Jealousy

[Guest jealous freak]

i feel like i'm suffering a problem of jealousy!
I'm a very popular guy, mainly within my wider family.
Reflecting back on myself i feel that sometimes without knowing i get jealous as i want to be the most popular person or the most loved one.
Although i don't do anything to hurt anyone but mentally ill be hoping that everyone likes me the best. I'll do this by not
encouraging anyone to do anything.

i very anxious and frightened by this issue because i dont want it to get out of control and my thoughts become actions (which i know never will
but still the thought worries me)
is there any baani i could recite to help me or any suggestions?

humble request do not mock this post because it takes some balls to admit something like this!

[1ManArmy]

Understand & recite this shabad

ਕਾਨੜਾ ਮਹਲਾ ੫ ॥

Kaanraa, Fifth Mehl:

ਬਿਸਰਿ ਗਈ ਸਭ ਤਾਤਿ ਪਰਾਈ ॥

I have totally forgotten my jealousy of others,

ਜਬ ਤੇ ਸਾਧਸੰਗਤਿ ਮੋਹਿ ਪਾਈ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥

since I found the Saadh Sangat, the Company of the Holy. ||1||Pause||

ਨਾ ਕੋ ਬੈਰੀ ਨਹੀ ਬਿਗਾਨਾ ਸਗਲ ਸੰਗਿ ਹਮ ਕਉ ਬਨਿ ਆਈ ॥੧॥

No one is my enemy, and no one is a stranger. I get along with everyone. ||1||

ਜੋ ਪ੍ਰਭ ਕੀਨੋ ਸੋ ਭਲ ਮਾਨਿਓ ਏਹ ਸੁਮਤਿ ਸਾਧੂ ਤੇ ਪਾਈ ॥੨॥

Whatever God does, I accept that as good. This is the sublime wisdom I have obtained from the Holy.

||2||

ਸਭ ਮਹਿ ਰਵਿ ਰਹਿਆ ਪ੍ਰਭੁ ਏਕੈ ਪੇਖਿ ਪੇਖਿ ਨਾਨਕ ਬਿਗਸਾਈ ॥੩॥੮॥

The One God is pervading in all. Gazing upon Him, beholding Him, Nanak blossoms forth in happiness. ||3||8||

[Questioner]

I think most of us are like this to an extent. My own self reflection has taught me that such jealousy comes from deep insecurity, whereby one tries to seek validation or happiness from others. In reality, we are completely whole, we are one and the same. A deep understanding of your Self and an understanding of your wholeness, and your essential likeness with everyone around you... that should change things.

[Guest Sat]

Its normal.to.be like this if u dont Practice truth. With one theif, all the others come aswell. Practice Gurbani and cure the mental illness that so many suffer from in this Dark age. The time is now because we dont know how long we have on this earth, in a moment, this opportunity to discover truth could end.