Stage Fright (help)!

[Guest gursikh girl]

Hello Sangat ji, I need help. I can't talk in front of groups (like doing presentations or when all the attention is on me) like at school and stuff

Im always so nervous and jittery and I have to stop and take a deep breath and swallow and I get nervous when theres all these gorey around me who are all smarter and I feel like Ill look stupider than them

I know im amritdhari daughter of guru gobind singh ji but I still get so scared and nervous it's like I can't be spontaneous and just hold my head up and be strong and talk in front of ppl

If im talking about sikhi then i can tal kto anyone with so much pride but any school presentation i get so so so scared and nervous, I always shy away from presentations but I have to do it sometimes especially if i go to uni then in a lot of courses its so important and it feels like everyones smarter than mee

help plz!

[SSM]

lol we all feel like that, like at my college we do presentations and i start talking really fast but everyone admits they are scared, to be honest with practice u'll be fine and try to not look at ppl when u talk, ie. look towards them only but trust me most ppl like u and we all think we did it real bad but no!

[Akaal Purakh Di Fauj]

just remember that, your beloved guru ji is standing right next to you and remember that, its only a presentation, whats the worst thing that can happen........ :TH: good luck bhenji

[Singh132]

It's mostly about experience. The more you do it, the less daunting it will be.

But when you're talking, just know that you know more about the issue than they do. You can even afford to screw up a bit and no one will notice. Besides, the people you are talking to are just people. They're probably not that important in the sense that you need to impress them.

[disguised]

ususally if you look at an object tis helps.. liek teh cetre of a wall... or something. Try practicing it infront of your siblings or parents or friends. That might help!

[Raju]

Hello Sangat ji, I need help. I can't talk in front of groups (like doing presentations or when all the attention is on me) like at school and stuff

Im always so nervous and jittery and I have to stop and take a deep breath and swallow and I get nervous when theres all these gorey around me who are all smarter and I feel like Ill look stupider than them

I know im amritdhari daughter of guru gobind singh ji but I still get so scared and nervous it's like I can't be spontaneous and just hold my head up and be strong and talk in front of ppl

If im talking about sikhi then i can tal kto anyone with so much pride but any school presentation i get so so so scared and nervous, I always shy away from presentations but I have to do it sometimes especially if i go to uni then in a lot of courses its so important and it feels like everyones smarter than mee

help plz!

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gursikh girl je, this is a very good question you have put.

How to speak in front of a group of people ?? There are a lot of people/management specialists and a lot of concepts, both professional and laymen-type on how one should tackle this problem.

Some people have said that if you imagine the whole group as nekkid then your fears go away automatically, but some people do not find that advise useful.

But from personal experience, what I have found out that speaking in front of a group is a mind-game in which your mind has to get the attention of the group without allowing their attention to escape to other inanities.

Presentation also needs confidence in oneself, and when you are going to present you must be fully confident that you are attractive enough to keep people interested. You must not lack confidence in yourself howsoever because it will get easily radiated to the rest who will then soon get disinterested because you are just mirroring, what is probably their own emotions. So they feel....'nothing new for us here' ??

What helps and is most important however is the 'feeling' that the people you are addressing are a group of 'no-brainers' and it is only you who can help them out solve their problems. If your presentation revolves around this attitude, I feel it can take you far.

[Guest gursikh girl]

Youre all rite its jus tht i get nervousss and i kind of freeze up even though the people are just people and theyre normal just like me, and even if i nkow what i'm talking about and they mite not know

I still get nervous like theyre guna judge me or im like 'theyre prolly thinkin im so weird rite now' when usually before I used to be really confident so I dont know!

I hate it i hate feeling vulnerable like that in a group of ppl i think we need to learn confidence somehow

[Jo Kicch Hai So Tera Waheguru]

You're not alone penjhi, i'm far worse - i get nervous in almost every situation. The way I try to control it is by trying not to think about it until the actual time arrives. Becuase its normally the thinking before hand which gets me nervous. Do an ardaas on the day before or on the day for guru to give his blessings and I'm sure you'll be fine. :TH:

guru fateh

[Heera Singh]

use the old cliche.... picture everybody in their underwears... (or kashera... whatever works for you ... bahahaha)

[SSM]

oh bhenji same boat, used to do all these assemblies in school and everyone was like wow and now its like oh gosh i have to talk in front of 20ppl what shall i do.

maybe try practising talking in front of the mirror and look at ur body language and all that and use that time to admire urslef lol.

or alternatively Heera Singh's advice: but dunno how that helps