HOW TO CONTROL KAAAAAM!

[SahibMeraEkoHai]

hmmm... those are some tricky questions...

and here's another one...

why would Guru Sahib encourage us to live a gristh jeevan if he knew that we'd eventually have sex and get pleasure from it if he wanted us to completely detach ourselves from it all? and please don't say, "to have kids and make the panth grow! no duh!" because that might be part of the answer, but it doesn't complete it...

bhul chuk maaf

[GuruManeyoGranth]

Found this post on another forum - thought it was excellent.

LUST

LUST or Kam is one of the 5 vikars .( kam,krodh,lobh,moh,hankar)

This whole topic applies to you only if you want to become a true sikh , if not ,ts ok do whatever you want . this is the reality . now read this :

Definition:-Lust is a feeling that is promoted by your mind to taste the bodily pleasures through your eyes, etc and your 10 "indrias". indrias means organs .

which are:

5 sense organs -

eyes,

ears,

nose,

tongue,

skin ,

5 working organs or "karm" indre

tongue

hands

feet

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anus

note:i m gonna be explicit , pardon me if some one is offended. this is a very sophisticated topic that is often neglected .

now when you have lust all of these your organs are involved .

your eyes see the bad things , then ur whole organs respond according to that and you know how they respond .

so in simple words lust means looking at girls or boys with bad feelings in ur mind and then physical touching and relationship to satisfy you r hunger .

In sikhism , Lust is strictly forbidden , .

love

about love i do not know that much . love is just showing how much you appreciate otyhre people and how u long to meet them or talk to them or live with them .

now love i think is a pure feeling . because you love ur mother,father,brother,sister,cousins,uncles,aunts,pets and GURU

ji .

so love is not bad .

but if u say that i love a girl and if u do not think of that girl as ur sister then that is not love because then that becomes ur lust.

Guru Gobind Singh Ji says

" rehni rahe soi sikh mera oh sahib main uska chera

rehit bina neh sikh kahave rehit bina dar chota khave "

meaning :the person who follows my rehit or maryada is my sikh and who does not he has no right to call him a sikh

"rehit pyari mujko sikh pyara nahe"

meaning: guru ji loves sikh's rehat more that the sikh himself

Guru Arjan Den Ji says:

" par triya roop na dekhe netra "

meaning : your eyes should not see the lady who is not your wife "

" eka nari jati hoye par nari dhee bhain vakhane "

"dekh praayiaan changiaan maavaan dheaan bhaina jaane "

meaning: if u see beauti ful faces , those who r of ur age consider them as ur sisters , those who are elder that u consider themas ur mothers and those r very younger than u cosider them as ur daughters .

there r a thousands other tuks from gurbani condemning lust .

so there is no chance u can love a girl before marriage .

And it does not mean that once u r married u can have sex with ur wife 24 hrs . there also u have to control yourself . you have to be jati in your marriage . that's what is called nirlepta in maya .

because when semen comes out your body it takes out a lot of energy and other things that r necessary for advancing in spiritual stages and bhakti .

now here is how u can be jati in ur marriage life :

i would like to give a sakhi from the life of baba nand singh ji .

once baba ji asked a devotee to be jati in his marriage life and upon asking he asked how? then baba ji told him the method .

he said that you can have *** once in a year . if u r still not able to control urself then do it every six months . if still not able to control urself do it once in a month only . if stil

l not able to control urself do it only once in a week on every tuesday night from 11 pm - 1 am . and then the next morning do kesi ishnan.

and if u still not control urself then u r not a sikh and it means u r engrossed in lust . "

u c this is lust . u eveb have to control it once u become married.

lust is a very dangerous thing and be careful from it because it can detroy ur years of hardwork and simran in less than a blink of the eye .it takes away everything from you .

only guru ji can save us from this lust and no on e else can .

Waheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

[palvinder88]

wjkk wjkf....so wht the main thing is tht i wana point out...u cant have a gf?...let say if u have one..but u dn really have any bad thoughts...n maybe u dnt even touch her..is tht ok...?welll i am askin cause i have a gf..but well shes a gursikh..saomething same like me..ahah..well but we dnt touch each others or something..we talk like gud frens..thts all..is tht ok

?

bhul chuke maaf..wjkk wjkf..

[Balait_da_Sher]

KAAM, JUST GET OUTA MY FACE!

(Kaam means lust and is one of the 5 enemies Guru Nanak Jee has told us to fight so we can see God.)

'In the intoxication of youth you stare at another's wife with lust

and are unable to distinguish between good and evil actions.'

(BAINIJI, SRI RAAG : Guru Granth Sahib Jee)

'Lust and anger infest the body, but by meeting the saints both are overcome.'

(GURU IV, GAURI RAAG : Guru Granth Sahib Jee)

Kaam, you want me to eye the lady

Like some kinda pimp, dark and shady,

Kaam , you want me to check her over

Like I'm some kinda classy Casanova,

She may be pretty or she may be ugly,

It makes no difference, she's a sister to me,

So listen Kaam, see my precious life

It belongs to Guru Nanak and my wife.

Kaam, you've corrupted the world,

A man kills his brother because of a girl,

Sun page 3 and the Sunday Sport

Late night films and almost every advert,

Have your unmistakable stamp of sex

And everyone feels the bad effects.

Deep inside almost every man's head

A dangerous fantasy about going to bed

With another man's woman when the man's not in

It's wrong, Guru jee says it's a major sin.

So Kaam, just get outa my face

You know you're a total and utter disgrace,

Guru Nanak jee means much more to me

Than another man's woman in my fantasy,

Kaam , obsession with you makes my mind impure

Mediation on Naam is my one and only cure.

Guru jee's Khalsa will fight you more and more,

We may lose some battles but we will win

the war!

"donno who wrote it"