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Vaahiguru Jee Kaa Khalsa Vaahiguru Jee Kee Fateh!

Sangat Jee, I have this friend, who isn't amritdhari or anything. She asked me alot about sikhi, and why we didn't cut our hair, or eat meat, you know the basics. I explained as best as I could. The next day she declided that she was going to try to stop eating meat for a month. She told me that she made so many mistakes and she feels really, really bad about them. I told her to do ardaas, and Guru Jee would understand. She asked me if Guru Jee would forgive her, for her past mistakes she made. I didn't know, because she already has a muslim boyfriend. So what should I tell her?

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We can always repent for honest mistakes. We do a lot of stupid things because we don't know any better at the time so we live to regret them as mistakes. Guru Sahib is bakshanhaar...he will forgive us and give us the chance to change our ways. Muslim boyfriend, cutting hair, eating meat...all these mistakes can be forgiven if she honestly seeks forgiveness and sets herself right.

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I'm not sure if this is answering your question but isn't Guru Ji suppose to forgive if you ask for forgiveness from the bottom of your heart? Maybe you could tell her that she's going to have to do a lot more then just Ardass. That's what I would think. And I also believe that if she has realized her mistakes, that's a good beginning because most of the time we make mistakes but forget to ask for forgiveness. So I would suggest telling her to go to Guru Ji and ask for forgiveness as well as to start moving towards God some more. Hope that helped and sorry for any confusion.

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We can always repent for honest mistakes. We do a lot of stupid things because we don't know any better at the time so we live to regret them as mistakes. Guru Sahib is bakshanhaar...he will forgive us and give us the chance to change our ways. Muslim boyfriend, cutting hair, eating meat...all these mistakes can be forgiven if she honestly seeks forgiveness and sets herself right.
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I'm not sure if this is answering your question but isn't Guru Ji suppose to forgive if you ask for forgiveness from the bottom of your heart? Maybe you could tell her that she's going to have to do a lot more then just Ardass. That's what I would think. And I also believe that if she has realized her mistakes, that's a good beginning because most of the time we make mistakes but forget to ask for forgiveness. So I would suggest telling her to go to Guru Ji and ask for forgiveness as well as to start moving towards God some more. Hope that helped and sorry for any confusion.

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Thank-you for replying.

I agree with both of you. However, I thought you had to give up all these things, in order to be forgiven. She says that she feels bad about the kissing, and all those things she did with her previous boyfriends, and she won't do it with her present boyfriend. She said that she has stopped eating meat, but she still eats chicken. :) She wants her previous mistakes to be forgiven and I know she really means it, but isn't she a hypocrite? Because she's still dating, but she wants to be forgiven for dating in her past? im confused now! grin.gif

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jYsw bwlku Bwie suBweI lK AprwD kmwvY ]

jaisaa baalak bhaae subhaaee lakh aparaadhh kamaavai ||

Like the child, innocently making thousands of mistakes

kir aupdysu iJVky bhu BwqI bhuiV ipqw gil lwvY ]

kar oupadhaes jhirrakae bahu bhaathee bahurr pithaa gal laavai ||

his father teaches him, and scolds him so many times, but still, he hugs him close in his embrace.

ipCly Aaugux bKis ley pRBu AwgY mwrig pwvY ]2]

pishhalae aougun bakhas leae prabh aagai maarag paavai ||2||

Please forgive my past actions, God, and place me on Your path for the future. ||2||

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Thank-you for replying.

I agree with both of you. However, I thought you had to give up all these things, in order to be forgiven. She says that she feels bad about the kissing, and all those things she did with her previous boyfriends, and she won't do it with her present boyfriend. She said that she has stopped eating meat, but she still eats chicken. :) She wants her previous mistakes to be forgiven and I know she really means it, but isn't she a hypocrite? Because she's still dating, but she wants to be forgiven for dating in her past? im confused now! grin.gif

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Tell her about this line from gurbani

"Pichle Avgun Baksh Le Prabh Aage Marag paawe"

People think that they had a bath in holy pool of amritsar so they are sin free now and they start commmiting new one thinking that these would be repented in next amritsar visit :)

Until & Uptil we are not moving on the right path the previous mistakes won't be forgiven. So our current path indicates if previous one are forgiven are not.

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this sooooo aint good

u already answered your ques.......

She wants her previous mistakes to be forgiven and I know she really means it, but isn't she a hypocrite? Because she's still dating, but she wants to be forgiven for dating in her past? im confused now!

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why she datin a muslim boy neways? she shouldnt be datin at all. whts with all the emeee lafunga. seriously u shud sit dwn with her an hav it out with her proper style, i would if i it were my freind.

as a gursikh she shoudlnt be doin this. i aint even gursikh, an i wouldnt even do this. it hurts to knw gursikhs are doing this. yeh the path to sikhi is hard, bt shes nt makin it any easier. younger people look down on older gursikhs as role models, what example is she setting??

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Ask her to talk to other Singhneea that keep rehat and actually practice Sikhi. This will have the most influence on her, and help her by introducing her to several other Singhnees so she is given this sangat.

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