What Shall I Do?

[Guest Kaur]

Hello all,

I want to fulfill my wish of being an Amritdhari one day and I am just practicing at this stage. I am in a relationship which I never actually wished to have. I feel it was my test from Waheguru Ji. Now its too late to turn back because I do have feelings for him. I regret letting him into my life everyday and I think "what if."

I try to tell him that I want to practice being a Sikh and later on in life we may marry and then he gets aggressive and I end up feeling guilty. This results in me giving him the upper hand and trying to figure out what to do next.

He even threatens to kill himself if I leave him and I don't know what to do because I don't want to be responsible for someone taking there life.

Sangat ji please help me.

[Guest Guest]

He is emotionally blackmailing you.

You don't know if you will get this chance again.

When you become amrithdaree you can't have bf/gf relationships.

If you can't do this now you will struggle when you try to walk on that path.

Take my advice, cut off all contacts with this boy.

You keep practising. Stay with sangat.

Believe me nothing comes close to taking Amrit.

It is the best thing.

The only thing you will regret is not taking Amrit it sooner.

Take it now while your young, no responsibilities, etc.

There are so many married couples out there in the same situation.

When you take Amrit the Panj will tell you that you have to marry an amrithdaree.

You get some married couples who werent into Sikhi.

The wife or husband want to take Amrit bit their partner does not want to.

If one of them want to take Amrit both the husband and wife have to take Amrit.

In some cases the partner does not want to take Amrit so this has resulted in the couple separating.

That's how precious Amrit is.

You have to make a sacrifice.

You won't be responsible for him taking his life.

He will be held responsible

[Guest Gd]

Is he a Sikh? Why would he have a problem with you wanting to become amritdhari? Showing you aggression, threatening to kill himself, be careful what you get into, these threats and emotional blackmail will only get worse.

Leave him and walk the path of god.

[Guest sister]

RUN FOR YOUR LIFE! DO IT NOW SISTER. RUN TO YOUR GURU. HE WILL SAVE YOU

[Guest Kaur]

Hello,

This is me again and I am very thankful for all your responses. We have resolved things and _Gd_ ji he is Sikh. He does not have a problem with me taking Amrit but his major concern was that I would have no time for him.

I understand where he is coming from and things are okay now.

I thank all of you.

[xtremesingh18]

If your going out with someone then you are not ready to take Amrit, as simple as...