Maybe the older generation
but for the younger gen, I don’t think it’s that women ‘try’ to get inbetween, it’s just some women have the expectation that they are marrying only the man, not the whole clan who seem to think they can have their own demands and expectations off the wife eg making all the food. After all, the mother isn’t standing there with the couple doing their laavan. The woman doesnt hold on to the mother inlaws pula either.
I once knew a guy(a Mona). He got a white girl pregnant. She was a good natured girl and compared to him she was really much better looking too. She wanted him to marry her, and she would hang around him during her pregnancy with the hope that he would marry her but he never did. Even the guy's father who was an Amritdhari Singh wanted his son to marry the girl since he didn't want his grand child to be born out of wedlock. But his son was a worthless loser.
These are all Nishanis of Kalyug. An increasing number of children will be born out of wedlock as we are seeing in our lifetime.
The Khalsa Academies Trust (ACT) also have a school in Wolverhampton. It is called "The Khalsa Academy Wolverhampton" (TKAW).
When this school was originally set up as the British Sikh School (BSS), by a local partnership from Walsall, they asked for assistance from the Nick Kandola's academy trust. WHICH WAS THE WORST MISTAKE THEY COULD EVER HAVE MADE.
Kandola's trust took the new BSS into their trust and then putting his people on the board of governors isolated the two partners who were most instrumental in setting up the school. The two were outvoted on everything, the original plan for the school was changed from a Sikh-centric platform to a money-making herd acheivements and results platform.
It went to the extent that the two partners who set up the school weren't even informed of meetings. Rumours about them being spread in the school. Being isolated. They couldn't do anything and found themselves resigning. Which handed over total control to the Khalsa Academy Trust - Nick Kandola.
Who was the main player behind these scenes at the school? Raminder Vig.
After Vig, Mrs Sangha was made head. She disappeared suddenly at the end of one of the terms with no explanation to the children/parents except for "she wishes to spend more time with her family."
Which points at something shady happening/happened, which the school has covered up.
The result was that the Sikh-centric platform was edged out slowly. First Sikhs studies went out, it was moved to an after school slot under the guise of enrichment. Then the days of enrichment went from 5 to 4, to 3 to 2, and now to 1. Sikh studies is not a part of it any more. Gatka and tabla etc are offered but now students have to pay when they were to be offered for free under the scholls original plan.
The school under the 2 partners wanted to teach Sikh philosophy, Sikh music, Sikh literature Sikh martial arts. They had a plan to elevate Sikhs to higher levels of management on a national and international level. But this has ALL gone out of the window under Kandola's group. They never wanted any of this. They just wanted the school itself.
Sadly the Khalsa Acadmeies Trust now have the school . They, masquerading as a Sikh school have turned promising young Sikhs into virtual athiests. There is nothing "Khalsa" - pure about the TKAW. And thats the sad part really. They are no different for Sikh children than any other state school.
The TKAW allowed bibles to be handed out to all its children, yet spent 1 hour on the anniversary of Guru Nanak Dev Ji's birthday to talk about Guru Sahib and his teachings.
He is just making sure he has numbers on his side. Kandola's group has got away with it at wolverhampton. Don't let them get away with it again.
If it's anything like Wolverhampton school there is no Sikhi there to begin with.
The principal at TKAW seems to be the of the same calibre. A yes person.
The guy is not to be trusted beleive me. He is one of the main culprits in denying two people the just accreditation and reward for going through a laborious 3 year program in order to set up the school. He plays the part of a "cheeky chappy fun teacher." It's all an act.
In Wolverhampton the excitement and buzz of having our own school dampened after the first academic year and fizzled out completely in the second. Children going there for years and can't tell you basic things about Sikhi. The two people who set it up, this was the project of their lives, which they had dedicated their future to. To wrest control of it, and turn it into a money-making scheme was just an abominable act.
The churning out of athiestic young Sikhs goes on through this venture.