Relationships

[Guest Not a happy Singh]

Hi I’m a Singh in his mid twenties (i.e. have turban and beard) I’ve never had a girlfriend and never even kissed etc ….when I was younger I lived in the hope I would eventually find someone but now that I’m getting older I’ve realised that no woman has ever shown any interest in me and I keep thinking that no one will ever want me and that there is something wrong with me. It’s just that not even a religious Sikh woman has ever been interested in me. Don’t get me wrong I’m not one of those singhs who harasses women or anything like that I just thought that it would happen in its own time BUT it hasn’t. From what I see Sikh women want trim singhs and the rest want clean shaven guys and I don’t think I can compete with them because I have a beard and turban. I’m what people would call a good guy but all the women I see all they go for is the bad boy types even Sikh girls go for Singhs (who have beards and turbans) who treat them badly and then complain why they can’t find good singhs………….so should I change and become one someone who a women might possibly want to be with or stay the way I am someone who doesn’t drink, smoke, eat meat and keeps his hair and beard?????????

[Vato]

There is knowone more beautiful than a Sikh of the Guru.. the problem is not in you... Is it your fault your too good for such people? No

What about arrainged marriages? if you want get your parents to help find you someone

[ManpreetyKaur]

Hi I’m a Singh in his mid twenties (i.e. have turban and beard) I’ve never had a girlfriend and never even kissed etc ….when I was younger I lived in the hope I would eventually find someone but now that I’m getting older I’ve realised that no woman has ever shown any interest in me and I keep thinking that no one will ever want me and that there is something wrong with me. It’s just that not even a religious Sikh woman has ever been interested in me. Don’t get me wrong I’m not one of those singhs who harasses women or anything like that I just thought that it would happen in its own time BUT it hasn’t. From what I see Sikh women want trim singhs and the rest want clean shaven guys and I don’t think I can compete with them because I have a beard and turban. I’m what people would call a good guy but all the women I see all they go for is the bad boy types even Sikh girls go for Singhs (who have beards and turbans) who treat them badly and then complain why they can’t find good singhs………….so should I change and become one someone who a women might possibly want to be with or stay the way I am someone who doesn’t drink, smoke, eat meat and keeps his hair and beard?????????

don't change yourself...you don't need to change yourself to make people like you that will still cause problems because that is not who you really are

there are many topics on this, search it, many members have given great replies which I am sure will help :wub:

[Guest Akirtghan]

I’m a Singh in his mid twenties

ur still young, have some patience.

for a sikh, their marraige is in the hands of dhan guru granth sahib jee, when the time is right it'll happen.

change should always happen for one's betterment, not for the worse

have some confidence in urself as a guru ka sikh, you seem to lack that a lot in your post.

[Guest abcd1234]

the change is up to you. if u feel that you want to change, then go for it. however, dont let others change you. at the end of it, its ur decision.

[skepticSikh]

i have a feeling you don't like the idea of arranged marriages, so just try to meet a lot of new people. Or even join one of those reputed internet dating services that match you by personality. That's all i can think of....but no, don't change yourself. Instead, express yourself as you truly are, and look self-confident. And be open...you never know...

[lowest of the low singhni]

I have a feeling you've heard this all before but sometimes it takes a while for the message to sink in. Firstly have some faith in Akaal Purakh, it will help.

Hi I’m a Singh in his mid twenties (i.e. have turban and beard) I’ve never had a girlfriend and never even kissed etc ….when I was younger I lived in the hope I would eventually find someone but now that I’m getting older I’ve realised that no woman has ever shown any interest in me and I keep thinking that no one will ever want me and that there is something wrong with me.

There's nothing wrong with you, don't compare yourself to other people - especially those who are not on Guru Saheb's path.

From what I see Sikh women want trim singhs and the rest want clean shaven guys and I don’t think I can compete with them because I have a beard and turban.

Do you really want to marry a so-called Sikh woman who prefers 'trim Sikhs'? There is no need to compete with them, you are in a different league altogether.

I’m what people would call a good guy but all the women I see all they go for is the bad boy types even Sikh girls go for Singhs (who have beards and turbans) who treat them badly and then complain why they can’t find good singhs.

Don't generalise, you haven't seen enough of the world ji.

so should I change and become one someone who a women might possibly want to be with or stay the way I am someone who doesn’t drink, smoke, eat meat and keeps his hair and beard?????????

You already know the answer to that.

[dalsingh101]

Try this

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=LNXgwZgwKCw&...ted&search=

[Gurbar Akaal]

Forget your beard and turban and look at yourself as a person, no woman wants to be with someone with a low self esteem, carry yourself with robh and pride, your a sikh of the guru, be proud of your roop and forget what others think of you, you have no one to please apart from your guru.

There are people with cut hair and trimmed dharis, and they dont get girls, why? Its all about the person and who they are, what their personality is like.

Who knows, you'll end up cutting your kesh to "attract" a girl, then it wont work out, relationships aint easy and take allot of work to keep going from both sides, then you'll regret turning your back on the guru, and end up hating relationships too. lol.

There are some things to think about, change yourself as a person, be more social and just experience life before you decide to cut your hair.

[Guest Dancing Warrior]

Very true

Gurbar,

You should an agony uncle…..or chacha…or mumaji Ji....