Masturbation:

[Guest Jacfsing2]

Hello, I wanted to know how someone could control masturbation and lust. I'm currently having this problem and would like to stop.

[Balkaar]

First of all, let me say that I respect you for having the humility to openly confess this problem.

Personally Veerji, I don't think there's much harm in masturbating very occasionally to relieve stress. If you don't then your semen will emerge of its own accord whilst you are asleep, causing some nuisance and a little mess. However if you are masturbating regularly and incorporating pornography, this can be quite detrimental to your well-being.

I used to spend inordinate amounts of time alone in my room watching porn. However I did several things to end this corrosive habit and they were quite effective -

- Leave your bedroom door open. The prospect of my grandmother walking in, beholding ungodly horrors and subsequently succumbing to a fatal heart attack pretty much crushed any of my masturbatory plans.

- Make your room a positive environment. Have a lot of pictures of the Guru Sahibaan, Mahapurakhs or Gursikhs. Keep gutka sahibs and shastars out in the open. By the end of it, the idea of masturbating in your room will seem very, very unappealing.

- Exercise often and hard. It is a good way to dispose of any pent-up energy or frustration.

- Simran and Paath, of course.

I wish you luck.

[Kira]

I'm still a teenager (i suppose haha) so I can feel your pain. What Balkeer bhaji said is pretty spot on. Try and minimize the time you spend alone, Masturbation urges can usually come when someone can be "bored" or have nothing to do. Find a hobby and get submerged into it, going out with friends (good sangat) is also a pretty good way to negate that, rather than wasting your time going looking up porn, perhaps get a start on that really long and tedious work (if you're studying) load.

Music or even better Gurbani can also help with this. Keep yourself distracted from lustful thoughts. Barricading yourself away is by far the worst thing you can do.

I'm not sure how old you are but if you're going into those awkward teenage years, controlling the urge will be a challenge.

[eduardo]

Good exercise and avoid the porn.

It's very tough this time of year what with the heat and all the semi naked female flesh floating around.

Swimming is a good one because the cool of the pool seems to calm me down massively and of course you get more used to seeing semi naked women

without getting excited over every single one of them.

Works for me.

[Guest guptsingh123]

Waheguru Ji

Im going through the same problem. Path, Simran, Seva and Ardaas are the best methods.

Listen to

immortal productions about Shaaheeds

Also Jagowala Jatha have really good stuff check these links out. Soundcloud and the have songs check out this one

Also Bhai Sukha Singh Ji and The SYF have made a shaheed profile playlist

Listening to these, wakes me up about how much time Im wasting.

[S4NGH]

Tell yourself its a homosexual act...should do the trick for you

[MisterrSingh]

Just imagine being married to the object of your lust. That'll put an end to any desire on your part.

I'm joking!!

All of the above posts before mine are great advice. You must be determined to stop... no half-heartedness.

Although in all honesty I think the poor lad started the topic under the assumption it would be anonymous.

[S4NGH]

Just imagine being married to the object of your lust. That'll put an end to any desire on your part.

I'm joking!!

All of the above posts before mine are great advice. You must be determined to stop... no half-heartedness.

Although in all honesty I think the poor lad started the topic under the assumption it would be anonymous.

HAHA the last bit

[eduardo]

HAHA the last bit

Who are you anyway?

[S4NGH]

Who are you anyway?

Tera baap its a filmy dialogue before you get excited