I Know That Im Doing Wrong, But I Cant Stop It....

[Guest Idowrong]

Hi all.

I've recently started feeling such a guilt and anger, because of things I do. I masturbate/watch porn, I am video game addict.... I really want to STOP doing these things, but I cant - I cant resist. Is there any way out? I've been meditating like year or so, but it havent helped me at all (I dont do it daily, just when Ill have "time").

I've felt such a peace, love and bliss and presence of guru (usually after meditation/listening shabads), but sometimes moment later I might find myself watching porn and "releasing some pressure".

It hurts so much, I know that im doing wrong but I just cant get away from this!!!!

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I also have problem with my family. My family is christians, whole family even my sisters/brothers. My father has been long time pastor aswell.

I've many times wanted to tell them that im really looking foward to be sikh, but everytime Im trying to say something - they start speaking about Jesus. That same Jesus who didnt help me trought depression, cutting and getting away from black metal (For some reason, Ive got myself away from these by reading guru granth sahib/meditating and listening shabads - but still struggling with porn etc...)

Anyway, Id appreciate if you guys would give me some tips, especially on how to stop my addictions.

- Thanks

[HarmanSingh22]

Recite Chaupai sahib with loving devotion and Guru Gobind Singh Ji will take care of everything.

[Guest]

I know why you are.

[username1]

Hi all.

I've recently started feeling such a guilt and anger, because of things I do. I masturbate/watch porn, I am video game addict.... I really want to STOP doing these things, but I cant - I cant resist. Is there any way out? I've been meditating like year or so, but it havent helped me at all (I dont do it daily, just when Ill have "time").

I've felt such a peace, love and bliss and presence of guru (usually after meditation/listening shabads), but sometimes moment later I might find myself watching porn and "releasing some pressure".

It hurts so much, I know that im doing wrong but I just cant get away from this!!!!

------------

I also have problem with my family. My family is christians, whole family even my sisters/brothers. My father has been long time pastor aswell.

I've many times wanted to tell them that im really looking foward to be sikh, but everytime Im trying to say something - they start speaking about Jesus. That same Jesus who didnt help me trought depression, cutting and getting away from black metal (For some reason, Ive got myself away from these by reading guru granth sahib/meditating and listening shabads - but still struggling with porn etc...)

Anyway, Id appreciate if you guys would give me some tips, especially on how to stop my addictions.

- Thanks

Porn addiction is common among all religions regardless it becomes an issue when it stops you from living your life. Then there is the guilt factor which can impede on your mental well being. You got to find balance in life, maybe play more video games to occupy your time. Get more hobbies there are some people with so many hobbies they don't have enough time in the day to pack it all in. Sikhs of the gurus time were doing alot of stuff, farming, fencing, wrestling, horse riding, writing, reading, singing, learning new instruments etc.. Go make some more friends, spend time doing window shopping live life, because life is too short to waste away on masturbating it away.

Physical exhaustion helps, if you are able to do more sports when you are recovering from exercise libido can decrease some studies show it's idleness and weight gain which increases libido. In studies among animals there is a direct correlation between diet and breeding rate. Although that doesn't really answer china and india 2 populations with small people and high breeding rates accurately. Since we live in a fast food culture, food is very present libido is going up for many people. Don't take that as a piece of advice to tire yourself to death, it's all about balance. Finding equilibrium in life is important as is the patience to listen to others speak about jesus or buddha or whatever. It reflects positively on you as a Sikh and more importantly as a human being to have patience to hear out another human.

Like every addiction you need to ween yourself off it, take it down a notch slowly since most addictions can't be stopped directly otherwise you have relapse from withdrawl. Masturbation is a normal feature of being ready to actually have children, but it only reflects on your biological body not your mental and social ability to have children, because you have to provide for them aswell and you probably are not of legal age to be married to become a parent yet. There are many lessons in life to pick up. Gurbani and Sewa are good starting points. Sangat is the best when you are around people who can control their emotions and have great self control you will pick it up as people do in the presence of greatness. You could take up martial arts when you are around a great sensei they will help you deal with these issues through the practice of martial arts.