guru, one comes to realise perfect knowledge.While; laughing, playing, dressing and consuming fine foods, he/she is liberated." (SGGSJ Ang 522) Today many people have forgotten the above teachings and started to live outside the boundaries laid down by Gurmat, doing what they feel is right or wrong. Some Amritdharee Sikhs marry non-Amritdharees just for money but this is not acceptable, marriage should not be based upon desire for wealth or other worldy goods. A marriage is to be based on the same Dharam/Principles and qualities in both people. According to Gurmat both the bride and bridegroom should be Amritdharee. The Kurmayee/Engagement should be a good deed and not involve taking money from your daughters/sisters. No form of dowry (gifts from the Brides family) should be given or accepted. Bhai Sahib Singh Jee writes in a Rehatnama: kMinAw dyvY isK ko lyvY nih ikCu dwm ] soeI myrw isK hY phucy gur ky Dwm ] 25] "Sri Guru Gobind Singh Jee says, the Sikh that marry’s his daughter to a Sikh, and does not take any money, He is a true Sikh of mine and will reach my abode in Sachkand." (Bhai Sahib Singh Rehatnama p.160) The bride and bridegroom should be Amritdharee, follow the Rehat, recite Nitnem and as much additional Gurbani as possible and have knowledge of Sikh history. Besides their Rehat, their principles, age, education, appearance and other qualities are to be taken into consideration.Ideally, the bride should be about four years younger than the bridegroom. At the Kurmayee/engagement the bride’s family are to give the bridegroom a token of five Rupees (£, $ etc) and a Kirpan with a gatra. The groom’s family should give the bride a token gift of five Rupees (£, $ etc), a kangha and a kirpan with a Gatra. At the time of the Kurmayee, the groom’s family should have the Bhog of a Sehaj Paath or Akhand Paath at the Kurmayee. After the Bhog, Karah Parsaad must be distributed and Kirtan sung. However, if for any reason, an Akand Paath or Sahej Paath cannot be performed, then the Kurmayee must be conducted in the presence of Sri Guru Granth Sahib. kIqw loVIAY kMmu su hir pih AwKIAY ] kwrju dyie svwir siqgur scu swKIAY ] "Whatever needs doing, make a supplication in front of the Lord. ‘May you make perfect what I am about to do’, this is Satguru Jee’s true teaching." (SGGSJ Ang 91) Similar shabads should be recited. Following a Hukamnama, the groom should be given the five rupees and kirpan with a gatra. The following shabad should be recited simultaneously: sy sMjog krhu myry ipAwry ] ijqu rsnw hir nwmu aucwry ] "Oh my beloved Lord, please grace me with presence of those saints, By the meeting of whom my tongue may continuously recite Naam." (SGGSJ Ang 743) Only Karah Parshad is to be distributed. Eating dates, putting on a Tilak (Hindu marking on the forehead), singing inappropriate songs, whistling, playing sinful music are all prohibited. On such happy occasions drinking alcohol, eating meat and other sinful activities are not to be undertaken. The giving and taking of clothes, jewellery etc is prohibited. When the couple are ready to enter marriage, then the relations of both families are to meet and collectively decide on a date, not paying any notice to superstitions and staying within Gurmat. swhw gxih n krih bIcwru ] swhy aUpir eykMkwru ] "You calculate the auspicious days, but you do not understand that the One Creator Lord is above these auspicious days." (SGGSJ Ang 904) On the wedding invitation "God is One – He is realised by the True Guru’s Grace" is to be written, by which all obstacles are removed and the event is successfully completed. According to the capabilities of the families, an Akhand Paath or Sehaj Paath should be held a few days before the Anand Karaj. During this happy occasion "Vadhans of the 4th Guru Ghoreean" is to be sung and other Gurbani of a similar nature is to be recited, at the bride and bridegrooms homes. Folk songs are not to be sung and only Gurbani is to be recited. The bride is not to wear any jewellery and make-up. Bindi and the wearing of sarees is not allowed. The bridegroom’s family is to perform Ardas, take a Hukamnama from Sri Guru Granth Sahib Jee and then start their journey for the wedding. The marriage party of the bridegroom is to be small. Playing dirty songs, hiring female dancers, doing bhangra and dancing are prohibited. The following superstitions are not to be heeded to – making pigtails of grass, pouring oil, and wearing a Sehra (chaplet). Many argue that Sri Guru Gobind Singh Jee wore a Sehra around his head at his wedding and Gurdwara Sehra Sahib at Anandpur Sahib has been built to commemorate this. But this practice was prevalent before ‘Khande dee Pahul’47 was prepared, after which wearing a Sehra was prohibited. 47 Amrit prepared by Panj Pyare with a Khanda Money is not to be waved over the heads of either the bride or bridegroom. The following superstitions/practices are also prohibited: 1. Wearing a Kalgi (which was worn by Guru Gobind Singh Jee as a sign of his Sovereignty); 2. Giving a ceremonial bath to the bride or bridegroom on the eve of the wedding and breaking objects after the bath; 3. Putting on a paste prepared with oil, barley flour and turmeric, popularly referred to as ‘Maiya(n)’; 4. Drinking water/milk after waving it over the heads of the bride/bridegroom; and 5. Bowing to the shrines of ancestors/saints etc. These useless actions are not to be performed. When the bridegroom and his family arrive at the place of the wedding ceremony, the following shabad is to be read, hm Gir swjn Awey ] "My friends have come into my home" (SGGSJ Ang 764) Other similar Shabads are also to be recited. Upon arrival at the house of the bride, all are to greet each other by saying "Gurfateh" to one another. Money is not to be thrown. An Ardas is to be performed to ensure a smooth running ceremony proceeds, this is the Milni of Gursikhs. The singing of abusive songs ridiculing the bridegrooms family by the bride’s family, or tying a ribbon to hold the bridegroom’s family back from entering, are all prohibited. Food is to be eaten after reciting the following Salok, sloku ] kwm kRoD Aru loB moh ibnis jwie AhMmyv ] nwnk pRB srxwgqI kir pRswdu gurdyv ] "By coming under the sanctury of the Lord; Lust, anger, greed, emotional attachment and ego are eradicated. Upon the blessing of Sri Guru Ram Das Jee is the sanctuary of the Lord attained." (SGGSJ Ang 269) After eating, water is to be offered to cleanse hands and mouths and Ardas is to be performed. The wedding is to be performed at the Gurdwara, regardless of the size of the house of the bride. If it is not possible to perform the Anand Karaj at a Gurdwara, only then is the house of the bride to be used for the wedding 48. Sri Guru Granth Sahib should be seated in the cleanest and nicest place in the home. 48 Weddings in homes are prevalent in Punjab, India hir nwmY ky hovhu joVI gurmuiK bYshu sPw ivCwie ] "Let yourselves be joined to the Name of the Lord; Become Gurmukhs, spread out a mat (floor covering) for Sadh Sangat to sit down and meditate." (SGGSJ Ang 1185) In line with Gurmat both families are to respectfully sit in the presence of Guru Sahib. The bride is to enter the Darbar Sahib with her face uncovered and bow to Sri Guru Granth Sahib. The bridegroom and bride are to sit in front of Guru Sahib. The bridegroom is to sit on the right and the bride to his left. They should sit on the same level as the Sangat and not on any raised platform/spread. After both have been seated, the couple and their father’s (uncles, brothers or cousins may stand in their place if required) are to stand for an Ardas for the commencement of the Anand Karaj.

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Amrit Sanchaar on 25th April in Leicester at Guru Tegh Bahadur Gurughar.

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