Gurl Problems

[Guest confizzled]

Waheguru ji ka khalsa, waheguru ji ki fateh

Ok to start off, i'm not amrtidhari yet, but am tryin to take amrit asap.i lives in Vancouver. My problem started a lil while back when i suddenly started to "like" this gurl. I am well aware that in sikhi everybody is supposed to be ur brother and sister, but i have no clu why i feel this way about this person. I seem to can't seem to stop thinkin bout her, except when i am doing paath, anddoing naam japna. But this feeling only goes away for a short period, as i realize i am thinkin of her again. We r friends but i rly don't understand what i can do to stop this from happening. I know its a crush but i was wondering, how the rest of the sikhi sangat has dealt with them. I'm sure i'm not alaone, cause if i am then ... i'd be surprised, please give me ur honest opinions at what i should do!!! btw i am 18

i forgot the punchline , the she is amritdhari

[Bored]

teens are confused idiots(im 18 too...lol) theres plenty of these kinda topics like this one in the gupt section.

everyone, yes that includes papi(lol) r gonna start throwing shabads from sggs at u, stand bak and enjoy

u clearly kno the answer, 4get those kaam thoughts from ur mind. if ur still in this state of mind then its not a gud idea being around her...its onli gonna big the problem. if doing phat helps keeping her outta the mind durring th ephat, then go do sum 20 year bhagati in a cave ...lol jus kidding!

keep up the phaat...u kno its ur onli hope

[Revolutionary]

My problem started a lil while back when i suddenly started to "like" this gurl. I am well aware that in sikhi everybody is supposed to be ur brother and sister, but i have no clu why i feel this way about this person. I seem to can't seem to stop thinkin bout her, except when i am doing paath, anddoing naam japna. But this feeling only goes away for a short period, as i realize i am thinkin of her again. We r friends but i rly don't understand what i can do to stop this from happening. I know its a crush but i was wondering, how the rest of the sikhi sangat has dealt with them. I'm sure i'm not alaone, cause if i am then ... i'd be surprised, please give me ur honest opinions at what i should do!!! btw i am 18

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i forgot the punchline , the she is amritdhari

ARGHHH!!!

lol

classik..wat can i say.. its the 1st yr of *true* jawani.. or actually 2 yrs into it.

Dont get into these kinda pangge man!! what u gna get outa it? NOTHING! trrrrrrrust me i know ppl (eg myself) who've been in stupid pangge.. my mate got played by a girl and now on weed :lol: they doo ur hed in kuriya!! (wel only wen they ur gf's lol)

so yh..dont do it!!

[Ghetto_Superstar]

listen man your human n you got emotions like anyone else on this planet, so your bound to start liking someone at somepoint.... so dont beat yourself up over it

You jus gotta deal with it your own way to stop thinkin about her, do some sports or anythin to consume more time, so your not sat around pickin your nose thinkin of this girl

All the best

[Akaali]

Some tips:

- Join a gym (workout anaerobic and aerobic) It makes you more stable, physically and mentally.

- Start playing sports that you use to play or play more often

- Find a job, whether full-time or part-time, trust me it will leave you no room to think about other things

- Discover a new hobby like martial arts, painting, music, etc. etc.

At the end of the day more naam abhyaas and reciting/understanding gurbani is the solution to your problem, which should be your primary objective, you can always incorportate those tips in your objective. My two cents.

[Singh With Dunalli]

Some tips:

- Join a gym (workout anaerobic and aerobic) It makes you more stable, physically and mentally.

- Start playing sports that you use to play or play more often

- Find a job, whether full-time or part-time, trust me it will leave you no room to think about other things

- Discover a new hobby like martial arts, painting, music, etc. etc.

At the end of the day more naam abhyaas and reciting/understanding gurbani is the solution to your problem, which should be your primary objective, you can always incorportate those tips in your objective. My two cents.

Canada's Largest City, you are my new best friend on this website man. :TH: These are 100% awesome suggestions. Hey Vancouver Bro, Hows it going?.....

Homie, feeling the emotions you have right now are 100% normal, you see your in your teenage years my brother, its' perfectly normal, on top of all that you cannot escape from the 5 EVILS, you just have learn how to keep it to the minimum. When I was in highschool, I did stupid things too man, drive fast cars, loud music thinking I would impress the kuriya. :lol: But, its' only later on, when you find good sangat that's when you start to settle down. Try as best as possible to keep good Sangat (Hang around with Gursikhs that are ethical and hardoworking, etc.) Also, do the things that Canada's Largest City suggested, I couldn't agree with them more. They will not only keep you in shape, but make you a well-rounded person. :TH: If you want to become Amritdari, please do, do not delay, its' probably now the time, Guru Gobind Singh wants you in his army. Also, do not feel bad if you do arouse "bad" feelings, its' normal homie, do not be harsh on yourself, but the energy you use towards those feelings, try to divert them towards other things like working out, and the things Canada's Largest City suggested.

GOOOOOOOOOOD LUCKKKKKKKKKK! :TH:

[Guest Papi]

obviously you are doing simran and reading bani :TH:

also, try to break all contact with the person, this includes msn, phone, email, in person (obviously) and it'll wear off in due time :lol: tell her in a nice way if you want to and let her know that this is what you are going through and need some time alone. if she's mature enough she'll understand.

and i can't stress this enough, ARDAAS. talk to guruji, he'll help you out

but you already knew that

[Akaali]

I lub ju too :nihungsmile:

[kaur_khalistani_lioness]

I lub ju too :nihungsmile:

Daji :lol: lol

[Guest _vaheguru_]

Waheguru ji ka khalsa, waheguru ji ki fateh

Ok to start off, i'm not amrtidhari yet, but am tryin to take amrit asap.i lives in Vancouver. My problem started a lil while back when i suddenly started to "like" this gurl. I am well aware that in sikhi everybody is supposed to be ur brother and sister, but i have no clu why i feel this way about this person. I seem to can't seem to stop thinkin bout her, except when i am doing paath, anddoing naam japna. But this feeling only goes away for a short period, as i realize i am thinkin of her again. We r friends but i rly don't understand what i can do to stop this from happening. I know its a crush but i was wondering, how the rest of the sikhi sangat has dealt with them. I'm sure i'm not alaone, cause if i am then ... i'd be surprised, please give me ur honest opinions at what i should do!!! btw i am 18

i forgot the punchline , the she is amritdhari

yesss i been through what your going through.....im a girl...i started talking to this guy...he is also amritdhare..we started talking as freinds..but its getting wierd since we have been talking EVERY SINGLE DAY

it gets kind of noticable when you start talking to each other every single day! Sooo when i started to do simran or any other paat..I could not concentrate..I keep thinking of this "person"

things happend for the best am i right? this person your thinking abot might be 'the one" for you..well that is if your old enough :TH:

i say..when your doing paat, try, i know its har, but try, to focus your concentraitonon paat..

wow i lknow i made MANYMANY mistakes so sangat ji plz forgive me, just a mankukh trying to peacefully flow with vahegurus hukum!

bhull chuk maaf!